I'm Brother Tang.
Looking back, I used to be the young man who was obsessed with touching each other with true feelings, and now I think of the innocent love brain that I once had, and I will feel a little sad.
When I was younger, it seemed to me that feelings were pure communication, based on truth, mutual trust and sincerity. To me, excessive strategization seems like a blasphemy of feelings that can lead to hypocrisy and manipulation, which is incompatible with my ideal of a healthy relationship.
At the beginning, I had a crush on the girl I loved for many years, as if I was immersed in a pure emotional state, believing that my sincerity would eventually move her. I insist that feelings should not be influenced by any strategy and intrigue, but should be a spontaneous outpouring.
However, life always makes people change inadvertently. Finally one day I realized that simply waiting and touching the other person with love doesn't always work. I began to think that maybe in the pursuit of feelings, using some stratagem is not entirely the wrong choice. So I decided to use some methods to pursue the girl I loved.
Brother Tang's crush on girls lasted from junior high school to college, and after 25 years of bare-bones, he finally learned from the pain and began to read Sun Tzu's art of war, thirty-six strategies and other strategy books, and began to try to use some ingenious methods to attract her attention without losing authenticity. I'm not giving up on my sincere feelingsInstead, they understand that in the process of pursuing love, sometimes some clever strategies are needed。I started to take the initiative to communicate with her, to show more of my strengths, and to create some opportunities for us to have more contact.
Gradually, I found that this shift did not make the feelings hypocritical or manipulative, but rather added some freshness and vitality. Our relationship has become more interesting, and it is no longer my wishful thinking crush alone. Relationships are not about sticking to a single approach, but about being flexible on a case-by-case basis. Using a certain strategy is not disrespectful to feelings, but knowing how to add some wisdom and ingenuity to the relationship while pursuing truth. Perhaps, sometimes, loving with your heart is not only about showing emotion, but also knowing how to deal with it flexibly in the process of chasing love.
When I decided to use some stratagem to pursue the girl I loved, I began to look for ways to get her attention in a clever and authentic way. For example, I learned to communicate with her more actively. It's no longer just about silently admiring her, it's about being brave enough to start a conversation. I obviously like to be alone, but I mingle with everyone for her; I don't know how to tell jokes, but I have a dozen small notes in my pocket in advance.
This can be called the 36 Tricks of Concealment。Hiding the weaker parts of one's personality is not a deception, it is like hiding from the world, using some clever ways to create opportunities and create the possibility of further development.
At the same time, I noticed her interests and hobbies and consciously participated in them. This not only brought us closer, but also created some common topics. I invited her to some activities at the right time so that we could interact more and have a good time together.
This behavior can be categorized as pushing a boat with the current。The core idea of this plan is to follow the trend and take advantage of the development trend of the situation to achieve its own goals. In your case, by paying attention to her interests and hobbies and consciously participating in them, as well as inviting her to participate in activities at the right time, you are subtly promoting the development of the relationship by following her interests and preferences. This method does not seem forced, but can naturally and subtly enhance the relationship between the two.
There are also subtle expressions. I show my care and thoughtfulness through small details, such as a well-prepared gift for her birthday or some warm support when she feels tired. These small gestures are not deliberately pandering, but genuine and close to the heart of care.
Here it can be understood as a beauty trick . The core idea of the beauty trick is to present eye-catching qualities in the emotional field through external material or service to attract the attention of the other party, so as to achieve a certain purpose. By showing caring and thoughtful little details, especially giving a gift on her birthday or offering support when she is tired, you are using a beauty trick to attract her attention and strengthen the relationship through these warm gestures. It is worth noting that the useBeauty TrickDo not deliberately cater to or rely on the idea of money worship, you must be a real and close to the heart of the expression of care, otherwise the gain will outweigh the loss.
In addition to this, there are also some indirect ways for her to slowly discover my existence. Through some mutual friends, make sure she unknowingly got to know me better. Such a strategy does not seem forced, but also increases the opportunities for interaction between us without losing authenticity. These methods were not deliberately created to please her, but to better show my true side, to enter her life in a clever and warm way, and finally to get the opportunity to knock on the door and hit the ground with one blow.
This is called Darkness Chencang
These strategies did not change my sincere feelings for her, but added some wisdom and ingenuity to the path of affection. In the process of pursuing love, I have learned that sincerity and wisdom are not contradictory, on the contrary, they can complement each other and make the relationship more fulfilling and deep.
This is the epilogue
I thought our relationship would last forever, but fate played a joke. The first girl I chased with me was also a girl who I once thought I would only love her, but finally broke up due to some force majeure reasons, which made me experience the impermanence and unpredictability of love.
Although the hard work and strategy did not save our relationship, it became an unforgettable experience in my life. I felt at a loss for a while in the haze of the breakup, but as time went on, I gradually understood many things. Maybe it's because of this experience that I'm no longer afraid of not finding a girlfriend. I learned how to be flexible in relationships and how to bounce back in the midst of loss. Perhaps, life is like a play, we can't control the script, but we can choose how to interpret it.
So, although my story with her came to an end, the growth and wisdom gained in this relationship became a valuable asset in my future love life. Perhaps, the comedy of life is that after experiencing a series of twists and turns, we can still move forward with a smile. Because,No matter if there are any twists and turns on the emotional stage, I have learned to face it with humor and laugh at life, and this is perhaps my most important strategy. If you have ever felt lost for love and hesitated for feelings, then you might as well walk with me on this tortuous and interesting road of love.
In Brother Tang Teaches You to Fall in Love, I will share more thoughts and experiences about love to bring some inspiration and help to your love life. Whether you are a warrior who is pursuing love, or have experienced a bumpy journey in relationships, let's move forward hand in hand, grow together, and become a warrior who is no longer afraid to pursue love.
Next, I will ** more about the application of strategy in love, not only for youThe wisdom of the Thirty-six Strategies and the Art of War in relationships also includes other knowledge that can be applied in the field of loveto provide you with a unique and thought-provoking love tutorial. Brother Tang will not only explain the attraction and behavior in relationships, but will also equip you with sufficient skills and abilities to coordinate the distribution of resources and the balance of power in love and marriage. I look forward to bringing you more vivid and interesting love wisdom through these unique perspectives.
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