Hello everyone, I'm Brother Tang.
Today I would like to share with you how to learn and use the first strategy in "Thirty-six Strategies" - "Hiding from the Sky and Crossing the Sea" in the stage of pursuing girls, so as to help you reap better results on the battlefield of feelings.
Let's first take a look at the connotation of the strategy of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea":
The core idea of this strategy is to use clever means to conceal one's true intentions and create a calm surface, so as to achieve one's own goals without alerting the other party.
In terms of his own experience, Brother Tang thinksThe opportunity and expected effect of the strategy of "hiding from the world" in the stage of pursuing girls are not too large, but we must know that in the early stage of pursuing the object, it is very necessary to properly "hide from the world".
Brother Tang will start with a true story that happened around you, and this story will definitely arouse your interest.
I have two friends, one is named Xiao Zhou and the other is Xiao Li.
A few years ago, Xiao Zhou met a girl through a blind date introduced by his family, and he was impressed by her, but since the girl worked in the township, they mainly communicated through the Internet. Xiao Zhou is an honest person who is not good at chatting.
So he triedHide from the world,found the flexible and witty Xiao Li and asked him to help with the girl's online chat.
Xiao Li is a flamboyant and lotus-tongued guy, and he makes girls very happy on the Internet. Through Xiao Li's ingenious response, Xiao Zhou's identity and the girl quickly established a deep relationship in the online world, and confirmed the relationship. After more than half a month of online chatting, Xiao Li completed the task arranged by Xiao Zhou. Xiao Zhou was grateful, because he himself was not good at expressing himself on the Internet, but Xiao Li helped him solve this problem.
However, the turning point of the story comes after Xiao Zhou and the girl have frequent contact in reality. Xiao Zhou is not only not good at expressing himself on the Internet, but in reality, his honest and wooden character traits are put even bigger.
Soon the girl found that Xiao Zhou felt completely different from the person on the Internet, and she was not attracted to him, and she was not the type she liked. She was confused and didn't understand why there was such a difference between the virtual and the real, so the relationship between the two quickly broke up and eventually broke up.
When Xiao Li learned all this, he took the initiative to contact the girl and confessed that he was the Xiao Zhou on the Internet. In the process of chatting, he has gradually understood and liked girls. However, since initially he was only helping a friend, he did not tell the truth. As Xiao Zhou and the girl broke up, Xiao Li finally stood up, confessed everything, and announced the true identity of Xiao Zhou who chatted with her on the Internet.
He expressed his true feelings to the girl, explaining that the reason why he hid his identity was only to help his friends.
With so much foreshadowing before, Xiao Li and the girl naturally came together.
The girl once asked Xiao Li: "When you helped Xiao Zhou catch up with me, weren't you afraid of losing me?"”
Xiao Li said: ".Have you ever wondered if I would have known you long before Xiao Zhou and you went on a blind date?
It's scary to think about. That place is not big, excellent girls will always be noticed, it turns out that Xiao Li noticed the girl before Xiao Zhou met the girl, but he didn't have a chance to know, he helped Xiao Zhou pursue the girl is just a superficial action, and this strategy can be regarded as one of the thirty-six strategiesPush the boat with the water。So the whole process is a big game of chess planned by Xiao Li, through this process he has the opportunity to communicate and understand the girl properly, politely and unobtrusively, and he also clearly knows that if she is the girl he thinks is excellent, with his understanding of Xiao Zhou, the girl and the real Xiao Zhou must not be able to get together. Xiao Li only needs to intervene at the right time to show his true feelings, and he can hit with one blow. This whole process not only shows Xiao Li's intentions behind the scenes, but also allows him to really win the girl's heart.
Brother Tang thinks that this story can be called a textbook-level application of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea" in real feelings. In this case, Xiao Zhou successfully deceived the world in the early stage, but after reaching the goal, he was unable to control the direction of things;Xiao Li had carefully deployed before Xiao Zhou, and finally succeeded in hiding from the world.
Seeing this, don't you feel very excited and enthusiastic?Do you think that once you are familiar with and comprehend various military strategies, you can really be invincible on the battlefield of love?
It's a pity that Brother Tang wants to pour a scoop of cold water on you.
Life is not a story, and the real incident that happened to Xiao Li can only be said to be encounterable but not sought for the perfect practice of the strategy of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea" of the Thirty-six Schemes. The screenwriter can't make up the bridge, friends, on the Long March to chase girls, what chance do you think you can use this plan?
Brother Tang said earlier that in the early stage of pursuing the object, it is very necessary to properly "hide from the sky and cross the sea".
Because, love is magical, and when the "she" who attracts you appears, you don't dare to make sure that you won't become a love brain.
"Love Brain"Refers to a type of thinking pattern that is exhibited when in love, characterized by an individual's excessive focus on love and lovers, devoting most of their energy and emotions to the relationship. In this state, individuals may show excessive attention to their lovers, emotional swings, and easy neglect of their surroundings and other important matters. This concept emphasizes that in the process of being in love, an individual's cognition and behavior may change due to the extreme focus on love, which can sometimes lead to a weakening of rational thinking.
Therefore, Brother Tang thinks that don't envy Xiao Li's genius stroke, for all friends on the road to chasing love, the greater significance of the plan of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea" is:At the beginning of the pursuit, moderately retain some mystery, skillfully choose to show your strengths, and impress the other person. It's not about scheming, it's about showing your truest and best self in a more engaging way at the right time.
Excessive disguise and fiction can lead to feelings being superficial rather than real. Because we still have to show our true side, love also needs to be based on sincerity and trust. "Hiding from the world" is more like a delicate self-packaging than a complete disguise. In this process, we can express our care and love in a clever way, but without losing authenticity. While staying authentic, manage your relationship with your heart and let the other person inadvertently discover what makes you unique.
In order to better help you move forward on the journey of love, Brother Tang will explain in detail in the next article how to grasp the scale of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea" in the early stage of pursuing girls. In this upcoming article, Brother Tang will share some practical advice and tips for everyone to make better use of the trick of "hiding from the sky and crossing the sea" to make the development of the relationship smoother.