In our lives, whether it is adults or children, there will be happy and unhappy times, especially as parents, there are all kinds of bad things to occupy our hearts, always feel that the work is not smooth, the children are not worrying, the family atmosphere is very depressing, the relationship between husband and wife and parents is not harmonious and intimate, life is stressful, depressed and lacks happiness......
In this case, we might as well take some inspiration from flies. Flies are not our favorite, because they often come and go in dirty and erosive places, which brings a lot of trouble to people's lives. But one thing that is very strange is that flies have never been infected with other germs, even though they often deal with garbage and even use it for food. Studies have shown that the digestive system of flies is very good, from eating, digestion to excretion of waste, it only takes about 10 seconds, so to speak, germs have just entered its body, and before it has had time to multiply in large quantities, it has been quickly excreted from its body. In the parent-child relationship in family life, we are often prone to anxiety and complaints, lack of happiness and vitality, the reason is that we let the "garbage" stay, store the negative things in the eyes and hearts, and repeatedly ponder the thoughts, so that the negative emotions continue to ferment and spread, not only drowning their own mood, but also affecting the people around us sooner or later, especially family members and children.
So what should we do with the "garbage" in our hearts?First of all, don't be a "garbage can". No matter how rich or good a family is, there must always be a few garbage bins, and there must be some useless things to clean up regularly. That is to say, no matter how good everyone or everything is, there will always be positive and negative sides, the positive ones should be left behind, and the negative ones should be discarded regularly. Don't be a "garbage can" to collect some negative information such as gossip, slander, criticism, and judgment, and as a result, you will be contaminated and you will be inexplicably depressed.
Secondly, we need to learn to "take out the trash". The usual practice is to talk to someone when you feel uncomfortable, especially to keep communicating with your other half, do not stay overnight in conflicts, and solve them on the same day, which is easier to promote the harmony of husband and wife!You can also talk more with your children like friends, which enhances the parent-child relationship, children can better understand and understand their parents, and their emotions can also be released and comforted, so that the cycle goes on and on, and family life, husband and wife relationship, and parent-child relationship will become more and more harmonious!