I have been in the system for many years, and I have experienced a lot of blind dates, from the age of 22 to the age of 30, and finally found my other half, and I have changed from a blind date participant to a bystander.
In one. In third- and fourth-tier cities, the work within the system naturally has certain advantages, that is, the wide recognition of the society, whether it is the future development of this place and the stability of life, will be favored by the parents' generation, so from entry to marriage, whether it is relatives, friends or leadership colleagues, everyone will always remember you, and constantly introduce you, as I find the other half, my mentality and feelings have changed a lot.
When I first joined the company, I was young, with the strength of students to be free and independent, and I was still a little repulsive about blind dates.
This situation can continue until the age of twenty-seven or eighteen, with the stability of the job, the entertainment heart is restrained, and the initiative to accept the blind date, others will talk about it, see it, and every time you have to say to yourself that it is for the purpose of making friends, but it is not suitable and basically does not contact.
If you can't meet the right one, you won't be in a hurry to get together, and if you meet someone who feels okay, you will take the initiative to talk more about it, and the days go by quickly, and when you are almost 30 years old, the pressure of age will be revealed, and if you don't have any achievements and achievements in other aspects of work at this time, the sense of pressure and task when you go on a blind date will be more prominent.
After getting married, the change in mentality is very noticeable. The first is that I don't have to bear the pressure of blind dates brought about by age anymore, and I have changed from a person who was asked if I was looking for a partner to someone who could ask others if I was looking for it.
In the past, as a participant, I only focused on my own blind date, and rarely felt the overall situation of the people around me or the industry unit, but now I have a different experience when I stand in the perspective of a bystander and look at the blind date situation in the system at the age of 30.
There was a blind date before, the leader introduced, the age is two years older than me, and now the age is also running to 35, the girl herself is a supernumerary member of the institutional unit, ordinary education, and she is an ordinary person, but the conditions at home are really good, and the leader in the parental system is not a small leader.
To say that in a small place this is a very high configuration, but this girl just can't find a suitable one. 30 After a pass, not only the family is anxious, but also began to be anxious, I used to only look for a little older than myself, but now I am older, about 2 years younger than myself, I can accept it, and the family is to mobilize relatives and friends to introduce, let me provide some resources.
However, in the current situation, people still have a hard requirement, which must be within the system. Our leaders were also entrusted by others to inquire in many ways, looking everywhere, and one day we were thinking about whether there was a suitable one in the unit, but there was no suitable one except for one who had passed forty. Faced with this situation, our leaders couldn't help but sigh that it is really difficult to find a suitable man in the system now.
In the face of such a dilemma, there are several colleagues in the daughter-in-law's unit, who are still relatively good in terms of their own conditions, all of them are graduate students from key universities, and their family conditions are also good, but they always limit the scope of their blind dates to the system, which leads to the small number of blind dates, and it is even more difficult to meet the right ones.
At first glance, it seems that men in the system have become fragrant and sweet, and everyone is rushing to ask for it, but in fact, it is not necessarily the case. In fact, the main thing is still in small places, and the location within the system is the biggest attraction.
So why do you feel that there are more single women in the system and fewer single men?
First of all, I think it's because everyone or elders will feel that the men in the system will be relatively mature and stable, and a stable job will be guaranteed, so the blind date may give priority to this part of the people, and in the whole society, this part of the people is also popular;The second reason is that the blind date market does not seem to be particularly enthusiastic about women in the system (except for teachers), it may be that the society is prejudiced against women, and women are also placed in the position of taking care of the family, so work may not be the most important (work is idle, and it may be more advantageous to have more time at home);Another possible reason is that there are fewer men in the system now, which also makes the men in the system seem to be a scarce resource.
What do you guys think?
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