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Parents now think differently, and girls are no longer a stepping stone for boysIt has become a "intimate little padded jacket" for parents
Parents with children are also paving the way for their daughters since they were young, taking their daughters to travel to see the world, taking their daughters in and out of various restaurants, buying their daughters favorite toys, dressing their daughters as little princesses, teaching girls to maintain their image and temperament, cultivating their daughters to be gentle and virtuous, etcYes, we deeply appreciate the importance of "rich daughters".
But after all, parents are only companions on the road to their daughter's growth, and they are destined to only accompany her for a while.
So instead of carefully trying to protect her, it is better to teach her how to improve herself and bring her own armor to protect herself. There are three "hole cards" in a girl's life, and it is difficult to buy them.
A girl who doesn't study and doesn't progress, even if she looks good, can only attract low-level interesting peopleShe can't really attract excellent classmates, integrate into excellent circles, make high-quality friends, and she can't get a decent job and find a satisfactory spouse in the future.
The girl has excellent grades, brilliant writing, and elegant temperament, which is your hole card, and we have to tell our daughterPeople's faces will gradually age with the passage of time, and people's emotions will also change because of ability and the passage of time, and nothing is immutableOnly your knowledge and knowledge are the confidence to protect you, and the girl is constantly working hard and enriching herself, which is putting on armor for herself and blocking some worldly and **.
Girls read a lot of books, have a wider horizon, can see higher mountains, wider seas, bluer skies, and meet better people.
It's like if you work hard in elementary school, you can be admitted to a good junior high school, you can enter a key high school in junior high school, meet better classmates, you can enter a key university in high school, meet more excellent classmates, you can be admitted to a more powerful graduate school after graduation, and find a high-quality boy to be your partner. At this time, your vision is no longer limited to the place where you were originally born, because of your efforts, along the way, you are constantly meeting better people to match your efforts.
Daughter, you are working hard to improve your knowledge reserves, and you are trying to improve your knowledge, you are saying goodbye to unreasonable, sprinkling, and unreasonable, you are improving your good luck, accumulating blessings, and your efforts before the age of 30 are the best for a happy life after the age of 30.
With it, you have more choices, you can do what you like, reject people you don't like, and live the life you want to live. Your efforts will help you realize your childhood wishes, people go to high places, and a girl's first hole card is to arm herself with knowledge, which is far more important than looks and money.
Because a woman's youth is short, money will make you look young on the outside, but knowledge will make you meet someone who matches your soul. The best luxury is knowledge, and with it, you outperform many people.
Daughter, you must know since childhood, youth is capital, but not indulgence, Tang Dumu has poetry"More than thirteen years old, cardamom tips in early February. ”It's natural for girls to love beauty, but don't focus too much on getting dressed, especially before the age of 18, because you have more important things to do before the age of 18.
Today's girls are precocious, some enter puberty at the age of 12, begin to be ignorant and curious, some have a crush on others, and some girls begin to fall in love. But young children don't know what early love is, what is real like, but mom has seen too many girls who fall in love with girls in junior high school, and the little couple walks on the street in pairs, in fact, it is understandable to have a good impression of the opposite sexBut it's really not good to fall in love too early.
But my mother has a friend who works in the obstetrics and gynecology department of the hospital, and she told me that every year there are many female students in high school and even college who go to do human beings, and some are even younger, and the children are afraid of being scolded by adults, so they basically go to a less formal ** hospital for surgeryBut young children don't really understand anything, and they don't know how much surgery hurts their bodies. What are the implications for the future.
The lack of sexual knowledge, coupled with the ignorance of adolescence, doomed many girls to embark on the road of giving up self-esteem and self-love in high school or even college. Falling in love imprudently has little impact on boys, but the impact on girls is related to a lifetime.So my mother reminds all parents who have daughtersCompared with knowledge, knowledge, and money, teaching her daughter to protect herself is the most important thing. But my mother once read a book"Daughter, you have to learn to protect yourself"., teach parents how to correctly guide girls into puberty, and at the same time want to cultivate self-esteem and self-love for girls, to do 4 points.
01Make friends, stay away from bad friends, and learn to recognize people
Girls are deceived, or defiled, in the endI don't know how to read people, can't see what a real friend is, treat a bad friend as a friend, and be a friend with such a person, sooner or later you will suffer.
Confucius once said:"The beneficiary has three friends, and the loser has three friends. ”Helpful friends areHonest friends, honest friends, knowledgeable friends。Harmful friends areA friend who flatters, a friend who is behind a set of things, and a friend who talks about it.
So it's important to teach girls to be cautious about making friends. Be friends with someoneWe must learn to observe, feel the details with our hearts, and test friendship with practiceIf a person can give us positive energy, can make you feel happy, you can be friends with him. A true friend will point out your mistakes and make you progress, not jealous and suppress you.
02 Self-help skills that girls need to master
Girls are weak and have little strength, what if they encounter danger when they go out?What to do in the face of danger?
First of all, if someone is following you, stay calm, observe the surroundings and try to walk in crowded places, speed up your pace, and if you can't get rid of the bad guys, you can ask passers-by for help. When danger comes, don't worry about face, and ask for help. But don't go head-to-head with the bad guys.
Don't usually travel alone, walk at nightBefore going out, you must inform your family, do not meet with netizens, usually show your talents, do not show off, and take regular transportation.
03 Stay away from all kinds of **
Many girls will be bought by men's rhetoric and small favors, you know"Greedy for small and cheap and big loss".。Many girls see others sending a bouquet of flowers, and some snacks think that they really like themselves and promise each otherSome scumbags specialize in looking for girls who are greedy for cheap to deceive their feelings, such as sending clothes, bags, mobile phones, etc., and even some gifts are not cheap.
But to take people short, girls to know that they are profitableCheapness comes at a cost.
Not greedy for cheap is actually an act of self-preservation in a sense, when others stretch out a hand to us, it is like luring small fish with bait. This little bargain is the bait, if we keep the bottom line and don't take the bait, we can get away with it.04 How to fall in love correctlyIt is also a girl's life to experience with a different **, but this skill needs to be learned, usually make more friends, observe the words and deeds of different friends, but screen real friends,At the same time, correct the attitude, do not be afraid of liking the opposite sex, and maintain a normal attitude.
Don't panic if you have a crush with the opposite sex, keep a safe distance and retain your liking for each otherPuppy love is not recommended before the age of 18. Always remember not to have physical contact with the opposite sex。Don't behave too intimately, if the opposite sex asks you to go to the library, watch a movie, etc., if it's a public place, you can go to the appointment, if it's a private place, it's not recommended to go. Be generous and decent, behave well, have a calm mind, and treat friendship correctly.
A person's appearance may increase her chances, but her character can win her more long-term security. A girl with a cheerful personality and stable emotions is more popular and has more friends than a girl who is unreasonable, sprinkling and rolling around, and doing extreme things.
On campus, we see that girls with good personalities are generous, can play with both boys and girls, and have many good friends. A girl is strong and gentle, and she embodies the beautiful qualities of women.
To know whether it is a man or a woman,Personality and emotions are things that follow you all your life, if you are gentle as jade, everyone around you feels happy and happy, if you are independent and confident, not only do you live well, but the people around you will respect you.
It is often said that:"Character determines destiny".。What kind of character a girl has, what kind of fate she will have. In the relationship between men and women, you have similar interests, and the three views are the same to really come together, a girl with a good characterEvery smile, every movement, and every word they say can make people feel their unique temperament and charm.
So raise girls,Parents must teach her to keep these three "hole cards", and the girl's future will definitely become smoother and smoother.