There is a saying in "Zhou Yi".: The benevolent see the benevolent, and the wise see the wise
Treat everything, everyone has their own position, different positions, different views, positions determine attitudes, learn to empathize, can not understand each other, at least to respect each other, do not hurt each other.
Mom loves to go shopping, and always wants to take her 4-year-old daughter to the mall together, but the child doesn't like to go.
My mother wondered, there are so many good things in the mall, and it is very lively, why don't you recruit your own children to see them?
The mother once thought that the child was deliberate, thinking that the child wanted to play somewhere else, so she didn't want to go to the mall.
Until this day, when I went to the mall again, the child's shoelaces were loose, and the mother squatted down to tie the child's shoes, and suddenly saw a terrible sight that she had never seen before: all the arms and legs were shaking in front of her, which was very scary.
So, she picked up her daughter and walked out of the mall quickly.
From then on, even if she had to take her daughter to the mall, she would hold the child in her arms or find a cart to push her.
Everything in the world has its own position, and different positions have different cognitions, and the scenes seen from different positions have their own meritsWhat seems natural from your own standpoint, from another point of view, you may not agree at all.
Truly mature people often know how to consider problems from the perspective of others, and do not blindly think what they think.Recently, I chatted with several people about the same thing, and found that the results were far from the same.
To sum up, the position is different, the direction and ideas are different, and the job roles are different, and the ideas will be very different.
In the face of the same thing, from whose point of view do you think about the problem?
In an industrial chain, from the perspective of customers, businessmen, companies, departments, and personal interests, what is said and done is definitely different.
As an employee, I feel that the boss is too dark, how much money you give me, I will do as much work, as a boss, I feel that the employee is lazy, you have to make achievements I can give you money, instead of telling me the truth that there is no merit and hard work.
Different people have different views on the same issue from different positions or angles
Everyone is familiar with the famous novel "Dream of Red Mansions", when the four major families in it declined, some people would sympathize with Jia Baoyu, but from the perspective of the toiling masses at the bottom, the luxurious life of the bureaucrats and aristocrats represented by Jia Baoyu was unattainable for ordinary peopleThe resulting sense of disparity and hatred is very strong.
In life, many people like to stand in their own perspective, self-righteous and casually condemn and criticize others, thinking that the whole world is right for themselves.
What kind of life others have, what kind of path they take, others can never really understand. You can't appreciate everything until you really experience it.
Thousands of people taste a thousand flavors of the same tea, and thousands of people go out of ten thousand hearts.
It is normal to have different opinions, maybe he is right, but it does not mean that you are wrong, there is no need for conflicts and contradictions, we first stabilize our emotions when we encounter problems, and then find a way to solve them.
Cognition is not at a level, understanding is not at an angle, words are not speculative more than half a sentence, so why bother to argue about right and wrong, just be yourself.
It's sad not to know how to empathize.
Some people, no matter what conflicts occur between you, will feel that they have no problem with themselves, never reflect on themselves, and do not take into account the feelings of others, even if they know that they are wrong, they will find all kinds of reasons to excuse themselves, and then impose the responsibility on others and become someone else's problem.
Su Shi's "Title West Forest Wall" wrote: Looking horizontally, the side of the ridge is a peak, and the height is different.It means that the hills and peaks of Lushan are undulating, and visitors see different scenery because of their different positions, which are very different.
When it rains, you will hate the people who drive, sprinkle the rain all over your body, and the people who drive are actually very annoying to the pedestrians on the road, always not looking at the road.
It's interesting to see a sentence:
During the day, the delivery security guard stops the takeaway, and at night the security guard stops the takeaway.
In fact, in this society, roles will also be reversed, feng shui will take turns, and you may have a different attitude towards doing things when you will be in that position.
Thoughts are not at the same level, there is no need to conquer each other, cognition is not at the same level, there is no need to argue, the three views are different, and strong integration is meaningless.
People with similar souls naturally come together
People with different magnetic fields have to go over mountains and mountains when they speak.
oneThe family does not know the hardships of his family, and everyone has their own difficulties.
Think about problems from the perspective of others and understand each other, and the world will be peaceful.