Extramarital affairs, the topic is always full of mystery and **. Of course, we have to face up to this problem and not blindly blame men, after all, this topic is like solving a huge psychological mystery. Let's uncover the mysterious door in men's hearts and see why they can't help but be tempted by extramarital affairs.
First of all, there is a little secret in the man's brain, and that is the instinct to "escape responsibility". Marriage, for many men, is like a huge responsibility machine. I have to carry the burden for my family every day, run for my livelihood, and worry about my children. As a result, if they are not careful, they will have a feeling of "I want to escape from this responsibility", so the extramarital affair becomes the most tempting "escape channel".
In fact, men's yearning for extramarital affairs is largely the pursuit of a sense of excitement. Married life for a long time, it is an invisible "boring disease", grinding and chirping at home every day, talking and laughing less and less, everything is full of "taken for granted". So, they began to yearn for a new sense of novelty, and wanted to try something "thrilling over the roller coaster" life. Extramarital affairs seem to have become a "novelty" that makes their hearts beat.
Moreover, it is impossible to ignore the fact that men are always confident in their charms. In the workplace, it may be a personable gentleman;In social situations, it can be the king of humor;But when I got home, I sometimes became a little monster in the nest. Therefore, for extramarital affairs, men may have a fantasy, hoping that in a long-distance relationship, they can show their most charming side, and they are no longer the little monsters at home who only complain every day.
At the same time, social pressure is also a big driver for men to engage in extramarital affection. On social networks, the circle of friends is always filled with a large number of shiny "herbivore men" and "flowery girls", which makes some "otaku" embarrassed. As a result, they began to doubt their marital status and felt a kind of unconfidence, at this time, extramarital affairs are like a cup of nectar of the soul, which can instantly save them from an awkward social state.
Of course, the development of technology has also given men some convenience, making it easier for them to fall into the whirlpool of extramarital affairs. Mobile phones and social media allow them to find new excitement without leaving home. It's like shopping online, it's quick and easy, and if you're not careful, you'll become a "shopaholic".
Perhaps, another reason why men are obsessed with extramarital affairs is that they want to escape from certain trivialities in married life. For example, arguing with your partner about washing dishes every night, or not being able to escape the moment when your child is mischievous. In an extramarital affair, they can get rid of these trifles and, like a freewheeling butterfly, no longer have their wings glued to the "sticky liquid" of family trivialities.
However, one thing we can't ignore is that sometimes men love extramarital affairs because they feel neglected in their marriage. Perhaps in the long river of marriage, some female friends ignore their existence, making them feel a kind of pain of "have I become a **person". Extramarital affairs are like a mirror that allows them to re-see their own value and release their sense of existence.
Of course, this is not to say that it is natural for men to engage in extramarital affairs, but to draw our attention to marital issues. Perhaps, in marriage, we can care more about each other's inner needs, add some interest and stimulation, and make married life more interesting. In this way, men no longer need to look for outside stimulation, but can find their own "stimulation point" in the family.
The reasons why men like extramarital affairs vary widely, and everyone has their own story. We can be humorous about this topic, but we should also think seriously about how to create more joy and beauty in marriage, so that every family can be a warm haven, not a "sinful place" for men to escape from responsibility. Hopefully, in the future, extramarital affairs will only become a joke and no longer a shadow in real life.
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