Fear is one of the innate emotions, one of the seven emotions. When you are young, you may be afraid of the night, fear of the big bad wolf, fear of bad guys, fear of losing friendships, mothers, etc. After falling in love and getting married, you fear: fear is everywhere. The real source of fear is oneself, not an enemy, an enemy, or anything else.
Fear is instilled and infiltrated into the "subconscious" by our parents or other loved ones from a young age. For example, "When it's dark, don't go outside, there are bad people outside;There are wolves and vicious dogs out there, and they will take you and bite you to death......"Don't go into the mountains, where there are poisonous snakes. "Little girl, don't go too far to prevent the bad guys from abducting you." "Don't cry anymore, I'll beat you to death if you cry again." I believe that everyone has heard the kind advice and even intimidation of their parents, siblings since childhood. Because of the innocence, ignorance, and lack of judgment of the young, these bad hints have carved deep imprints in the cerebral cortex.
However, as we get older, our fears do not gradually decrease, on the contrary, they increase day by day, such as if you love a toy, you may lose it;I'm afraid I'll be picked up by my companions;You're naughty, I'm afraid your parents will scold and beat you;I'm afraid that you won't study well when you go to school, and the teacher will criticize you;When I take the exam, I am afraid that the exam will not be as good as the last time and will be surpassed by others;You get along with a classmate, and I'm afraid he's getting along with someone else and ignoring your ......
In adulthood, there is more fear, which is simply short and difficult to describe, and the fear of friendship;Fear of relationships;Fear leads to perceptions;Fear of promotions, salaries, and more. There is also the physical condition of the parents, the loyalty of the spouse;Children's education;The success of the startup and so on.
We fear known changes and the unknown unpredictable, we fear both failure and successIn other words, "decision-making phobia" has become a common psychosocial disease of modern people. The reason why I say this is because there are too many choices in contemporary society at that time, and ** is too big. The best times must have the worst shadows, which is why contemporary depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, etc. are rampant.
Fear is one of the "seven emotions" of people. It is impossible for anyone to be without fear, not even ancient emperors and contemporary **. This article does not want to cover too much, but just a little bit of fear of love, in the hope that it will be beneficial to the reader.
Whether it is a man or a woman who is just beginning to fall in love, or an old and spicy master in the love field, it is inevitable to be "afraid" of the visit of this uninvited guest. Although this sentence is a bit outdated in the consciousness of modern people's mate selection standards, women love power and wealth, and men love beautiful women. However, can you really grow old together forever after you get it?The divorce rate in modern times is rising day by day, and some are as high as in some parts of the developed worldLeft and right, in China's Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen and other regions, it is also up toThat's it!There is another sentence that can prove it, that is, whether it is a man or a woman who is in love, or a couple who are bathed in honeymoon love, sometimes they can't help but ask each other: "Can you love me forever?"So the other party, especially the man, will swear that the sea is rotten, what loves you forever, what loves you for 10,000 years, and so onAll of them popped out like pouring beans into a bamboo tube, coaxing the other party to be so unhappy.
It is undeniable that some people are true in their hearts when they say that and there is no deception, but how many of those vows can not be eroded and oxidized in the long river of time?
In fact, women are looking forward to their husbands being excellent in all aspects, having the ability to make money, and having the opportunity to be promoted, but what about that day?How many men can clean themselves and love themselves like jade?Men, even if they are like Wu Dalang, they want to marry a beautiful girl, but after marrying home, can you really have no pressure and no fear?Can even those big-money ** "Golden House Hidden Jiao" really hide in prison?Besides, even if you send a doorguard bodyguard, it is difficult to hide its heart, which makes the collector even more troubled and helpless is the convenience and speed of modern information, and even the profession is difficult to be foolproof!Even a man like Napoleon, whose wife doesn't commit adultery with someone else, who are you?
How many people can escape this "contradiction of two laws" and dilemma reasoning?Men are not talented, and they are afraid that they will not fight;Men succeed and fear their tricksI'm afraid it will lead to butterflies. Men know that an ugly wife is a treasure in the family, but since ancient times, how many men have been willing to marry an ugly wife and keep their own land at the door with peace of mind
The fear of love occurs from the very beginning of the relationship. In particular, the party who thinks that the conditions are inferior is afraid that the other party will change his mind. After getting married, this fear has not decreased, and even increased day by day as the other party develops and develops.
Now the popular people "If a man is rich, he will learn badly, and if a woman learns badly, he will be rich." "Not really, but it's a common trend.
Women expect their husbands to be better than other men, earn more money, and have a higher status, but once they do so, the crisis will immediately worsen.
Moreover, "aesthetic fatigue" is always a magic wand in marriage, the "seven-year itch" is too far away, and it loses its freshness in a year or two
At this point, the author remembersAn anecdote many years ago, when the reform and opening up, my neighbor Yang Moumou, had an ambiguous affair with another woman**, his wife often went to the town ** to stalk, and finally found out that he was surprised, the woman was not surprising, not tall, she said angrily: "You want to find a good look, stronger than me, I also admit it, but she is better than me......."Later rumors, that Yang Moumou was indeed from a poor background, and he was still an ordinary worker when he got married, and then with the help of his father-in-law's rights, he worked instead of working, and gradually mentioned being a secretary in the town. But Yang Moumou's logic is: "Although she is not beautiful, she is gentle, empathetic......."”
The above examples are actually quite common. I don't know readers, what are your feelings?