On the day of retirement, I helped a mother and daughter on the shuttle bus and changed the fate of our family
One day in April, I finally completed my retirement and left the county unit where I had worked for many years. Back in the dormitory where I had lived for a long time, two packages were waiting for me quietly, and the packages were my daily necessities.
When I looked around the dormitory for the last time, reminiscing about the bits and pieces it carried, I took the two packages in my hand and left the place that had accompanied me in tears.
I wanted to say goodbye to my colleagues, after all, we have worked together for many years, and I don't know when we will see each other again. But many colleagues are not there, some are away on business, some are in meetings. I turned in the direction of the office, whispered "goodbye", as if just to comfort myself, and left the unit gloomily, flagged down a taxi at the door, and drove towards the station.
Last night, my son called me and promised to pick me up by car. But early this morning, he came again, saying that he couldn't come to pick me up because of something temporary, so he could only let me take the shuttle home by myself.
Ask him what happened?At first he didn't say it, afraid that I would be upset. But after my repeated questioning, he gradually confessed, and sure enough, as I expected, the reason was that my grandson suddenly missed him, and he decided to spend the whole day with his grandson. The son is 31 years old, married at the age of 25, and the daughter-in-law gave birth to a boy the following year. At that time, I was working in the county seat, and I couldn't accompany my daughter-in-law during confinement, so I was all taken care of by my daughter-in-law's mother. It is often said that children are the bond of affection between husband and wife, and with children, the relationship between husband and wife is stronger. I also thought that this was the case, and I didn't worry too much about my son and daughter-in-law. It wasn't until last year, when they suddenly divorced, that I came to realize that couples with children could also be heading for divorce. Only the affection dies, and the child cannot save the marriage. My son and daughter-in-law told me the news after they went through the divorce procedures. Surprised, I asked my son what the reason was. He replied: "There is no clear reason, it's just that we lost our feelings for each other, we quarreled when we met, and now we don't even want to quarrel anymore, and divorce may be better." "I took a day off and went back to my hometown. All the belongings of my daughter-in-law and grandson have been taken by her, which made me realize that my grandson would prefer to stay with his mother. I asked my son, "Why doesn't the child stay with me?"He said, "The child is reluctant to leave his mother." "I wanted to see my grandson, so I asked my son to call my daughter-in-law, hoping that she would bring the child to my house or we agreed on a place. Fortunately, my daughter-in-law was quite reasonable, and she came to my house with her child. When I saw my grandson, I couldn't put it into words, I was both happy and a little sad. I longed to hug my grandson, but he hid behind his daughter-in-law and was not close to me. There is nothing to blame for the child, because I work in the county and can only spend a limited amount of time with him during the year, and it is normal for us to lack affection.
My daughter-in-law asked my grandson to call me "grandma", and my grandson called me softly.
Not long after they stayed at my house, my grandson didn't want to stay anymore and was clamoring to go back to his grandmother's house. I felt a little depressed at first, but I quickly relieved myself. Over the years, the grandson has spent more time at his grandmother's house, and it is his grandmother who takes care of him. Therefore, it is not surprising that the grandson has more affection for his grandmother's family.
I gave my daughter-in-law a thousand dollars. Although she and my son are divorced, our grandson will always be part of our family. I hope that my daughter-in-law can use the money to buy something for her grandson that he likes, toys, clothes, snacks, anything that the grandson likes.
My daughter-in-law thanked me and left with her grandson.
As an elderly person, everyone wants their children to have a happy marriage and a happy family. After my son's divorce, I hope that he can find his beloved as soon as possible and rebuild a happy family.
I asked my colleagues, relatives and friends about a suitable match, hoping to introduce them to my son. But the son has already been divorced once, and he is not too young, so it is not easy to find the right person.
I hope my son and daughter-in-law can get back together. Whenever I come home from vacation, I go to my mother's house. On the one hand, it is to see the grandson, and on the other hand, it is to keep in touch with the daughter-in-law and understand her thoughts.
If the daughter-in-law is also willing to remarry, things will be much easier.
The mother-in-law also hoped that they would be able to remarry, and she asked her daughter-in-law, but the daughter-in-law replied, "The divorce was a deliberate decision made by me, and I did not consider remarriage." ”
The daughter-in-law has met several single men, but probably for various reasons, they did not continue in the end.
In the blink of an eye, they have been divorced for more than a year, the son has not yet found a new partner, and the daughter-in-law has been single. I intend to have more time after retirement and will definitely do my best to help them get back together. After leaving my workplace, I went to the bus stop and waited for a while for the shuttle bus to start checking in. I got into the car with the package in hand. Nowadays, almost every household has a private car, so there are very few people who take the shuttle. There was only a mother and daughter who got into the car with me, the mother was about thirty years old, very young, and the girl was about two or three years old. There were very few passengers on the shuttle, only a dozen people. The mother and daughter found an empty seat to sit down, the mother held the girl, and I also found an empty seat to sit down. After the shuttle leaves the station, it travels on the road. About ten miles away, the young mother said to the driver, "Master, can you stop for a moment?"I need to go to the toilet. "The driver stopped the car on the side of the road. By this time, the girl had fallen asleep in her mother's arms. The mother tried to wake up the girl, but she was probably too sleepy, and the mother called her two or three times, and she was still asleep.
The girl did not wake up, and the mother was helpless and could not get out of the car.
I stood up and walked over to her and said to the young mother, "Let me take care of the baby." "The young mother thanked me for giving me her baby, and I sat down to hold this cute little guy and looked at his innocent smiling face, and a wave of longing for her grandson welled up in my heart. Over the years, the busyness of work has made me rarely spend time with my grandson, which makes me feel sorry, and I realize that I owe a lot to my grandson, and if I have the opportunity, I want to make up for it. When the young mother came back, she wanted to pick up the baby, but I said, "Don't disturb him, let him sleep in my arms a little longer, I enjoy the feeling of holding the baby." The young mother modestly said, "Sorry for making you tired." ”
We sat on the bus and started talking. She was very open and willing to talk, sharing her name, hometown, and even her divorce experience without reservation. She told me that she divorced her husband last year. The parties disagree on many aspects, she likes to dye her hair red, which her husband can't accept;Again, she couldn't understand why her husband always had to cut his hair short. Once, they quarreled over putting the child to sleep, and she said angrily: "Maybe it's time for us to get a divorce, it's not appropriate for us to be together, and it's not good for the child." The husband responded, "Then leave, I can find a better one without you." "On the spur of the moment, they really got divorced. After separation, she wanted to find a new partner, but with children, it was difficult to find someone willing to accept her. And the husband also tried to start a new relationship, but both blind dates were not as good as her. Later, they rekindled the fire of love for each other by reconnecting. A year later, they decided to remarry. After the remarriage, they no longer quarreled. Her husband said that her dyed red hair was really more attractive than her black hair, while she praised him for making him look younger and more energetic with his short hair.
What was once a disadvantage has become an advantage. "Now I understand that husbands and wives need to discover each other's strengths, rather than constantly focusing on their weaknesses, and learn to appreciate each other, so that their marriages can be longer and more stable," the young mother concluded. After sharing her experience, she turned to me and asked, "Auntie, are you going to the city to run errands?"I replied, "No, I just retired today and returned to my hometown from the county seat." She was surprised and asked, "You work in the county, why is your home in the countryside?"I explained: "When I was younger, I fell in love with a country boy. Despite my parents' objections, I married him. So, my mother's family is in the county seat, and I have been working there, while my husband and children are in the countryside. The young mother said, "You and my uncle must have a deep affection and must be living happily, right?"”
I once recalled: When we were young, we had quarrels over trivial matters and even thought about divorce, but we didn't have enough courage at that time, so we chose to keep the marriage. Now that we're on a much better relationship, he's doing extra work outside the home, and he's earning more than I do. However, what bothers me the most is my son, who is divorced and still single, which worries me. A young mother asked, "Why did they get divorced?"I replied lightly: "It's just a little thing, it's not worth mentioning." It may be similar to you, but it is a divorce decision made on the spur of the moment. She said with deep feeling: "I have had a similar experience, and I thought I could accompany you to meet your son and daughter-in-law, and share my personal experience, maybe I can give them some enlightenment, and remarriage is not an undesirable option." I politely declined: "I am very touched by your kindness, and it would be a wonderful thing if they could get back together." I thank you in advance. "We left the vehicle together, I was holding the baby, she offered to help me with the package, and we walked into the house hand in hand. The young mother patiently persuaded my son from her own experience, and then we went to my daughter-in-law's house together and had an exchange with her. She used her feelings of remarriage to share her experience with her daughter-in-law.
My son has been single for a year and has learned that finding the right partner is not an easy task. My daughter-in-law is a kind person, but he fails to cherish it. My daughter-in-law has also experienced a year of celibacy, and I feel that even if I find another one, I may still get into a quarrel and eventually divorce. She realised that if she spent her entire life dealing with divorce, she would not be able to take her life to the next level. After a year of calm thinking, both my son and daughter-in-law began to regret their divorce. The young mother used her own experience to teach them that husbands and wives should appreciate each other's strengths. Focusing only on each other's shortcomings will not sustain a happy marriage for a long time.
Soon after, my son and daughter-in-law got back together, and both of us were very relieved. Now that I'm retired, I have more time to spend with my grandchildren. My grandson and I are also more intimate. I enjoy the quality time I spend with my grandchildren every day, which makes me deeply appreciate the beauty of life. On the day I retired, I helped a mother and daughter on the shuttle. Unexpectedly, it was they who helped our family turn their fortunes around. Their advice and experience have reunited families that had been discordant. I am sincerely grateful to that young mother. Give roses to others and leave fragrance between your fingers. We need to support each other in life, and only by helping each other can I dedicate my skills to you, and you can share your life experience with me. In this way, we can learn Xi experience from others, avoid unnecessary twists and turns, and have more time and mood to enjoy the beauty and colorfulness of life. The spirit of mutual aid is an indispensable part of building a better life!