Introduction:
Time flies. Over the course of time, we may understand something. Especially when we enter old age and our children grow up and leave us to pursue their own lives and dreams, we will deeply understand the true meaning of "it is better to have a pillow person than a family with ten thousand gold".
In today's society, many elderly people are deeply aware of this. When the children have left home and started their own family life, we begin to face the empty house alone, and the loneliness and helplessness are indescribable. Especially when our body begins to feel uncomfortable and our mobility becomes inconvenient, the feeling of needing love and help cannot be concealed.
However, children's lives are also fast-paced, and they are so busy with work and taking care of their families that they often can't spare enough time to spend with us. Those with good family conditions may hire a live-in nanny to take care of us, but what should we do with those with poor family conditions?Can we only endure this loneliness and helplessness in silence?
Therefore, I think that for the elderly, finding a wife is the best choice. Husbands and wives can not only take care of each other and support each other in life, but also comfort each other spiritually and accompany each other. They can share the bits and pieces of life together, spend their old age together, make life no longer lonely, and let their hearts be comforted.
On the afternoon of the 23rd, the sun poured into the room through the window, giving a warm glow to this upcoming story. Uncle Zhang, 65 years old, sat alone on the sofa, waiting for his blind date, 60-year-old Aunt Chen.
The blind date went unexpectedly well, and the two talked happily as if they had known each other for a long time. As it got late, Uncle Zhang looked at Aunt Chen, and a surge of courage surged in his heart, and he plucked up the courage to say, "Don't go back tonight, stay with me." ”
Uncle Zhang thought that his remarks would be rejected, after all, such an invitation is still a bit abrupt at this age. However, Aunt Chen's reaction was beyond his expectations, and she actually cried. I gladly agreed, Uncle Zhang, to stay here tonight.
Looking at Aunt Chen's tears, Uncle Zhang was a little flustered, and he hurriedly comforted: "What's wrong, did I say something wrong?"”
Aunt Chen blew her nose, looked at Uncle Zhang, and said in a choked voice: The truth is really eye-opening!
Aunt Chen's statement:
As an old man in his 60s, I used to have a happy family, a pair of children and a deceased partner. Ten years ago, my wife passed away, and on her deathbed, she told me to live alone and not to cause trouble for my children. Following her last wishes, I have been living alone.
Two years ago, my daughter-in-law gave birth to their second child, and I didn't hesitate to agree to take care of them. So, I moved to my son's house and was busy taking care of this newborn little life every day. My daughter also comes to visit me when she has time, which is very comforting.
In this way, I took care of this child from morning till night every day, watching him grow up day by day.
I have put my heart and soul into this family and watched my grandson grow up. However, when my grandson was in the first grade of elementary school, my daughter-in-law's words implied that my grandson had grown up and no longer needed my care, and that I should return to my hometown.
Two days later, my daughter-in-law gave me some hints at this time, letting me know that my grandson had grown up and no longer needed me to take care of him. There was no gratitude in her words, but I could hear the meaning of her words.
I knew I should go back to my hometown. I've been living here for a long time, but the focus of my life has shifted to my grandson, who has now started his own life and is a bit uncomfortable.
I, an old lady who has been busy in the city for half my life, was finally taken back to my rural hometown by my son and daughter-in-law. My son's worried gaze and my daughter-in-law's expression of wanting to speak and stopping all made me know that they were worried that it would be inconvenient for me to return to the countryside at my age.
Actually, I myself was not full of apprehension. After all, I haven't been back to this place in many years. Faces that were once familiar are now unfamiliar;Those friends who used to talk about everything may now be strangers. When I think about this, I can't help but feel a little desolate.
However, I knew I couldn't just walk on my laurels. My daughter-in-law has been tactfully urging me twice, and my son is worried that my life here will be difficult. And I, how can I let my son worry about me again?Although my heart was full of contradictions, reason told me that I had to face reality.
That day, my son and daughter-in-law began to discuss my whereabouts again. The son said, "Mom, you are here, let's stay a few more days."
The daughter-in-law also echoed and said a few words of comfort, then stopped talking and went back to the house to play with her mobile phone.
Listening to their comfort, I felt very uncomfortable.
I know that my son is all for my good, but I can't do what my son wants. I whispered, "I know you're all for my good, but I know in my heart that my daughter-in-law has urged me twice to let me go back to my hometown, and I don't want my son to worry about me anymore." I'm a thin-skinned person, and I don't want people to say me a third time. ”
In this way, amid the worries and reluctance of my son and daughter-in-law, I embarked on the road back to my hometown. I know that this path, although full of unknowns, is my final destination.
So, at 9 o'clock the next morning, I chose to go back to my hometown. I bought a bus ticket back to my hometown, and my son took me to buy a lot of daily necessities so that I could live in my hometown for a long time, and told me that if I lacked something, he would mail it over.
In this way, I was very nervous when I got on the bus, and I didn't know what my future life would be like. After driving for three hours, the car finally arrived at my hometown in the countryside. I started tidying up my house, but after a month back in my hometown, I felt uncomfortable and couldn't do anything.
The neighbors saw that I was not bad in nature and were willing to make friends with me. When I had nothing to do, I often went to their house to sit and gradually got used to life here. Although there are still many places that I am not used to, I believe that over time, I will better integrate into this environment and live my own rural life.
Ever since I left my hometown's vegetable garden, it has gradually fallen into disuse. Seeing what was once a vibrant vegetable patch become overgrown with weeds, I decided to reclaim a vegetable patch and solve my own food problems. Although life is quite good, I often feel lonely inside.
My daughter works in the city and only comes back to visit me once during the holidays, about once every two months, to bring me some necessities. And my son rarely goes back to his hometown, and only gives me a ** greeting during the holidays. Still, I know they're busy with their lives and try not to bother them.
In the blink of an eye, the end of the year is approaching, and I thought that my children would go home for the New Year. For this reunion dinner, I prepared rich dishes in advance. But when the Chinese New Year was approaching, I called ** to ask when they would come, but I learned that my son decided to go to his in-laws' house for the New Year this year and would not come back.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, it is the New Year. This New Year, the daughter took her son-in-law and grandson back to her father-in-law's house, and she hasn't come back for the New Year for several years. Looking at the empty hometown, I have mixed feelings in my heart.
When other people's homes celebrate the New Year, they are all lively scenes, with brilliant lights and laughter. And I don't even have the heart to post couplets, for me, the Chinese New Year is a reunion. This year, however, I was alone. Watching the excitement of other people's homes, I feel lonely and lonely in my heart, and sometimes I even want to cry.
In the dead of night, I always think of my deceased wife, and I can't express the feelings of longing in my heart. I have no appetite for eating, but I have no appetite for a table of dishes. Every now and then, I burst into tears and think about the time we spent together.
Days like this went on for a few days and I started to have problems with my body. His face became sallow, and his weight had dropped a lot. On the third day of the Lunar New Year, I was really unwell, and my neighbor saw that my house did not turn on the lights on the night of the Chinese New Year, so he came to my house to have a look. Seeing my face, he quickly took me to the hospital.
In the hospital, I knew I needed to adjust my mindset and face reality. My daughter is older and has her own family, so I should go to my father-in-law's house for the New Year. I can't allow myself to be immersed in sadness, I have to be strong in life. If my wife were alive, she would have wanted me to be happy.
My daughter knew the cause and effect, and said that she would take me to live in their house, but I knew in my heart that my children would have to take care of my parents-in-law, and I couldn't squeeze in when I went, and it was too inconvenient to trouble my daughter, so I refused.
My life has been lonely and silent since my old man was gone for so many years. My children were busy with work and didn't have time to take care of me, which made me feel lonely. Sister Wang, a neighbor, is a warm-hearted person, she sees it in her eyes and is anxious in her heart, so she persuaded me to find a wife, which will not only give me a place to rely on, but also let my children worry.
Sister Wang introduced me to several candidates for my wife, but I didn't like them. They either have too sloppy habits or incompatible personalities, in short, none of them can make my heart move. Until one day, Sister Wang told me that her distant relative, Brother Chen, might be a suitable candidate. Brother Chen is a retired teacher with a pension, although he is a little inconvenient to walk and needs crutches, but he is an honest person, a gentle personality, and a trustworthy person.
When I heard this, my heart was moved. Although Brother Chen has a leg disease, he has a pension, which is undoubtedly a kind of life guarantee for me. So, I promised Sister Wang to meet Brother Chen.
After meeting Brother Chen, I found that he is indeed a trustworthy person. His elegant conversation and integrity made me feel good about him. Although his leg disease worries me a little, I know that it will not affect the quality of our lives. He can understand my predicament, and I can understand his difficulties.
My acquaintance with Brother Chen is like a well-choreographed movie, and every plot is full of drama and surprises. That day, we spent a pleasant noon in such an atmosphere, chatting and having a good time.
Brother Chen was a warm and generous person, he offered to take us to the restaurant for dinner, and I became his companion. The taste of that restaurant is really good, and all these expenses are borne by Brother Chen alone, a total of more than 300 yuan. This gave me a deeper understanding of Brother Chen's generosity and generosity.
After dinner, we went to Brother Chen's house. He lives in a building on the first floor, which is clean and peaceful. At this time, Sister Wang found an excuse to leave, leaving the two of us to chat alone. I spent some time at Brother Chen's house, enjoying this rare tranquility and privacy.
Brother Chen is a teacher, he is very eloquent, and the topic between us is very close. That day, we talked a lot, from life trivialities to life philosophy. In this way, we ushered in the dark evening in a pleasant conversation.
Brother Chen told me that when he was home alone, he often cooked for himself. He invited me to try his hand at his craft, and I was impressed by his ability to clean the house and cook his own meals despite his leg problems and limited mobility.
Although I have not known Brother Chen for a long time, I have been impressed by his enthusiasm, generosity, eloquence, tenacity and self-reliance. I thought, that's life
It was late at night, and after dinner, we suddenly started to rain heavily, and it was really heavy. Brother Chen looked at the rain outside and said to me, "It's raining so hard, or you should stay overnight." His words surprised me a little, but looking at his sincere eyes, I sensed that he had no malicious intent.
Brother Chen may also feel that what he said just now was a bit abrupt, so he added: "I live on the sofa, and you live on the bed." I thought about it for a while and felt that Brother Chen had no malicious intent, so I agreed to his proposal. Brother Chen seemed a little surprised by this, but soon went back to getting busy.
He opened a new toothpaste and a toothbrush, told me that the toiletries were in the bathroom, and then made the bed for me. Looking at his busy figure, a warm current welled up in my heart, and my good impression of him also increased.
When I woke up the next day, he had already cooked porridge for me. I looked at his thick porridge and felt very warm in my heart. I think that with such a person who loves me and has a pension to live in, we should live a very happy life.
In this way, we dated for half a year, and then got married. The stay on that rainy night seemed to be arranged by fate, allowing us to meet and fall in love, and finally come together. Our lives, though ordinary, are full of love and warmth. It all started with the rainy night's stay.
When we are old, our wife has passed away, the family does not have the financial means to hire a nanny, and our daughter is too busy with work to take care of us, at this time, finding a wife becomes the best choice for ourselves to avoid feeling lonely for a long time.
In China, with the aging of the population, many families are facing a similar dilemma. As we get older, our friends and relatives are gradually leaving, especially the death of our wife, which brings a huge emptiness to our later life. At this time, if the family conditions do not allow for a nanny, how should we face loneliness and spend our old age?
First of all, we need to recognize that finding a partner is not an easy task. This requires us to step out of our comfort zone and take the initiative to meet new people and get to know each other. In this process, we can participate in various social activities, such as interest groups, universities for the elderly, etc., to make like-minded friends and enrich our lives. In addition, we can also use the online platform to find partners with whom we have common topics, and gradually build deep friendships.
Secondly, we must learn to cherish the time we spend with our new and old partners. In this process, we should try to maintain a young mindset and give love and understanding to our new and old partners. At the same time, we must also learn to respect each other's habits and privacy, and give each other enough space. Only in this way can we live in harmony with our new and old spouses and spend a wonderful old age together.
Finally, we need to realize that looking for a partner is not just to relieve loneliness, but also to support each other and tide over the storm together. Therefore, in the process of finding a partner, we should pay attention to the quality and character of the other person, and look for a partner who can truly spend the rest of our lives hand in hand.
In short, when we are old, our wife has passed away, the family has no financial conditions to hire a nanny, and our daughter is busy with work, finding a wife becomes the best choice for ourselves. By taking the initiative to meet new people, cherish the time we spend together, and focus on quality and character, we can find a suitable partner to spend a wonderful old age with. In this process, we are no longer afraid of loneliness, but bravely face life and cherish every moment.