It has been said that a home is like a building, made up of a single pillar and countless small pillars. And the pillar is none other than his parents. They are the founders of the family and have 100% control over the family. However, when the parents leave, the stability and harmony of the family may be broken, and the relationship between siblings will be tested. Against this backdrop, for siblings, we need to rethink whether it is necessary to continue to do something after our parents are gone.
Parents have always been the "middlemen" between siblings, and their presence allows us to confide in each other and tolerate each other all the time. However, when our parents are not around, we may fight over the entanglement of interests. It is often said that "in the face of interests, all feelings are fictitious". Sibling disputes are likely to stem from the distribution of monetary benefits, which will lead to the breakdown of the relationship and indifference. At this time, we need to throw away the burden of "interests" and no longer obsess over the ownership of the inheritance, but face the relationship between brothers and sisters with an attitude of equality and mutual understanding. Only in this way can we avoid long-term disputes and make the relationship between siblings more harmonious.
In addition to the issue of interests, the intimacy between siblings is also an issue that needs to be reconsidered. We often maintain close relationships with our siblings while our parents are still alive, and this is because of the presence of our parentsAffectionprotection. However, when the parents leave, this kindIntimacyMay become vulnerable. The harmony between siblings is closely dependent on the pursuit of each person's interests and personal desires. It is precisely because everyone has their own interests and desires that conflicts between siblings are unavoidable on some key issues. Therefore, we need to know how to maintain a moderate amount of interaction between siblingsAffection, and don't blindly give, and let yourself fall into needless strife and pain.
Another burden that needs to be left behind is blind giving. Siblings often borrow money from each other, but when this borrowing relationship is out of control, it can be a heavy burden for one partner and a fluke mentality for the other. At this time, we need to learn to protect ourselves and not give blindly. We should clearly agree on when and how to repay the loan before borrowing money to avoid disputes and conflicts in the future. At the same time, we should also learn to say "no" and not be too kind, otherwise it will only make others more and more inched. Only by protecting ourselves can we truly help our brothers and sisters who deserve help.
In addition, we need to drop the pairAffectionofStereotypesSocialThere is often an expectation of intimacy and harmony between siblings, and no contradictions and conflicts are allowed. However, in real life, people are not perfectly compatible with each other. Just as we need to make our own choices in front of our parents, we should also retain our ability to think and judge independently between siblings. If we completely abandon ourselves among our brothers and sisters, just to satisfy oneStereotypesAffection, then we will not be able to achieve true harmony and freedom. We should learn to have our own ideas when facing the opinions of our brothers and sisters, and not blindly obey them. Only in this way can we remain healthy and equalAffectionRelationship.
Finally, looking back at the purpose of these strategies, the goal of leaving these burdens behind is not to draw a line with siblings, but to be able to handle sibling relationships more sensibly after their parents leave. We need to think in a bigger picture and build a more equal and respectful brotherhood and sisterhood. We can avoid disputes over money by throwing away the burden of "interests"; Leave behind the baggage of "intimacy", keep a moderate amount of contact, and don't expect too muchAffectionthe maintenance of the relationship; Throw away the burden of "blind giving" and protect your own interests and rights; Leave behind the burden of "stereotype" and retain your ability to think and judge independently. Only in this way can we build a truly harmonious, equal and respectful relationship between brothers and sisters.