Being a parent is really the hardest thing in the world :
The French thinker Rousseau once said: "Give children more real freedom, let them do more on their own, and do less for them." In this way, they can develop the Xi of limiting their desires to what they can do early. ”
If the best growth is selfWhen I grow up, the best control is self-control, so guiding children to learn to think independently and make independent decisions is undoubtedly the first step in family education. Today, most parents are aware of this, but more of the scenario is:
Difficult to communicate emotionally:Some parents want to be friends with their children, but in the end they find that it requires not only a change of concept, but also a lot of patience and ability. And this ability not only needs to be learned Xi, but also needs to be constantly cultivated in the process of communicating with children.
It is difficult to cultivate ability:Some parents, know"Standard answer"stifles the child's nature and wants to share his knowledge, experience, and thinking with the child, but every time he opens his mouth, he is scolded back by the child's sentence "I have been irrigated by the teacher at school for a day, and I have to be irrigated again when I get home";EducationCultivateDifficult:Some parents very much agree that "the greatest education is to grow together with their children", but the reality is that "children are growing, parents are stagnating, and soon become the ceiling of children's growth";The best parent-child relationship: Parents and children grow togetherThe relationship between good parents and children can never be one-way - it is not the father's one-way material support for the child, nor is it the father's coercion in the name of love, but a two-way relationship that needs to be operated by the father and the child together.
In this two-way parent-child relationship, growth is a matter for the child, and what parents need to do is not to provide for a one-way degree, not to design a good life for the child, nor to teach the child to prepare for the upcoming life. On the contrary, parental education is life itself.
As Zhao Hongyun, the author of the book "Dad and Child", said: "Exploring the world with children, every exchange of thoughts and spirits is a growth, which is the child's childhood and the father's childhood, and the child's growth is not the end, or even the beginning of the end, but the end of the beginning." "There's a little section in the book where the dad takes the kid to fly a kite
The child asked, "Why can't this kite fly?"
Dad said it was the kite string that broke. The force of the wind is too great, and the pull force generated by the line also increases. The thread couldn't bear it, so it broke.
The child asked, "Is it because the wind is too strong?"
Dad said, it seems to be, but it's not. YesBecause kites do not have the ability to fly independently. Because it depends on the line, it can't fly higher;Because they depend on the wind, they will be blown down from the sky by the wind. ”
There is also a story in the book about a child reading a tortoise and a hare race - the child is very unconvinced that the hare loses. It is said that if you run a longer distance, even if the rabbit sleeps, it may not be able to outrun the tortoise.
Dad didn't instill in the child the standard answer to the story - the little rabbit didn't do things seriously and lost the game, but continued to inspire the child according to the child's imagination, saying:
You're right. In my opinion, rabbits should not be allowed to race against tortoises at all. Because, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Running is the strength of the rabbit;Swimming is the strength of the tortoise. So, it's not fair to let the tortoise race against the rabbit. Conversely, it would be just as unfair to have a rabbit and a tortoise swim in a competition. ”
Inspiring a child's thinking ability is not only a boundless imagination, but should be explained in simple terms according to his age characteristics and knowledge and experience.
Many parents have experienced such a scene, and every child has asked such questions when they were young. But this is the first time I have seen such an answer from this set of books. Flipping through the three books of "Dad and Child", almost all of them are in such a real scene, the child asks curiously again and again, and the father tells the child the mysteries of the natural world again and again, and at the same time, he opens a philosophical journey full of humanistic spirit for the child. Poetic and timeless words can be found everywhere in the book
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