Let me show you a set of dialogues:
What do you think?
It turns out that "forgetting" is not only the preserve of children, but also adults.
This has happened to pudding before, and the whole process is ridiculous.
It was a study trip to Zibo organized by the Pudding School for three days and two nights.
To be honest, I'm in favor of my child traveling independently, and my only concern is whether he will be able to bring his things back.
Why don't you say that it is his parents who know the child best?
Pudding research works well, but-
When the pudding returned, I noticed that several of my clothes and pants were missing.
When I asked about the pudding, he said in a daze, "Ah, isn't that all there are to you?"
In fact, I took a look at how many pieces he took away, usually in sets, and saw that these brought back should be missing 2 short sleeves, 3 pairs of pants, and a pair of socks.
Sure enough, as soon as I asked in the research group, the research teacher sent a **.
* There are clothes, pants, cups, socks, hats, etc.
And the pudding's clothes are among them.
The research teacher said that when the next research group came, that is, on the weekend, he would bring it over.
I showed the pudding the ** and asked him, how many have you lost?
Pudding said that these should be mine, and I don't know why I didn't pack my suitcase.
Pudding's dad said, why didn't you lose yourself?
Pudding replied very seriously, the teacher won't let it.
This answer made me and Daddy Pudding cry and laugh directly.
This is just a typical story of Pudding's weak "alertness", in fact, in Pudding's school career over the years, there are at least ten or eight pieces a year.
For example, if you wear a school uniform jacket to school, you feel hot and take it off. When you get home in the evening, you'll find that he's back wearing only a polo shirt. Ask him, where is the school uniform jacket?He scratched his head, thought for a long time, and said that it seemed to be on the playground.
For example, when winter came, he specially chose a Bikachu thermos cup that he liked very much, and asked him to bring it back to scrub it on Friday, and the result told you that when he was in art class, he put it in the art classroom, and when he went back, he didn't know where to go.
For example, when I went home, when I was writing my homework, I found that I didn't bring back my homework or textbooks, and this kind of normalized behavior made me very distressed. I said that fortunately, it was a 20-minute bike ride from the school, and it was convenient to get a trip, otherwise, don't think about it, just stay at school the next day to make up for homework.
There are so many forgetful events like this that it feels like a big head to talk about. But I don't know if your baby has the same kind of performance?
Seeing these "forgetting" properties of adults and puddings above, do you resonate?
Anyway, I really have resonance, because I also have this kind of disappointment.
However, from a fundamental point of view, why do children have such a weak "alertness"?
First of all, the first thing that comes to mind is the child's lack of life experience.
Yes, this can account for about 50% of the "forgetful" things that happen in daily life. Take Pudding going out to study and losing clothes as an example, in fact, if you are like us adults who have experience, we will check the whole room when we pack our luggage on the last day, and then check our clothes, and under normal circumstances, we will not miss any items.
But for children, especially those who don't travel often, it's a matter of life experience. They didn't figure out how to apply it to this kind of study, so it became common to lose things.
Second, the child's attention is not on these items.
We all know that if you are really interested in this thing and have attention, then you will be very sensitive to this item, once lost, you will find it immediately, instead of waiting until others see that you have lost it and ask, only to know that you have lost something.
The child's attention is distracted, not on the lost items, but on the things around them. Because of the lack of concentration, the observation and judgment of naturally lost things are also inaccurate.
Finally, young age has an impact.
Children have different levels of maturity, for example, girls are more mature than boys, and it is easier for them to know how to put their own things away. And for the little boy, he is optimistic about his own things, just because he has been told many times, and even so, he will still forget about it when he is enjoying the game.
In addition to these three main reasons, such as occasional lack of sleep, bad spirit, and forgetting things is also normal, including sudden emotional fluctuations in children, such as being reprimanded by teachers, such as harsh parenting, etc., which will make children divert their attention and forget things.
A child's weak alertness does not mean that the child cannot improve, as long as the fundamental adjustment is made, the child will naturally improve this alertness.
In order to improve this "memory" for the pudding, I have adopted several methods that I can refer to for you:
Method 1: Develop concentration
When the concentration is on something, that thing is bound to gain children's interest. Parents can consciously cultivate their children's concentration at home, cultivate their children's observation of the surroundings, carefully check the people or things around them, and better cultivate their own concentration, which will greatly improve their vigilance in the future.
Method 2: Life experience is subtle
Life experience is the accumulation of life experience, and for children, this will be somewhat difficult, after all, their experience is relatively small. But no matter what, if parents try to bring their children with them when doing some things, let them participate in it, and practice, in this way, children will turn their life experience into their own experience, and draw inferences from other places in the future.
Method 3: Guide your child to express yourself
Expression is a great way to lift. Because when children express, they will do everything in detail, and by guiding children to express, they will often pay attention to the detailed content, so that there will be no loss. For example, in the case of forgetting homework, if you sort out the homework and then express it yourself, the children will definitely remember it.
Method 4: Improve cognitive level
Cognitive ability is a good way for a person to truly understand the world, but the improvement of cognition depends not only on life, but also on learning, such as reading, watching movies, listening to **, etc., these multi-faceted and multi-dimensional cognitive framework construction, can effectively improve children's thinking level, help children improve alertness.
Everyone has had this "embarrassing" stage of forgetting, but these are not important, what matters is how to turn this somewhat normalized forgetting into "memory".
Children are developing individuals, and naturally, it is urgent to improve their memory.
I don't know how do you feel about these methods provided by Pudding's mother?
If you have a better way, feel free to share it with me.
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