In the journey of life, everyone has experienced various social situations and relationships to a greater or lesser extent.
Especially when we enter middle age, we need to use experience and wisdom to interpret people's hearts and gain insight into the world.
When people reach middle age, they must remember the following 4 sentences, which can help you see a person clearly, and they are reasonable, which is worth everyone's pondering and remembering.
First, borrow money to see a person's sincerity.
Money is a product of the development of human society and a common medium of exchange in social interaction.
In traditional Chinese culture, people pay attention to "one word and nine crowns", and a person's credit can often be reflected by whether they can repay the loan on time.
When a friend or loved one borrows money from us, we should lend it with kindness and trust.
Through this process, we can see whether the other party is generous or stingy and selfish, whether there is credit or lack of credit.
If the other party repeatedly delays and does not pay back when he is able, it often means that his sincerity may not be sincere, which will make us keep a clear head in the money exchange and treat the relationship carefully.
For example, if a friend borrows money from you to pay for his medical bills, and you lend one penny, but he never pays back, you can see from this experience whether his sincerity is worth befriending.
Second, interests, see clearly the good and bad of a person.
Selfishness is a common characteristic of human beings, and interests are a common bond in social interactions.
After middle age, people will gradually understand that contact in the relationship of interests is inevitable, and it is the ability that everyone must have to clearly distinguish the good and the bad in the relationship of interests.
In business transactions, partnerships, workplace competitions, etc., by observing the performance and attitude of others in the face of interests, we can gain insight into a person's behavior and moral character.
For example, in a business cooperation, you find that the partner has adopted deceptive and dishonest means in the distribution of benefits, which gives you a clearer idea of his character and character.
Third, power, see a person's character clearly.
In interpersonal relations and social interactions, power often becomes a standard for measuring people's character, because power has great power on people, and can make people's true attitudes and behaviors more visible.
Especially in the workplace or social circle, when we meet people with a certain amount of power, their words and deeds can often reflect their character and cultivation.
By observing their attitude towards their subordinates and towards the disadvantaged, we can clearly see whether a person remains humble and kind in the face of power.
For example, whether a leader is dignified and fair in dealing with the problems of his subordinates, whether he enforces the law without selfish desires, these can help us deeply understand the character of the leader.
Fourth, suffering, can see a person's true feelings.
Seeing the truth in adversity is precisely the embodiment of people's true nature in adversity.
Whether in family or friendship, it is only when adversity strikes that we can truly see the true feelings of our relatives and friends around us.
When faced with difficulties, true friends and loved ones will not hesitate to lend a helping hand, encourage and support.
For example, when you suffer a serious illness or family difficulties, those relatives and friends who can genuinely care and help will give you a deeper understanding of their true feelings.
These 4 sentences are not only useful advice for middle-aged people, they are also a kind of life wisdom and life principles, which are worth keeping in mind for everyone in social interactions.
Through these 4 sentences, people can understand themselves and the people around them more deeply after middle age, stay sober, calm and rational, and gain insight into people's hearts and the world.