There is a kind of "special" boundary between relatives, everyone depends on each other, but they will not inquire diligently like friends;They are related to each other, but they don't fight each other as often as their loversGathering together is not for interests, talking about hearts is not for seeking something, this is brothers and sisters, this is relatives.
It is said that most of the discord between children is the old man and immoral, but in fact, the blessing of a family is inseparable from the "help" of every member.
Some people's "life" is good, which can lead to the prosperity of the whole family, on the contrary, a person's "life" is not good, which will also lead to the decline of the whole family.
So what is "fate"?
It's not superstition, among brothers and sisters, the one with the best life often has these three characteristics, as the so-called, half-life parental kindness, a lifetime of brotherhood, you might as well observe more, learn some "blessing" essentials from him.
Big things are not ambiguous
In all relationships, blood ties are a link that can never be broken in this life, everyone will quarrel and be cold, but at the same time, they will be reconciled and will tightly entangle each other's fate.
But in real life, even this kind of unbreakable relationship will be messed up by some people, and the biggest trait of this kind of person is that he is always vague and blind when he does big things.
Behind the ambiguity of major events, it is not something that can be prevaricated by being carelessIt means that the main business collapses, the self-worth is lost, and at the same time, it also proves that the person does not have the ability to live independently and stand in society.
The eldest brother Su Mingzhe in the TV series "It's All Good" is the best example.
In the eyes of outsiders, Su Mingzhe had excellent grades in his youth, worked decently when he grew up, had outstanding ability, and had a happy marriage, so it can be said that he is the kind of winner in life that everyone wants to be.
But only those close to him know that Su Mingzhe is a typical "unreliable big thing".
When anything happens, he will only hide behind his wife's back and accuse others, it seems that "those who can work hard", but in fact they can only move their mouths, if something happens, Su Mingzhe is the first to collapse.
Little things don't matter
In real life, it is not uncommon for siblings to turn against each other, but if you look at all kinds of trivial things, you will find that most of those families who are not in harmony have a difficult family member.
As the old saying goes, the wise will be modest, the good will be tolerant, only the little wise will be aggressive, and the little good will be calculatingThe secret of looking at people by looking at "face" and "color" is difficult to have accidents when used on family members.
In the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Simei fell into an economic crisis, and although her brothers and sisters blamed her for not being angry, they still decided to contribute money to help Qiao Simei get out of the predicament.
Before reaching out to help, several people would clearly tell Qiao Simei that the money was temporarily lent to her and that it should be repaid in time, and Qiao Simei had no dispute about this, and fully agreed with the request of her brothers and sisters.
There is a lot of discussion, there is no prevarication of what should be undertaken, and the principle is not forgotten while helping, which is the real reason why the Qiao family can make their lives better.
It is not uncommon for relatives to turn against each other, and the biggest and most common reason for the breakdown of a relationship is that relatives are too calculating.
This kind of personality not only easily leads to temper and impatience, but also easily endangers intimate relationships.
03: Family affairs are not spread
As long as you get along for a long time, there will be cracks in any relationship, and most of the time, the longer you get along, the deeper the rift becomes, especially between loved ones.
In every family, there are some deep-rooted contradictions, no matter how big or small, deep or shallow, they are not suitable for talking to outsiders, this is the bottom line, and it is the basic rule of getting along with relatives.
But in real life, there is such a group of people.
They always regard family affairs as an after-dinner pastime, not only publicizing it everywhere, lest the world be chaotic, but also pretending to put on a high hat for themselves, and it is difficult for this kind of person to get a good death.
The secrecy of "family affairs" is beyond imagination.
In the eyes of most people, if a person is playing right and wrong with his family, then most of this person has no bottom line and is vicious, and they can not interact with each other behind the house, but in front of the hall, they must be ***
Understand what is good and bad, understand more, complain less, these 12 words are actually the key to family harmony.
As the so-called family and everything is prosperous, when the family is harmonious, everything will go smoothly, and the individual will naturally be in full swing.
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