Liu Qin hung up **, crying angrily, and her husband Lao Zhang stood next to her at a loss. Can Liu Qin not be angry?His 24-year-old son, who graduated from the Shanghai Military Academy, has a bright future and glories his ancestors. But he never expected that he would go behind his parents' back, first cut and then play, and married a 41-year-old Shanghai aunt who was divorced and had a 14-year-old son.
The daughter-in-law is 17 years older than her son, 6 years younger than her mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is the age of a grandmother in their northern countryside. The son's great rebellion not only shocked the world and did not take his parents seriously, but also challenged the authority of Liu Qin, who was strong by nature.
When night fell, Liu Qin sat alone on the small balcony of her home, looking at the bright starry sky, and her mood was extremely heavy. She recalled what her son Zhang Qiu looked like when he was a child, the ignorant child has now grown up**, but made a choice that was difficult for her to accept. Liu Qin's heart was full of doubts, why would Zhang Qiu choose such a marriage?Did he really make such a decision because he loved Li Ke?
A year ago, his son had just graduated and returned to his hometown, bringing back a girl Li Ke, who was 17 years older than him. At that time, Liu Qin hoped that it was just a misunderstanding, but as time went by, she gradually discovered that this relationship was not accidental. Liu Qin could see that Li Ke not only cared about Zhang Qiu, but even had some special attachments, as if he had put all his hopes on Zhang Qiu. This made Liu Qin unacceptable, she felt that her son was still too young and had a lot to experience and learn Xi, but Li Ke hoped that the two of them could be together forever.
Liu Qin is not a narrow-minded person, she knows that everyone has their own choices and preferences, but she has never been able to understand why her son would choose a woman more than ten years older than him to be his wife. Son Zhang Qiu is a smart and determined young man, his performance in the military school has always been excellent, Liu Qin has always hoped that he can find an excellent girl as a partner to create a better future together. However, now, the son has chosen a woman with a complicated background and an uncertain future, which makes Liu Qin resentful.
Just now, her son's choice made her wonder if there was a problem with her education style, and she blamed herself: "Are we being too strict with him, causing him to rebel?"But when I think back to my son's childhood, he has always been an assertive child and doesn't follow the crowd too much, and such a choice is not in his nature.
In order to find out the truth of the matter, Liu Qin made up her mind to go to Shanghai to find her son. She hopes to be able to talk to her son face-to-face, clear her mind and find a solution. So, she went through the relevant procedures and hurriedly came to Shanghai.
After coming to Shanghai, although Liu Qin was suspicious, she still took the initiative to contact her son's family. On the pretext of watching her grandson, she lived in a two-bedroom house that her daughter-in-law bought before marriage. At this time, Liu Qin really felt the dissatisfaction of her daughter-in-law Li Ke. After all, only one family can live in a house, but right now, they have six people living in this small house. This undoubtedly brought a lot of financial and life pressure to Li Ke.
After a few days of getting along, Liu Qin gradually discovered the root of Li Ke's dissatisfaction. As a Shanghai aunt, Li Ke has always had her own lifestyle and independence, she is Xi to working her own, and has had a last marriage, and has been living alone with a son for a long time. However, now she has to share her life with Liu Qin and Lao Zhang's family, which is undoubtedly a huge change and challenge for her. She couldn't bear to be bothered by Liu Qin's nagging every day, and she couldn't accept that her efforts were taken for granted.
And Liu Qin also saw Li Ke's efforts and dedication during this time. Every morning, Li Ke would get up early to make breakfast for the whole family, and then hurried to work. No matter how hard she worked, she never complained, and insisted on paying her mortgage on time every month. In her spare time, she educates the children, helps them with their homework, and takes care of their development. Liu Qin gradually realized that Li Ke was not a person without a sense of responsibility and commitment, but a woman full of love and care.
One day, Liu Qin and Li Ke had a long conversation in the kitchen. From each other's point of view, they talked about their views on family, their future, and their ideals. Liu Qin honestly expressed her doubts and worries about her son's choice, and at the same time admitted that she had always been incomprehensible and prejudiced. And Li Ke expressed his deep love and hard work for Zhang Qiu in sincere language. She hopes that Liu Qin will understand her efforts and give the family some time and space to adapt and communicate.
This conversation made Liu Qin re-examine herself. She reflects on how she has been hasty and inappropriate about her son's life and choices. She understood the reason why her son chose Li Ke, and also began to accept their relationship. She realized that as a mother, she should give her sons understanding and support, regardless of whether they made the right choice or not. For love is inclusive and fulfilling.
In the conversation with Li Ke, Liu Qin also learned that she and her husband Lao Zhang were not financially well-off, and their lives were under great pressure. Lao Zhang is old and has been dismissed from his job, which is an additional burden for Li Ke. Seeing all this, Liu Qin decided to take part of the responsibility and do her best to help them. She offered to hand over all her and Lao Zhang's pensions to them, and be responsible for living expenses and mortgage every month.
In the days that followed, the relationship between Liu Qin and Li Ke gradually improved. She began to help take care of the children's upbringing, providing them with a stable and welcoming home. At the same time, she also reminded herself to be more tolerant and understanding, and no longer interfere in their lives and choices.
Aunt Qu's point of view: 1) Zhang Qiu chose to marry Li Ke because of their sincere and friendly relationship and Li Ke's good care for him, their relationship was real, not for Li Ke's house and property. His willingness to share the financial pressures of his marriage and his desire to have both parents live together shows that he is serious and responsible about marriage. 2) Liu Qin's opposition and resistance is because she cannot accept her son marrying a woman older than herself, and she does not care about her son's happiness for her own interests. She tried to occupy her son's house by disrupting her daughter-in-law's marriage, which not only lacked family ethics, but also did not think about her son and grandson.
Uncle Yan's point of view: 1) Li Ke's mother believes that Zhang Qiu is just using Li Ke's house and property, and hopes that her daughter will not become a victim of being abandoned by Zhang Qiu. She reminded her daughter to be careful to protect her interests and not to let Zhang Qiu divide the property for the sake of financial support. She expressed her understanding and support for Liu Qin's behavior, and believed that Liu Qin's attempt to protect her rights and interests was reasonable. 2) Liu Qin's worries and resistance as a mother are legitimate, and she hopes that her son will find a suitable partner instead of marrying a woman who is so much older than herself. She believes that Li Ke has deceived her son and tries to save him from Li Ke. Her opposition is not just for personal gain, but to maintain the harmony of the family and the happiness of her son.
In this story, issues such as marriage, family, and relationships are touched. Based on the relevant legal terms that I am aware of, here are some of my suggestions:
1.About marriage: Marriage is a free choice, and every adult has the right to choose his or her own partner. There is no legal restriction on age or age difference for marriage. Therefore, it is their personal will that their son Zhang Qiu chooses to marry Li Ke. As parents, we should respect their choices and provide the necessary support and assistance.
2.Regarding housing: In the case of a joint purchase of a house by a son and a daughter-in-law, the property is the joint property of the husband and wife according to Article 27 of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China. If the spouses cannot reach an agreement, they can seek a solution through the relevant legal channels.
3.With regard to financial compensation: when divorce is discussed, it should be fairly distributed according to the financial strength and contributions of both spouses. If Liu Qin wants to share the financial pressure such as the mortgage, it is recommended to negotiate with her son and daughter-in-law to determine a reasonable amount and payment method.
In short, the happiness of a family is based on mutual understanding and support. As family members, we should learn to respect and accept everyone's choices and work together to create a warm and harmonious family.