Most men have extramarital affairs and are not willing to divorce for the sake of the mistress.
Because ending a marriage is not only a simple matter of ending a marital relationship, a long-term marital relationship also involves a relationship of interests and a common marital property.
There will also be problems with social relationships, because there will be shared connections and so on.
So once divorced, the price that cheating men need to pay is high.
The mistress is not worth paying so much for the cheating man, the cheating man wants marriage and extramarital affairs in parallel, and he doesn't need to pay such a big price to be able to continue to be with the mistress, which is what most cheating men want the most.
But a cheating man does not divorce his wife, and after having a lover, he will not treat his wife well.
After cheating, most men do not break up with him in order to suppress their wives and make them obey him, or to coax the mistress, so that the mistress thinks that he is better for the mistress, so they don't break up with him, etc.
will behave very ruthlessly towards his wife and do a lot of harm to his wife.
For example, one of the original partners that Scarlett contacted before, said that this is the case.
The original partner and the cheating man met at work, fell in love for a year and a half and got married for nine years, had a son, a daughter and two children, after her husband got married, her career soared, from a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, to the extent of an annual salary of one million, in order to take care of the children and the family in the later stage, she chose to follow her husband's advice and become a full-time wife.
This original partner said that this was the most regrettable choice she had ever made.
Because after her husband cheated on her, she lost her job and not only lost an income.
It is also related to a woman's status in marriage and the right to speak when encountering some marital problems.
The wife feels this way when she encounters some marital problems before the man cheats.
For example, when you quarrel with a cheating man, because of a dispute over some things, the cheating man begins to look for things from money.
said that his wife doesn't make money, but she can't do a lot of things at home, and so on.
I'm afraid that the original dispute is that the cheating man is unreasonable, but the cheating man is talking about the economy, and if the wives keep refutating, the cheating man will control the economy and force his wife to give in and bow his head.
Even when this happens, most wives will just choose to be patient.
Because people are like this, they will always like to avoid some problems, as long as they are not driven to a dead end, they will choose to maintain the status quo instead of change.
Even though they knew that their situation in their marriage was very unfavorable, the wives did not really change it.
Until the man cheated and was found out by his wife.
In order to make his wife accept the existence of the mistress, the cheating man did not make trouble for him, and the cheating man directly cut off his wife's economy, no matter how she and the child lived, and threatened his wife that if he continued to make trouble because of his cheating, he would never give the original partner and the child money to spend.
The original partner realized that she didn't just have to give in to some minor marital problems.
Because there is no independent economy, it is necessary to rely on cheating men, and on some principled issues, cheating men will also use money to force cheating men to back down, and even children have become tools for cheating men to threaten their original partners.
This original partner said that she thought about being patient, and life would definitely not be easy, but she didn't expect it to be so sad, she couldn't accept the man's cheating, and the cheating man could really deal with her and the child for the sake of the mistress, and she couldn't accept it.
Why would a man be so cruel to his wife and children after cheating?
Don't think it's all the problems of the junior, and the cheating man has changed because of the appearance of the junior
It's not the problem of the junior, but the problem of the cheating man itself.
It's just that when the junior didn't appear, there was no such problem that required the cheating man to expose such a true face.
And the cheating man has financial control, and his attitude towards his wife has always been bad, but it is not so serious.
So what this wife needs to think about is not how to solve the extramarital affair, but how to change the unequal husband and wife relationship between her and the cheating man.
In the end, the problem lies in **, and there is no need to analyze, this original heart is clear.
is because she is not financially independent and relies on cheating men to live.
The cheating man can indirectly achieve the purpose of controlling the original partner by controlling the economy.
The rules of the world are: when you become better, everything else will follow.
If you measure and think about everything from the perspective of interests, you will become smarter and smarter, and if you only think about problems from an emotional point of view, you will become more and more stupid.
Wives need to learn to think about your marriage in terms of interests.
How much benefit you can bring to a cheating man, how much respect a cheating man can give you.
How many hole cards you have, how good the cheating man's attitude towards you will be, this is the reality.
So wives must make themselves financially independent, either to take the cheating man or to leave the cheating man, which is the only way out.
Instead of caring about the betrayal and unkindness of others, it is better to manage your own dignity and beauty, always obey yourself, be sober, independent, do not get entangled with bad people and bad things, and do not worry too much.
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I'm Sijia Yin, your exclusive emotional mentor, sharing emotional cases and helping you answer your questions.