At noon, when I swiped the circle of friends, I swiped the news of my son's first birthday posted by my classmates, and I was envious. When I first looked through the articles I had written before, I saw a letter written seven years ago to my future daughter, and I took it out and shared it with everyone.
At this time, I am 27 years old, with beautiful expectations for love and marriage, I write this letter--- I would like to give this letter as a first gift to my future daughter.
Dear Ziya:
Hello my baby girl!Today is the first time we have met, and after a long time of looking forward to it, you have finally come to take me to the world. Dad has fantasized countless times about how cute you were born, and countless times he has calculated the time of your birth. Over and over again, I have simulated the mood and expression I should have had when you were born, excited, excited, or overjoyed. This scene has been repeated countless times in my mind, but at this moment, seeing your mother lying on the bed full of exhaustion, I am instantly at a loss;Looking at you crying in your hands, I became six gods and no master. You are a first-time woman, and I am also a first-time father, and it is only now that I realize that all the previous drills have been in vain.
Azya is the name I gave you, and I hope you don't think it's old-fashioned. "Mingli and integrity, Accord poems" This is the name I chose for my child at the beginning, and the son follows the mother's surname and the daughter's father's surname. Dad was not a feudal man, and he didn't have a strong idea of heirlooms. I've always been rebellious and unconventionalYou don't know that I chase your mother, and it's not easy to marry your mother. When I married your mother, I made up my mind that my future children must have a surname to follow her. As for why it's a male mother and a female father, there is actually a little bit of selfishness in this;It is said that the daughter is the lover of the father's last life, and the intimate little padded jacket of the father, I hope that you can bring me happiness and joy in the future. At the same time, I also hope that my mother can have two shoulders to rely on for the rest of her life, and in the future, you will be responsible for growing up gracefully with your mother, and my brother and I will make money to support your family and accompany you to the end of the world.
"Mingli and integrity" is the school motto of Dad's college students, Dad hopes that you can remember and stick to these four words on the road of life growth, "Accord Poetry Book" is Dad's lifelong pursuit, I hope you can continue my dream and continue to move forward. I hope that in the future, you will treat me as a friend in your life, and don't have too much fear and fear of me. I hope you can think a little more of your own, grow up in the way you like, live your life the way you want it, and be able to think independently and solve problems properly. At the same time, I also have four aspects of thinking to share with you. I hope you get a little bit of inspiration from it, and of course I'm very happy if you can accept it all.
1. On education.
For many years, I have been thinking about how I should educate my children. Dad hated the current unchanged pedantic education model, according to the script, the score first;Under the slogan of all-round development, children are enrolled in various tutoring classes, and it is also said that children will not lose at the starting line. If I could, I would like you to learn Xi life like this;It is not necessary to attend nine years of compulsory education. Compared with the Xi of traditional subjects in public schools, I prefer classical education, and I also hope that you can enter a private school to learn Xi poetry, calligraphy, etiquette, music, Xi piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and be familiar with classic literature such as "Zengguang Xianwen" and "Kindergarten Qionglin", "Three Character Classic" and other classic literature, and understand the truth of living in the world. I don't want you to live in the metropolis until you are 12 years old, I hope you can spend a full childhood in the countryside, up and down the mountains and rivers, fishing and shrimp, picking flowers and fruits, here you can do everything you want to do by your temperament, I will not care about you, I will just kindly remind you to pay attention to safety. I don't force you to work from 9 to 5, you can read for four days and then play happily for three days, you have to learn to distinguish all kinds of flowers and trees, try to taste the taste of all kinds of wild fruits, I hope you can enjoy the feeling of chatting with grandparents in the countryside, when the uncle in the countryside is working in the fields, I hope you can also follow the day after tomorrow, I hope you know how to live in harmony with nature since you were a child, love nature, be naturally active, full of curiosity about the world, and respect life.
2. About life.
I don't know if you will be like me in the future, you have a heart to fight the world and walk the rivers and lakes since you were a child. If I can, I want to teach you to read and Xi martial arts, so that you can move easily between Yangchun Baixue and the Lower Riba people, and be indifferent in the middle of the three teachings and nine streams. Since I was a child, I will ask your uncles and brothers, my fellow disciples and brothers to teach you a few self-defense techniques, women's self-defense, taekwondo, tai chi, long boxing, knives, guns and sticks, you can practice according to your own temperament, I hope that in the future, you will have enough ability to protect yourself no matter what you set foot in. I don't expect you to stay honestly in the pavilion and be a fair lady, I just hope that you can wander in all directions, see thousands of mountains and rivers, read thousands of sails, and never forget your heart. Of course, the necessary skills of life are also indispensable, chopping wood, boiling water, cooking, washing clothes, I hope you can solve these problems independently since you were a child, I will not treat you as a rich daughter to cultivate Dad, I just hope that you are an ordinary peasant girl who can no longer be ordinary, with a kind, simple, hard-working and humble character. You can go to any kind of life you want, I will never intervene, when you have the ability to go to the end of the world alone, I will let go of the line in my hand and let you fly freely.
3. About love.
When you are young and sunny, I hope you can be brave to try. When you meet someone you like, you can be bold to chase, you can not be reserved, but you must be brave for the love in your heart. Laugh when you're happy, cry when you're unhappy;You can try your best, but don't kill yourself. If you like it, you will love, if you don't love it, you will let it go decisively, and be a free and easy person;You can be amorous but please don't be nasty**, you can do whatever you want but please don't be unreasonable. I don't want you to be trapped by the world, disturbed by metrics, have the ability to pursue the person you love, and have the perseverance to love the resolute and thorough;Don't mess with your heart, don't be trapped in love, love for love, and stick to your heart.
Fourth, about the family.
Your mother and I will not use "your parents are not far away" and "there are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is the greatest" to bind you, so you can fly forward as much as you like without any worries. There is no need to worry about "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait". I gave you enough fatherly love when you were young, and you brought me a lot of joy and joy. In this life, we don't owe each other, and the sense of ritual that should be given is the same, and we are fortunate to meet you in three lives. But all of us come to this world alone, aging, death is inevitable, so we can only face it calmly. As for my old age with your mother, you don't have to worry about it at all;When I retire, I will take her to enjoy the flowers and grass, sing to the moon, travel to places we have not set foot in this life, and maybe continue our backpacking journey like when I was younger. Dad has never been a machismo, and I hope that you will not be willful when you start your own family in the future. Make an upper hall, lower kitchen. A girl with wine in her hands and a story in her heart.
Ziya, so please grow savagely!Thousands of mountains and rivers are waiting for you to set foot on, and thousands of interesting souls are waiting for you to meet. Let's toss desperately!Let's run unrestrained!Be the ultimate self and grow up carefree!
Now 6 years have passed, and people around me have come and gone, but I have never met anyone who can make my soul throb and eat with the same taste. My relatives and friends around me are all married and have children, leaving me with only hesitation and anxiety.