Which book have you been most fortunate to read?
I'm most glad this year.
Read this book "The Courage to Be Hated".
From the moment I opened it, my change began to turn the gears.
In the past time.
I've always been afraid of not being liked by others, so I'd rather wronged myself.
They will also accommodate and cater to others.
When someone else's tone is not right, I will not think about it and can't sleep.
I once asked myself why?
So concerned about other people's eyes and other people's feelings?
It's so tiring to live.
Now I understand the essence of it.
The essence is that I crave the approval of others.
Because I think I'm only valuable if I'm recognized by others.
Live completely in the expectations and approvals of others.
In this book.
I saw a point that struck me.
That is, the separation of topics.
Whose problem is it to be distinguished?
It's your own subject, and you have to be brave enough to make your own choices.
Because we don't have to live in other people's expectations.
Others don't live to meet your expectations.
If we are afraid of other people's evaluations and care about other people's eyes, we can't be our true selves.
But the separation of topics is not for the sake of going.
Alienated, maverick, self-righteous, but to unravel the intricacies of human relationships.
I understand. It's about cultivating your third vision to see things as they are.
Topic separation will also occur.
When we make a mistake in our choice, we have the courage to take the consequences of our choice and face it positively.
When faced with other people's problems, we should not interfere with them, but give them a firm trust and tell them that I am always there and can help you no matter what.
You can take a horse to the water, but you can't force it to drink."
Mo Yan said: Don't disturb other people's cause and effect and qi.
Otherwise, it is itself that is lost.
Only by distinguishing between you and me, between objective facts and subjective conjectures, can we live our own lives.