In family education, doting is a problem that cannot be ignored, spoiling big children is a "pet", and children who are used to being big are "waste". Many parents are well aware of the truth of "habitual children are like killing children", but it is often difficult to grasp the degree of actual operation. This article will provide an in-depth analysis of the seven major doting behaviors to help parents better understand how to avoid excessive spoiling and cultivate their children's independent qualities.
First, special treatment can easily give children a sense of superiority, which in turn leads to a decline in their adaptability and difficulty in integrating into the group and society. What children need is not special treatment, but equality and respect. Parents should let their children know that everyone is equal and that no one deserves special treatment.
Second, begging for a complaint is also an undesirable act. This kind of behavior will make children have the mentality of getting something for nothing, thinking that as long as they are coquettish and cheating, they can achieve their goals. In the long run, children will become more and more irresponsible, lacking autonomy and independence.
Third, easy gratification is also an act of doting. Children need to learn to cherish and be grateful, instead of taking everything for granted. Parents should appropriately refuse their children's requests and make them understand that not everything is readily available.
Fourth, the impact of laziness on children is also profound. A child with a regular and disciplined life is more likely to succeed. Parents should help their children establish good habits, such as regular schedules and eating arrangements, and encourage them to participate in outdoor activities and physical exercise.
Fifth, substitution will deprive children of the opportunity to practice, resulting in low ability. Parents should let go appropriately and let the child try to solve the problem on their own. Even if they fail, encourage your child to learn from them and keep improving their abilities.
Sixth, being too protective of children will make children dependent and lack the ability to think independently and solve problems. Parents should encourage their children to face problems bravely and learn to think independently and make decisions independently. At the same time, children should understand that they need to take responsibility for their actions.
Seventh, the fear of crying is also a sign of doting. A child's crying is a way for them to express their emotions, and parents cannot unconditionally meet their requests because they are afraid of their child's crying. This will make the child become uncontrollable and difficult to adapt to social life. Parents should teach their children to express their emotions correctly and help them learn to control their emotions.
In the process of educating children, parents need to grasp the degree and avoid excessive spoiling. At the same time, it is also important to realize that children need to go through some trials and setbacks in the process of growing up. Only by cultivating children's independent qualities from an early age, allowing them to learn to cherish and be grateful, have the courage to face problems and think and make decisions independently, can they go further and more steadily on the road of life in the future. Therefore, what parents can do is to accompany and support each other, and in the end, it is up to the children to go by themselves. Only in this way can children become better, more confident, and more independent individuals through continuous learning and growth. Parent-child education