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Rousseau said, "Man is born free, but he is always in chains." ”
People who have few friends can not be coerced by the sophistication of others.
When people are young, they are often very keen to make friends and engage in relationships, because they believe in a saying: the more friends there are, the easier the road to go.
Later, I found out: there are more friends, and there are more pitfalls on the road of life;If you have more friends, you will often be tired by your friends.
A few years ago, a friend called ** at night, saying that I was being bullied and asked me to pull people into a group fight.
I thought to myself, what age is it, do you think it's still the old society?The consequences of fighting in these years are very serious.
If you are bullied, you should call the police in the first place, instead of pulling a group of friends to help you fight.
I hesitated, don't go, my friends won't have to do it in the future;Go ahead, tonight you'll either be dead or wounded, and you'll have to go to jail.
Fortunately, several friends in the past were persuaded to fight, and they all remained rational and did not succeed, otherwise the consequences would be really unimaginable.
One or two real friends are enough;If you have more friends, you will be coerced by all kinds of human feelings and sophistication, but you will not be free.
People who have few friends can not be kidnapped by courtesy exchanges.
Don't think that many of your friends are honorable and that you can answer all of them.
In fact, most of the so-called friendship relationships require money and effort to maintain, and they are not strong.
To put it more bluntly, most of my friends are just friends who drink and meat.
When there is food and drink, everyone has a good relationship, and once it stops, it quickly becomes estranged and separated.
If you want to maintain this kind of friendship, you must constantly spend money to eat and drink, exchange courtesies, and please each other.
The reason why some people want to maintain such friendships is because they always feel that these friends can help when they are in trouble.
Human favors are debts, it is better to save money, and when there are really difficulties to deal with, it is good to spend money to find professional people to solve them, and it is good to solve problems as a business.
If you have fewer friends with alcohol and meat, you will have fewer entertainment, but you will be more free, and those you need to deliberately please are not real friends.
People who have few friends can be bold and be themselves.
When you have a lot of friends, there are always some "warm-hearted" friends who can't help but give you "guidance" on all aspects of life.
They will measure your life by their own standards, and if you don't live by their standards, they will think you are wrong.
There are people who infiltrate your life without boundaries and intervene in your life.
In such a situation, it is very difficult for you to be yourself, to do what you want to do, to live your life the way you like.
Eventually, you will find that the narrower your social circle, the more free you are, and thus, the ultimate freedom comes down to loneliness.
We prefer a time when no one cares about us to a day when someone is controlling our emotions.
Those meaningless socializing, pure wine and meat staggering, really draining the spirit.
The best state of life is not the general recognition of the outside world, but the ability to be yourself calmly.
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