Life is not smooth sailing for anyone. Everybody wants to be big. People who really achieve great things are not only smart themselves, but also well versed in the most basic principles of living in the world. Often, those who can achieve great things must have qualities that ordinary people can't reach.
Whether a person can achieve great things, in fact, in many cases, after observing some of the person's performance, we can see clues, and gradually, in the process of this person's growth, we will continue to discover their characteristics.
Since ancient times, people with a big pattern have achieved great things, and those who have achieved great things have the following three characteristics:
One: Speak slowly
The ancients said: "If the water is deep, the flow will be slow, and if the language is late, the person will be expensive." ”
That's a great thing to say. Like the depth of water, it flows slowly, and the slowness of words also shows the dignity of man. Words are the windows of the soul, and the speed of speech, the logic of expression, and the way of asking questions can often reflect a person's inner world. As the saying goes, sometimes we are so eager to express ourselves that we lose sight of the impact behind our words.
When some people hear voices that are contrary to their own views, they are impatient to refute them, trying to gain the upper hand in the battle of words. However, such short-term victories may bring momentary pleasure and in the long run, but in the long run, the gains outweigh the losses. It can hinder our growth and narrow our horizons to the wider world.
Therefore, the richer and richer the person, the slower they will speak, because they know that things are complicated, and only by waiting and seeing the whole picture clearly can they make a correct judgment.
Two: Sexual softness
Lao Tzu said, "Goodness is like water." Water is good for all things without fighting, and it is evil for everyone, so it is more than the Tao. ”
Water is all-encompassing, it accepts all living things, big and small, strong or weak. It nourishes all things, but does not expect anything in return.
At the same time, water has the quality of adapting to everything. No matter what shape the container is, the water adapts and fills it. No matter what the terrain, the water can flow through. This kind of conformity and tolerance is also the characteristic of what Lao Tzu considers to be "Tao".
Therefore, Lao Tzu's "goodness is like water" is not only a praise for water, but also a praise for "Tao". He hopes that we can be like water, with the qualities of tolerance and dedication, so that we can truly reach the realm of "Tao".
A person's embarrassment when he is dilapidated is often caused by the soaring and domineering scenery when he is in dilapidation;On the contrary, those who can turn things around even if they fail are often due to the fact that they "benefit all things" in times of prosperity and accumulate good fortune for themselves.
The Tao Te Ching says:"The softest in the world, the strongest in the world. "
If you are too tough, you can only succeed for a while, and you can only last a long time if you know how to defend yourself.
Three: Dehou
"Small victories rely on wisdom, and big victories rely on virtue. "
Some people think they are smart, so they look for loopholes in an attempt to profit from them.
They may be short-lived successes, but they are complacent, even secretly laughing at those who are honest and dutiful. However, if they repeatedly lack humility, they will only end up putting themselves in a desperate situation.
People who really have a big picture will always have a sense of reverence for everything. They know very well that Houde can not only carry all things, but also carry themselves in the end.
Life in the world is like a long river flowing into the sea.
What determines the outcome is never the gains and losses of each pass and the profit and loss of every inch, but the flood of rivers gathered.
There is still a long way to go, you don't have to panic, your steps must be firm, your heart must be calm, and you will take care of your energy, and all good things will happen slowly.