In life, there are often situations where you come to a new environment, or meet new friends, and always hope that you can quickly integrate into a new circle and be recognized by others.
So, how can you make your wish come true?Here are three things to do.
1. Sincerity
In an unfamiliar situation, the understanding of people first comes through face-to-face. Make your own judgment based on a few subtleties. However, this judgment is often subjective and not necessarily correct. Therefore, if you want others to understand you and leave a good impression, you must first show your sincerity.
Alexandre Dumas once said: "One or two weights of sincerity equals one ton of intelligence." ”Only by showing your sincerity can you gain the trust of others.
My friend Xiao Luo has just been transferred to a new unit as a department manager. Due to his relative youth, some of his older colleagues were visibly unconvinced. Xiao Luo said to his colleagues at the meeting: "I just took over this work, and I want to ask you for advice if I don't understand something, and I hope you can help me correct what is inappropriate." ”
At first, his colleagues were imminent and parted, thinking that what he said was just a passing remark from the leader. When he asks some people about things at work, some people stop talking or simply keep it. Later, he asked some people to discuss the pros and cons of one of his ideas or initiatives, and after the good opinions were adopted, his colleagues gradually changed their opinions about him, and felt that he was really a practical person, with his own ideas and no shelves. Colleagues gradually changed their attitude towards him, took the initiative to report to him when they found problems, and even proposed good solutions.
Xiao Luo used his sincerity to eliminate people's prejudices against him and gain people's respect for him.
Second, take the initiative
Everyone has their own circle of friends. If you want to join someone else's circle of friends, you have to have the spirit of initiative. Take the initiative to express your thoughts and get the attention of others.
Aunt Zhang, a neighbor, once saw some people practicing Xi singing in the park. She was envious and felt that so many people could learn and Xi together, and she was in a happy mood, and it would be great if she could join this group. So, she watched the end of the song practice by the side. Then she went up and talked to them, asking them what time they were singing, who was teaching, and if she could join their singing group as well. Someone recommended her to the tutor. After the tutor tested Aunt Zhang, he felt that she had a good timbre and a strong sense of rhythm, so he recruited her into the singing group. After the teacher's scientific training, Aunt Zhang is now the leader of the singing group.
As the saying goes:"A little initiative can make a lot of luck in your life. ”This sentence speaks to the important role of initiative. If we want to expand our circle of friends, we must take the initiative and not wait for others to come to our door.
3. Strength
As the saying goes, "Like gathers like, and people divide into groups." ”People love to be around great people. If you want to get into the circle of excellent people, you must cultivate your own strength.
Because strength can bring dignity to you. Liu Bei was able to look at the thatched house three times because Zhuge Liang had a majestic strategy that others did not have, so he was recited and valued by others. Cao Cao prefers Guan Yu because Guan Yu has strength. It can be seen that strength can make you recognized and respected by others, and become a potential stock in the eyes of others.
Therefore, if you want to be in the company of excellent people, you can only improve your own strength. When your rank matches someone else's, you can get the attention of others and thus accept you into their circle. As the saying goes, "when you meet an opponent in chess, you will meet a good talent." ”
People are emotional creatures, and when you are sincere, active and powerful, you will quickly integrate into the new circle.