In our parenting journey, we often meet two kinds of children: one is a child who loves to talk, such as Xiaoyue;One is a child who doesn't like to talk, such as Xiaojie. These two types of children have very different personalities, but that doesn't mean their futures will be different. In this article, we will ask the question of who is more productive when the "talkative" and "non-talkative" children grow up, and make some suggestions to help different types of children realize their potential.
Children who love to talk, such as Xiaoyue, tend to have stronger verbal communication skills. They are often able to think flexibly and adapt to change while excelling in group activities. They are happy to answer questions, express their opinions, and have an easier time presenting their talents in social situations. This makes them more competitive in a modern educational environment.
However, they also face some challenges. The current education system generally encourages verbal communication and group work, which can be a disadvantage for introverted or shy children. In fact, studies have shown that teachers often underestimate the academic ability and intelligence of quiet children. Therefore, parents and teachers need to be aware that they should support their child's holistic development by providing a range of learning and Xi channels.
For talkative children, we can encourage them to engage in some beneficial activities. For example, joining a debate club or public speaking workshop can further develop their presentation and presentation skills. At the same time, we should also pay attention to cultivating their listening skills and deep thinking skills. For example, by reading more books, children can be asked to think from different perspectives and instilled in them a critical thinking mindset.
Children who don't talk tend to be more introverted and silent than children who love to talk. They may not be good at expressing their opinions openly and prefer to think and reflect on their own. However, we can't equate introversion with shyness. Introverted children may feel comfortable in small areas of socialization and class discussions, but they excel when working and Xi in a quiet and less stimulating environment. This suggests that although they are not good at verbal expression, they may demonstrate great talent when dealing with thought-intensive tasks.
Some studies have also shown that quiet and shy students may experience difficulties with classroom performance, but this is mainly due to their lack of participation in class discussions and verbal skills, and does not represent a lack of intelligence or potential. Conversely, studies have shown that introverted students may perform better on standardized tests. Therefore, we cannot judge a child's future development simply by their ability to speak, each child has their unique strengths and potential.
For children who do not like to talk, parents and teachers need to be more patient and understanding. It's important to recognize that not being talkative doesn't mean they don't have thoughts or opinions. Parents can support them by providing a quiet Xi environment and encouragement. For example, participating in interest groups or providing them with a personal Xi space to help them gradually improve their social skills while also showcasing their talents in their areas of interest. In addition, like any child, a child who does not like to talk needs to learn to respect and understand others. Parents can gradually develop their social skills and respect for others by setting guidelines and rules, such as taking turns speaking and listening to others.
Parents and educators need to adopt different strategies and approaches when dealing with children who love to talk and those who don't. First of all, for children who love to talk, we need to appreciate and exercise their ability to express themselves, and at the same time, we should also teach them how to listen and think. By participating in some debate or speaking activities, they can develop their speech and presentation skills. At the same time, reading and discussing deep topics can help them develop well-rounded thinking skills.
For children who do not like to talk, parents and educators need to be more patient and understanding. We need to recognize that they have their own unique ways of thinking and potential. Providing them with a Xi environment that is suitable for them and encouraging them to participate in small-scale social activities will help them gradually improve their social skills and self-confidence. In addition, parents and educators should help children develop the ability to respect and understand others and create an environment that respects diversity.
In an educational setting, there are strategies that teachers can also employ to accommodate children with different personalities. For example, for introverted children, you can use a discussion or anonymous response system to give them more opportunities to participate. At the same time, teachers can encourage children to express their ideas and opinions in writing, helping them overcome difficulties in oral expression.
Both talkative and non-talkative children have their own strengths and potentials. Parents and educators should adopt different approaches and strategies to support their child's holistic development, depending on their personality and needs. It is important to recognise that every child is unique and that we should respect their individuality and give them appropriate support and encouragement. Whether children love to talk or not, as long as they are properly educated and guided, there is hope for their future development.