The misalignment of love is sometimes reasonable, but unreasonable, because human beings are different from animals, so there is an ethical constraint of love. Even if it is an animal, some animals understand etiquette, such as horses do not ride their mothers, or animals of the same kind do not mate with different animals.
The so-called "misalignment" generally refers to father and daughter, mother and sonand the ambiguous love that occurs between the elders and the juniors. For example, the most common one is adulterous adultery between the father-in-law and the daughter-in-law. Sometimes it is reasonable, it means that the son is away from home for a long time, and the father is single, and he has desires, consensual thoughts, and passions are difficult to suppress and do things that are difficult to do, and they regret it afterwards, but they can't stop. Once the East Window incident occurs, it is often a tragedy of breaking the family and breaking up the wife. If you go against the principles of heaven and humanity, even if you don't find out, you can't feel at ease with each other, and the leakage of this kind of energy is huge, and it is even difficult to redeem it for a lifetime.
Others such as mother-in-law and son-in-law;Uncle and niece;Uncles and nieces are all similar to thisDon't worry too much.
It is worth discussing and discussing the love between teachers and students. In ancient times, of course, this was absolutely unacceptable. Heaven and earth are sacred and solemn, so there is a saying that master and apprentice are like father and son, and they are teachers for one day and fathers for life. But in modern society, there are many such cases. For example, the wrong love between Lu Zhiping and his graduate students in the TV series "Wrong Love". If Lu Zhiping hadn't gotten married, probably this TV series would have no highlights and selling points. Because the "Marriage Law" does not restrict adult teachers and students from falling in love and getting married.
In particular, the mistaken love between teachers and students in the current middle school is even more worrying. Today's teenagers mature earlier, and some girls do.
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At the age of four or five, she already looks like a big girlIf there is a girl F, 16 years old is 165 meters and a weight of 55 kgSlim and graceful, no one can say that she is 16 years old without looking at her household registration. She has been secretly in love with the Chinese teacher for a year, and it was only discovered when her mother peeked into her diary, she used to have a good academic performance, and since unrequited love, she often lost her mind, and always thought of the figure of the Chinese teacher in her mind, and remembered the magnetic voice of the baritone in her ears. Probably because of the same spirit, the male teacher only noticed F when he found that her composition was excellent, and she always found an opportunity to approach the Chinese teacher alone, and was deeply impressed and admired by the teacher's profound talent. The author can't know if the teacher has a special love for her, but when he was doing psychological counseling for F, he found that he was deeply involved.
It is reported that there are more than 100 million unrequited people in the world. There are no statistics on how many of them are teacher-student love, but no matter what kind of unrequited love, the results are poignant.
You know that there is no fruit, but you are watering every day, no matter what the treeIt's going to mess with the roots.
What is popular in modern times is "not looking forward to eternity, only looking forward to having it once." However, most of the misplaced unrequited love does not even have it for a while, and some can only be confused, dazed, anxious, and depressed. The increasing number of psychological disorders among contemporary middle school students really requires the full attention of parents and teachers.
The flip side of the teacher-student mislove is that the teacher falls in love with a female or male student. The consequences are just as dire. If the teacher himself is married, the consumption and leakage of that kind of psychological energy will be even more irreparable, and it will seriously affect a person's work and study and even the normal rhythm of life, making him psychosomatic and psychological, and if he is discovered, he will be ruined. What's more, some male teachers use make-up classes, conversations, etc., and their students lose their dignity as role models and do things that are inferior to beasts until they are brought to justice.
The ancients said that once you make a mistake, you will be hated for thousands of years, and then you will be a hundred years old. Is it really worth it to lose the qualification to be a human being for the sake of a momentary pleasure, and to affect your life for the idol in your heart?
The philosopher said: If the result is painful, you should give up temporary happiness, and if the result is happy, you should endure temporary suffering.
The way to measure it is sometimes really simple, that is, if you feel at peace or not when you do this kind of thing, if you feel uneasy, you have to use your reason to control your feelings;If your heart is at peace, you can go with the flowWhileacted. "It's sexual, it's polite. It is the standard measure of all feelings. Sex is human instinct, nature, sensibility, and people's reaction and yearning for all good thingsRestraint is the reason why people are human beings, their conscience, wisdom and rationality. If one cannot use reason to master the sensibility, man may become a slave to the senses when the servant becomes the master.
It's right to love flowers, but it's wrong to secretly fold them while people aren't paying attention, or move them to your own park and take them for yourself. In addition, when you pick the gorgeous roses acutely, the thorns that are often overlooked can also form a fatal ...... of "sepsis" after infection