Text丨The West Chamber is affectionate.
It's not a long time, may you see you in my words before it's too late!
Are you also struggling, why couples who have been together for so many years suddenly don't know how to get along?
I've been married for so many years, but now you are more and more uncertain about the men around you, and you feel that the distance between you is getting farther and farther away.
It's normal to have such confusion, because even couples who have been together for decades may not have found the right way to get along.
Therefore, the man who will feel that he does not understand himself more and more begins to panic in his heart.
In fact, only this kind of married life is the easiest to eat men, but many women don't understand.
no.1. Never chase after uncertain things
The most important thing between husband and wife is not love, but trust and tacit understanding. If these two things are lost, no matter how hard a woman works, she can't win a man's heart.
Generally speaking, there are very few couples who have no emotional foundation, so at first the man is satisfied with his wife, but why does the relationship after marriage become unsatisfactory.
This is because many women may be too afraid of losing this happiness after becoming a wife, so they will always be suspicious of men for some unwarranted things.
As a result, marriage is more helpless for men, no matter how he explains it, the person next to him will always have various reasons to doubt him.
And men can't stand women like this, obviously they haven't done anything, they are working hard for their families, but their wives don't want to believe in themselves.
A wise woman does not make such a mistake, even if she has doubts about some of the man's behavior, and does not show the slightest dissatisfaction in front of the man at all without real evidence.
Sometimes, turning a blind eye will eliminate a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings, and it will not hurt the relationship with the man.
A man likes a woman who trusts him like this, and he also values the tacit understanding between a woman and him, and will not be easily calculated by rumors from the outside world.
no.2. If you need to ask for help from a man, you will never be strong
Even if you are married, do you still like to do everything by yourself, and you have to do everything yourself to rest assured?
If you really think like this, it means that you have not figured out marriage at all, since you can solve everything by yourself, what kind of existence is a man for you, and why did you enter marriage?
You always have to understand that if a woman can't rely on a man with confidence and boldness, it is a great shame for a man.
Marriage is not only to make the companionship of men and women legitimate, but also to allow each other to rely on each other calmly when needed.
For men, if their wives are very independent, don't need his help with anything, and don't want him to interfere in anything, the man will have a great sense of frustration.
He will think that in your heart he is a waste, and you don't want to rely on him and don't want to trust him.
Such a husband and wife get along, even if your original intention is good, you don't want to put too much pressure on the man and become a burden to the man, but the man will not think so.
He will only feel that you don't need him at all, that he is useless with you, and that he will definitely divert his attention in order to realize his own value.
Therefore, if you want to eat a man, don't be afraid to trouble a man, let a man be your right-hand man is not a drag on him, but a kind of affirmation and dependence on him, and it is too late for a man to be happy.
no.3. There is not only the strength of sharing happiness, but also the ability to share suffering
As the old saying goes, husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes. This may be part of the reality of couples, but it does not represent all couples.
To be honest, even if the relationship is very average, after a long time together, they will not easily give up the other party, this is human nature.
As a woman, you can't only have the strength to share the joys with men, but you don't have the ability to share the hardships with men.
Most men's lives cannot be smooth sailing, nor can they be prosperous and wealthy for a lifetime, and they will always experience hardships, and this is also the time when human nature is tested the most.
When a man is suffering, if you never give up on the man, and even use your own ability to help the man tide over the difficulties, then your position in the man's heart is irreplaceable.
But if you can only be by the side of a man when he is rich and rich, and run away when he needs you to pay, then the man will not be in a good mood for you.
People's hearts are mutual, if husband and wife can't help each other and can't share weal and woe, then it is the same whether a man and you get married or not.
Therefore, if you want to become an irreplaceable woman in a man's heart, you must not only be able to accompany a man to live a good life, but also be able to accompany a man to endure hardships.
Husband and wife can get along without so much romance, but you must make a man inseparable from you, so that you can be considered a man.
Trust, weakness and companionship are indispensable, marriage is not about falling in love, and men value real things more than those words that hang on their lips.
If you want a man to die for you, you just have to treat it with sincerity, and time will tell you the man's answer.