Author: Wen Qiusheng.
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Love needs a bottom line and a sense of proportion.
We often long to meet vigorous love, hoping to meet true love that runs desperately, loves desperately until the sky falls apart, and integrates each other into one.
But I think that true love is to stay together in ordinary life, and to care for each other in the subtleties.
No matter how deep the relationship is, whether the situation is good or bad, always remember the bottom line of your lover. Respect him, tolerate him, don't easily touch his bottom line, and let each other get along in the most comfortable way.
If in a relationship, a person dares to "touch" you two places, it must not love you.
A reader confided in me that she said: In the five years of marriage with her husband, she has worked hard to build a career from nothing.
The eldest daughter is three years old, obedient and sensible. Originally, she thought she was happy enough, but when she was pregnant with Rokka, she found out that her husband had betrayed her.
She cried bitterly for days, not knowing where she was going.
After thinking about it, she decided to ask her husband why he betrayed her. The husband couldn't hide it when he saw it, so he confessed one by one. He said that everything was just a scene, and he still loved her the most.
For the sake of the child, she endured. Later, three months after the birth of the child, she found out again that her husband had betrayed her again.
Without loyal love, no matter how passionate, no matter how sweet the words, it is all fake.
Once, I heard the saying, "The betrayal of marriage is like walking on a single-plank bridge, once you take a wrong step, you can never go back." ”Feelings can't stand betrayal, they can't stand repeated deception. If you cross the bottom line of love, you are unfaithful and unloving.
True love must be willing to draw the ground for you.
Even if the scenery outside the window is beautiful, you will know how to refuse. Even if you meet a good person, you will know how to be estranged.
The person who loves you the most, no matter how much time changes, no matter how big the world is, he can always keep his original intention and give the woman he loves a sense of trust and security.
TV series "Our Marriage", after watching this drama, I feel very uncomfortable.
Among them, Sheng Jiangchuan is a person with a strong "machismo", he has always felt that after marriage, men should be outside the home, and women should be inside.
He feels that when a man earns money to support his family outside the home, he is a way to express his love for his wife and a way to express his sense of responsibility. At the same time, it is also the charm of being a man.
Therefore, he couldn't listen to Shen Coixing's thoughts at all, and he couldn't see that she also had dreams and careers that she wanted to pursue.
In marriage, he handed over the burden of housework and taking care of two children to Shen Comet.
Two people who seem to love each other, if there is no bottom line, are actually hurting each other in the name of love.
If, the person who loves you, crosses your bottom line. No matter how much he gives, no matter how much sweet words he says, it is not love.
Because, he can't give you what you want. And he, you have to give everything you want. After all, he doesn't love you, he loves only himself more.
In a book, I saw such a sentence that said: "Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you, falling in love with someone who doesn't know warmth and respect, and doesn't know how to cherish it, is a gentle collapse and the loneliness of tears bursting the embankment, and a sad song without light and happiness!."”If a person doesn't respect your bottom line, he doesn't love you.
His love, which is pressure, is also meaningless. The love he gives is all shackles, pressure, and pain. This kind of love is actually nothing.
In the world of feelings, a person who doesn't even respect your bottom line probably doesn't love you as much as you imagined.
Love is respect, tolerance, and tenderness to let you be yourself.
All love without respect does not have to consume one's own passion. Because, you can only move yourself, and you can never move a person who only loves yourself.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.