Remarriage is an important node in life, tooMarriageimportant process, however for 57 years oldAuntieOn the first night of remarriage, there was a farce. The story stems from my aunt's best friend, whose new husband is a retired teacher who is only 62 years old and looks polite and young. Their wedding ceremony was perfect, and when they returned to their new house, they fell out in the cave room. AuntieWhen I called my aunt that night, there was a tremor of crying in his tone, saying that he threw the door away with anger and would do it tomorrowDivorce proceedings。This sudden incident shocked and confused both my aunt and me, and we immediately decided to comfort her and help her with the problem.
AuntieI was confused about the whole situation for a while, she saidWeddingsAfter that, we were all very happy. He made a special supper for me, and the two of us happily enjoyed it together. However, as soon as he came up, he wanted itKiss me。I don't know what's wrong, but a special disgust and disgust rises in my heart. I pushed his face away and told him he couldn't kiss me on the mouth. But he didn't listen, and came over again. I pushed it away again and went through it twice. He began to ask me impatiently what the hell was going on. I told him I hated it when people kissed me on the mouth. I don't hate him as a person, it's just that I hate people kissing me on the mouth. After that, he was silent for a while, and then said to me why I should marry him since I hated him. I replied that I didn't hate him, I just hated people kissing me on the mouth. Then he said a lot of nasty things, saying that it was tantamount to insulting a man. In the end, he put on his clothes and threw the door away, saying that he was going to live in a hotel and asked me to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow to handle itDivorce proceedings。We were dumbfounded, and although we were women, it was the first time we had heard of such a situation. We can only try to dissuade her from doing stupid things and tell her that we will do our best to help her solve the problem.
That night, I drove with my other girlfriend to comfort meAuntie。We tried our best to calm her emotions and enlighten her. YetAuntieShe insisted that as a wife, she would do her duty, but she would never allow to be kissed, and she hated to be kissed. She thinks that as a knowledgeable person, she should be respected, and now she can't accept this reality, she feels that this is her bottom line. Her new husband, on the other hand, insisted that hating and refusing to kiss was an insult to his personality, an insult to his personality, and that he could not accept that his wife did not love him and disliked him. The positions of the two sides are different, and as outsiders, it is inconvenient for us to accuse who is right and who is wrong.
We tried to mediate for the next few days, but nothing came of it. AuntieStill sticking to her opinion, believing that the inability to accept a kiss is based on her principles. And her husband insisted that without kissing means that there is no love, there can be no happinessMarriage。They eventually chose to break up.
This story made me think deeplyMarriageThere is no such thing as a right or wrong. Only mutual understanding and tolerance can resolve the crisis. As a man, you should be more understanding and caring for second-married women, because they have more psychological and physical obstacles. Men should use their hearts to resolve the dilemma and influence them with loveAuntie, so that she gradually accepts his love. A person should not be easily defined by love and unlove. Love is a complex synthesis of the concept of second marriageMarriageIt is more necessary to run in and understand each other. As long as two hearts fuse together, any problem can be overcome.
As a woman, I thinkAuntieGreater responsibility was taken in this matter. MarriageIt is a kind of acceptance and devotion, and the kiss is not only a symbol of romance, but also a manifestation of physical and psychological needs. Hating kisses means not fully accepting the person from the bottom of your heart. I think women, especially those who are going through a second marriage, should be psychologically and physically prepared to adapt and not enter easilyMarriage。Second marriageMarriageis more fragile in itself. Back toAuntieIn the story, she can tactfully tell her husband to give her some time to adjust, after all, they have only just been married. I'm sure this gentleman will understand this advice as well. In fact, people's hearts change, and as she said, what is not acceptable today may be acceptable tomorrow. In the end, regardless of who is right and who is wrong, I think this whole incident is exaggerated and also makes this paragraphMarriageGot bogged down. I thinkMarriageIt is a kind of practice, not only to cherish the fate of walking with each other, but also to understand and respect each other, which is the best way to practice.
Personally, I don't think one is more responsible than the other for the two parties involved in this story. Everyone has their own bottom line and principles, and this bottom line and principles will not necessarily be understood and accepted by the other party. MarriageIt is a journey of life, and everyone has their own definition and way of pursuing happiness. Although we can persuade and not persuade to divide, the final decision lies with the parties themselves.
InMarriageBoth parties should listen to each other and understand each other's needs, and give each other enough space and respect. Some things may not be easily changed, but a balanced solution can be found through communication and compromise. MarriageIt requires joint efforts and dedication from both sides, rather than giving up and blaming.
For the two people involved in this story, I hope that they can take some lessons and reflections from them, and re-examine their own values and rightnessMarriageof anticipation. At the same time, I hope that they can learn to be more tolerant and tolerant of each other, and to feel and express love with their hearts. MarriageIt is a spiritual practice, in which we need to learn to let go of ourselves, take into account each other's feelings, and work together to create a family of mutual understanding and respect.