The most ideal way to live is to choose the good and stay with the fate

Mondo Education Updated on 2024-01-29

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Some time ago, my friend Qingqing complained to me that a college classmate always asked for money.

When asked what happened later, Cheng Jin said that after his friend borrowed money, he never forgot to pay it back. Every time she had to ask again and again, she gave her the money back.

Her classmates thought it was only a few hundred yuan, but was it worth borrowing money every day?

Qingqing was also annoyed. Although he only has a few hundred yuan, why can't he take the initiative to pay back the money without being reminded repeatedly?

In fact, Qingqing's mood was very depressed. I feel like if I don't rent a house, I'm living up to my reputation. If you borrow money, you may forget to pay it back.

You can't give up your money. If you don't give your hard-earned money back to others, you'll always feel like you're taking advantage of others.

The classmates I had made a few friends with were not very close friends, but I was reluctant to break them up because of this, and I was often upset as a result.

Laughed. I said this person was a friend. She's obviously using you as an ATM. Even though you see her as a friend, the other person still thinks you're being taken advantage of.

When I asked him again if he was still willing to borrow money, Qin Qing shook his head.

I tipped her and told her that the next time she borrowed money from me, I would ask her to write down a loan and write down when she would pay it back. Interest will be added after the due date.

After a while, I asked my friend if he had come to borrow money again. She said no, and then I never talked to her again, just acquaintances in the circle of friends.

After cutting off contact with her friends, Qingqing's life hasn't changed much. Since no one asked her to borrow money, she didn't have to worry about hundreds of dollars a day, which saved her a lot of worries.

Therefore, make more kind friends that make you happy and not the ones that are always causing you trouble.

Some time ago, I watched a Korean drama called "The Life of a Resourceful Doctor". It was originally a tense and bloody medical drama, but it turned out to be unexpectedly warm, real, and down-to-earth.

The magical friendship between the five doctors in the play makes the audience very envious.

The five doctors were classmates from the same medical school, had a close relationship during college, and even formed a band together. After graduating, we worked in different hospitals, but we never lost touch and saw each other often.

After that, I entered different departments of the same hospital and became the "leader" of each department and the "golden signboard" of the hospital.

During working hours, we can exchange experiences with each other, solve difficult problems together, and in free time, we can also chat happily together.

Over the years, these five people have ceased to be just friends, but have become family.

Of course, this is not to encourage everyone to become doctors, but to say that the friends around you are actually a reflection of yourself.

In life, we should associate with people of high moral character and be friends with people with a sense of justice.

High-quality friends represent high-quality socialization. The people you associate with influence who you are and what kind of person you will become.

When we were young, our ability to distinguish between good and bad was still very weak, and our parents were always worried about making bad friends.

Of course, you need to worry about that. You can tell if a child is a good child or a bad child by observing the people around them.

They say it's good to go to a good school and get into a good university. Because it not only means that you will get a better education, but it also means that the students in that school are of higher quality.

A good school not only brings a broader perspective and better opportunities, but also a better accumulation of network resources.

I once read a passage in a book. "Follow a fly and you will find a foul-smelling groove; Follow a bee and you will find a flower; Follow a butterfly and you'll smell a flower. ”

Sun Bing said: "In life, choose a good person as a friend, choose a gentleman as a friend, this is the principle of making friends, fate guides, and be kind to others." Say. To yourself.

Loneliness is the norm in this world. People around me came and went. You have to Xi it, stay calm, and try not to care too much about whether your friends stay or go.

While humans are indeed social animals, we also need to make time for ourselves.

When we move from one environment to another, we are doomed to say goodbye to the old environment.

You may leave your familiar surroundings, say goodbye to familiar colleagues, and lose touch with your former friends.

It doesn't matter, life is a process of constant gains and losses.

Zeng Guofan said: "A person's life or failure depends on whether his friend is virtuous or not, so don't be careless. ”

Every day you meet all kinds of people and come into contact with people from all walks of life. I don't want to be friends with everyone.

Humans don't have much energy to socialize and socialize.

People who come and go are just passers-by, and people who travel together are friends. Make friends with quality, not quantity.

Even if you haven't seen some friends in a long time, when you happen to talk to them, you may find that the nostalgic atmosphere hasn't changed at all.

They will be generous to help you when you need help and will not give any unnecessary explanations.

Don't come here to admire the peak, but don't abandon you in the valley either. Believe that those who are left behind by the tide will always be your true friends.

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