Everything is charming, continue to update high-quality emotional articles, including book recommendations and psychological knowledge, thank you for your attention.
Zhang Defen, a writer of spiritual growth, was once asked such a question:
If you only have a relationship with one person in your life, do you lose money?
She replied: This is a matter of opinion, some people think this is very good, I personally think it is a loss.
In fact, because of their natural curiosity and desire to conquer, most men will not be obsessed with loving only one person for the rest of their lives.
However, some women have been disciplined by society for a long time, and they always feel that the more they fall in love, the more they will be labeled as "casual" or "**" and other bad labels by others.
So they don't want to go to too many men, hoping to meet someone and they can live their lives.
But the more people expect something, the easier it is to be disappointed.
Therefore, some people suggest that girls fall in love more because having more contact with men can have three major benefits:
One, the more you experience, the more thorough it gets
Zhang Defen wrote in the book "We Will Eventually Meet Love and Loneliness":
I hope that women can try to have as many boyfriends as possible before marriage, and try more different men, so that you will know:What are the types of men, how to get along with different types of men, and what kind of men do you like and are suitable for.
Women who have not had much contact with men really don't know the diversity of biological beings;How to get along with lovers;And what kind of man is his best partner.
Therefore, falling in love more can enrich a woman's soul, make her live more transparently, and understand what she really wants.
Instead of hanging yourself from a tree, or not hitting the south wall and not looking back, and finally heroically "sacrificed" for love.
Second, distinguish the difference between "desire" and "love".
Desire is self-interest;And true love is altruism.
The United States has conducted a human nature test survey, and the conclusion is that in the entire human race, only 4% of people have real altruistic instincts, and the remaining 96% of instincts are self-interested.
But in the relationship, if a woman always wants to take advantage of a man, all kinds of double standards:
For example, the man must earn more than himself, and his name must be added to the real estate deed after marriage.
These practices, which are very unfair to men, will eventually make a relationship full of mistrust and mutual calculation.
Therefore, women who have been in love more often will be more empathetic and know how to maintain a high-quality intimate relationship.
Instead of imposing their own desires on men, the two of them broke up unhappily in the end.
Third, meet a better self
There's a hot topic on the Internet:Discuss what is the difference between a woman's first love and the nth time?
The former will be eager to post on Moments, pay attention to various rituals, and care too much about the other party's emotions;
And the latter began to feel that love is not the whole of life, compared to daily love**, dating and watching movies, more importantly, to find a better self.
In fact, when a woman is with her first love, she is really clingy, and she seems to be reluctant to leave a man for a moment.
However, the more a woman falls in love, she will be more sober and independent, and she knows that it is impossible to have a good life just by being coquettish.
It is to constantly improve yourself, go to fitness and study, expand your circle of friends, and have a rich life, so that men can appreciate and can't do without.
Wang Shuo once wrote in "Letter to Daughter":
Making soup is more important than writing poetry, one's own craft is more important than a man, hair and breasts and waist and buttocks are more important than face, and the heart is so strong that it is more important than anything else.
This passage is not rough, and I hope that no matter how much or less love women have had, they can understand the truth.
Today's topic: Do you think women should be in a relationship more?