The great writer Mai Jia once said: "Life is not only the life of the body, what the house and the ticket can treat well is only the life of your body, and we also have the life outside or inside the body, that is, the life of the soul." ”
This sentence shows the two aspects of life, just like society, we must not only do a good job in material civilization, but also build spiritual civilization.
Personally, material civilization is affected by many external factors, and sometimes, even if we try our best, we cannot completely change it;However, creating a spiritual civilization and enriching our hearts should be something we can grasp.
So, lately I've been thinking about the question of how to enrich our hearts
First of all, we need to know what inner abundance is
Inner abundance refers to a person who has a strong inner world, has his own thoughts, his own opinions, and his own judgments, and is not swayed by everything in the outside world.
Sanmao said: "Those who have a rich heart are like many people who walk alone. ”
People with a rich heart are not afraid of loneliness, like to be alone, have a positive attitude, are full of sunshine, full of vitality, will not be swayed by material things, and will not be stumped by emotions.
People with abundant hearts see scenery everywhere and are always able to "contemplate everything and be contented." ”
So, how can we enrich our hearts?
After reading a lot of books, consulting a lot of materials, and combining my own thinking, I think we can enrich our hearts from three dimensions.
I once saw such an article on the Internet, a young man excitedly took his girlfriend to an island with a blue sea and blue sky for a vacation. But within a few days, he came back depressed, and the two broke up because of it. Why is that?
It turned out that the young man's girlfriend was very fond of watching TV series. On the way to the same road, I have been watching dramas.
When she arrives at her destination, she neither wants to feel the customs of a foreign country, nor does she like to enjoy the scenery of the island, so she always snuggles in a hotel, immersed in the parents who can never finish watching.
The thought of spending the rest of his life with such a girl, together with ""* in front of a screen, the young man shuddered.
It's not a bad thing to like watching dramas, but if you only watch dramas in life, then your heart is too poor.
Actually, it's not just girls,Everyone should constantly enrich the "breadth" of their heart and make themselves a happy and interesting person.
There are many ways to make yourself a person with a rich and interesting heart:
You can travel, enjoy the natural scenery of various places, and feel the unique customs;
You can enjoy the food, feel the different tastes of sweet and sour, and the colorful changes of food;
You can go painting, singing, playing the piano, sports, photography, ......Use a variety of hobbies to cultivate your temperament and enrich your tastes;
You can also learn to be grateful in ordinary life, appreciate the beauty of ordinary things around you with your heart, and feel the warm and usual love ...... around you
Do the little things you like, but don't indulge, enrich your heart and get happiness at the same time.
When your heart is full of love and happiness, then even if you encounter wind and rain, you will have enough courage to face it.
Enriching the "breadth" of the heart is relatively simple, and everyone can do it if you try it with your heart.
But enriching the "depth" of the heart has a certain degree of difficulty.
First of all, we need to look inward, know ourselves, and see ourselves clearly.
The root of all our troubles actually comes from our hearts, our brains.
The brain is good at thinking and remembering, but there is a fatal flaw, that is, whenever you are free, it will breed the bias of duality, analyze and judge the past, present and future, the gains and losses of honor and disgrace, the pros and cons, and the ...... of success or failureThese negative emotions haunt you like shadows.
Therefore, we have to see ourselves clearly, these are the mental internal friction bred by the brain, and it is not the real you.
The brain is just an organ, we cannot be bound by these prejudices and become servants of the brain, we should be soberly aware that we are the masters of the brain, and we must learn to manage the brain and control the brain.
How do you manage your brain and prevent it from running idle?
The best thing to do is to debunk the "trick" of the brain, recognize that it's the brain that is idling, and then do the current thing so that the brain is no longer idling. In this way, there will be no more troubles.
Second, we need to look outward and recognize things for what they are.
When you encounter something, don't complain, don't blame, learn to think: what the hell is going on?What should I do?What are the pros and cons?
Life cannot be smooth sailing, setbacks and tribulations are the norm, and everyone will encounter them.
Frustrations and tribulations are not all bad, and if you look at the problem from multiple angles, you will suddenly become enlightened.
When the storm comes, the important thing is to think about how to deal with it.
Don't worry beforehand, don't regret afterwards. Learning to reflect and summarize lessons can make one's ability to see problems more and more profound.
Albert Einstein said"Problems at the same level are often unsolvable and need to be solved by a higher level. "
People don't have heights, and all they see is problems;People don't have a pattern, and all they see is reluctance.
Enrich the heart"Height"The way is to cultivate the mind and then transcend oneself. The specific practice can be reading, calendaring, meditation, ......
1. Reading is the easiest practice
Reading books and talking with Zhuangzi, Su Shi, Wang Yangming, and Zeng Guofan can help us broaden our minds, improve our cognition, and understand that gains and losses, pros and cons, successes and failures are all things outside the body after all, and what can really bring us inner wealth is spiritual cultivation.
Reading about all kinds of people can help us understand what kind of life is what we want mostWhat kind of person is the ...... we want to associate with the most
2. Calendar is the most reliable practice
People teach people, but they can't teach;Teaching people, one church", only after truly experiencing some things will we have personal feelings and understand the true meaning of life.
When encountering things, don't be irritable, don't be discouraged, and keep in mind Wang Yangming's "people grind in things":
Take the difficult person as the tempering of your own magnification pattern;Take the difficult things as a test to change your attitude, and your abilities will be improved and your pattern will be opened.
3. Meditation is the most useful practice
Find a quiet place, control your brain, pay attention to your thoughts, sit or lie down, walk, or focus on other things. The important thing is to calm your heart: stillness can give birth to wisdom, wisdom can give birth to concentration, and wisdom can definitely give birth to wisdom.
There are thousands of prosperity in the world, but it is better to be silent like a flower in your heart.
Life is an experience, a practice.
Enriching the height of the heart and improving the pattern of life is undoubtedly the most difficult, and there is no end.
As the old saying goes: "There are rivers and seas in your heart, and there is no right or wrong in your eyes." "Keep cultivating yourself and improving your inner pattern, and you will make yourself more and more comfortable to live more and more.
Life is like the day of the West Mountain, and wealth is like frost on the tile. "Wealth, fame, feelings, and status can only be possessed temporarily, and life must eventually be simplified.
The more you experience, the more you will realize that life is not about the more wealth, the happier you are.
External things can't bring you long-term joy after all, so it's better to cultivate a rich and calm heart in a simple life, and live your favorite days calmly.
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