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Between men and women, the most taboo thing is that when they can't develop into a romantic relationship, they keep sticking together, and in the end they can't even make friends.
There are a lot of spare tires, self-righteous and affectionate, which can actually be a burden to others.
As psychologist Professor Roland Miller says in his book Intimacy:
When people reject others, they are under more psychological pressure than they are to accept them.
Therefore, no matter how old a man or woman is, in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, they must be "sensible". This is what high emotional intelligence looks like.
There is a hot search question: The person you like doesn't like you, should you continue to pursue it?
Teacher Luo Xiang said: You said that others don't like you, why do you want to chase you, do you want to be shameless?People should be dignified, and when others don't like you or reject you, don't chase after you. If you really love that person, learn to respect them.
Therefore, if the other party refuses to be a lover with you, you must know how to leave with the most proud attitude, instead of crying and making jokes like a child who can't get a toy.
In fact, how many people have a rebellious mentality, the more they pursue TA, the more low-key, and the more they don't cherish TA.
But if you understand the "abandoned cat effect" in psychology, you may have better results.
Yu Wenwen's "Decent" has a particularly good lyric:
Break up with dignity, and no one should say sorry. No matter how much I owe, I dare to break my heart.
There are many young and middle-aged men and women who do a lot for each other when they pursue the opposite sex, especially the upper position.
When you can earn 10,000 yuan a month, you can spend 9,000 yuan on the other person.
But later, they felt unworthy and even wondered why they would fall in love with such a person
You'll even talk about what you did for that person and want to get it back. In fact, this is also a very ** practice.
It is said that after a breakup, look at the character, if two people can't be together, don't deliberately smear others.
But there are also self-centered people who think that if they don't get it, they have to destroy it.
As a result, they come across as extremely selfish and unprincipled people.
Writer Su Cen said: The best way to love someone is to manage yourself well and give each other a high-quality lover.
There must be a reason for being rejected in love, such as feeling that you don't have enough financial strength;The character is not good enough;or the family of origin is incomplete;Let's wait.
These things, don't put them on the table to say, spare tires to know. Unfortunately, many people have an unwilling mentality and will pester each other to ask:
I'm not good enough?"Why did you choose someone else over me?”
The result was an awkward mess and a disappointment for both sides.
Smart people, after being rejected by the opposite sex, do not blame the other person, but find the reason from themselves.
As the writer Lin Qingxuan said: Look at the world with the eyes of gratitude, and look at yourself with the eyes of shame.
When you become a better version of yourself, you can enjoy the beauty of "If you bloom, the breeze comes".