A few days ago, when the family was chatting in **, the daughter suddenly said that she wanted to live with her boyfriend so that she could save money, and asked if the family agreed
Her mother's face immediately darkened, I saw that the family war was about to break out, and I quickly took the phone to ease the atmosphere, I was also very infarcted in my heart, and the daughter who had worked hard to raise was going to follow others like this, which was very unpleasant, but I still said "I agree, I will do your mother's work." That's when my daughter had a smiling face.
Then I said to my daughter, before making a decision, I want to make it clear to you, our family is very traditional, you also know the atmosphere of your hometown, if you live with your boyfriend before marriage, what relatives and friends think, you also know, so don't blame your mother for being feudal, although I am more open-minded, we are also people with heads and faces in the village, people always want face, and everyone's saliva can be drowned. What's more important is that you should think about the following three points clearly.
First, there is the question of the order of marriage and cohabitation.
It's not that I'm feudal, it's because we love you, I don't want to leave it to someone else, if you do it after marriage before marriage, others will look down on you and us, marriage is never a matter of two and two families, we have no initiative when talking about marriage in the future, what house, car, bride price, wedding can only be left to the man's decision, I know maybe you think these are not important, you also know that your father and I are a high-minded person, but people's lives must always be based on material.
The daughter began to think.
Secondly, what should you do if the passion recedes and you can't get along.
The two are together, their ears and temples are grinding, after a long time, they can see everything clearly, if the emotional personality does not get along, they are bound to break up, at that time you are no longer young, the man is a little older, and there is nothing, you can afford to wait, but the woman can't, so what to do?Daughter, if a woman gives herself to a man without warning, if this man has responsibility and responsibility, and can live happily, it can only be said that she is lucky. If she encounters a big carrot with no sense of responsibility, then the pain is not only for her alone, but also for her relatives to be dragged down, and the list goes on.
The daughter's expression was very solemn.
Thirdly, if you live together for a long time, you may get pregnant.
As long as you are pregnant with a child, what house, car, bride price, wedding, then there is no need to talk about it, and the matter of marriage is also hastily discussed, the child grows up in your body day by day, the man can afford to wait, but can we wait?Would you like that?
Of course, there is another situation, that is, the man insists that you kill the child, there is no room for it, are you reluctant?Even if you are willing, the injury will ultimately be my daughter, you, you yourself will be hurt, but the most painful is your mother, can you bear to let your mother suffer?
Of course, there is another situation of long-term cohabitation, that is, not conceiving a child, but this situation is not good, and the man's family may also have other thoughts, such as thinking that you are infertile, and then you will not have a good time when you enter their house.
Hearing this, my daughter spoke, and my dad and I decided to live independently and spend a little more rent.
It is not easy to raise a daughter, the happiness of a daughter is the happiness of her parents, at an important juncture, parents should be a good adviser for her, marriage is a contract, not only the interests of two people, but the interests of two, so you must, take it seriously.