Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
Many children and many blessings", "Rich is not rich, some people are not poor", "What are you doing with a lot of money?".Will you call your dad, will you call your mom?"The conventional wisdom is that the more children, the better.
However, now that the policy has been liberalized, it is allowed to have a second child and a third child, but there are still so many people who are stubborn and only need one child. Why is that?It is known that there are several reasons:
First, the pressure is too much. The first is economic pressure. The cost of a child from birth to adulthood** is too high. Milk powder, diapers, going to school, getting married, buying a house, ......In the end, there are no hundreds of thousands or millions of them, and the problem cannot be solved.
Secondly, work pressure. Young people nowadays are under too much pressure to work. No matter what unit it is, the leader wants political performance, the boss wants efficiency, overtime has become the norm of work, even if you are pregnant, there is no one to take care of it, if you ask for leave, you will face unemployment, they dare not get pregnant and dare not give birth.
Again, life stress. It's okay for in-laws and parents to help, but if they can't help or don't help, young mothers have to hire nannies or quit their jobs, which creates new financial pressures. Even if some in-laws or parents come to help, the mother has to work, take care of the children, do housework, often anxious, unable to do it, sometimes because of taking care of the children or family trivialities, between husband and wife or between the elders, which many young parents are unwilling to face.
Second, there are too many contradictions. If there is only one child, all the love of the parents is given to one child, and the parents live a relatively simple life. If there are two or three children, the love of the parents will be divided to the west or three. If parents are not careful, they will take care of one or the other, especially when it comes to helping their children take care of their children.
Secondly, between children and children, because of comparison, benefit distribution, pension and other issues, there are disagreements, contradictions, when parents want to help coordinate, it is also painstaking.
Third, the problem of pension is even more difficult to solve. If a child, parents do not have to choose, the child has nowhere to shirk, and the problem of pension is easier to solve. If there are multiple children, the children are fighting each other, and the elderly are at a loss, they don't know how to choose, they can't get it right, and they will live on the street with no one to support the elderly.
Facts have proved that parents with only one child have less pressure in life, fewer family conflicts, and simpler pension, which is why many young parents do not have second or third children.