MarriageIt is an important event in life, involving family, feelings andEconomyetc. In the past,MarriageIt is dominated by the man marrying a wife, and the woman needs to meet various conditions before she can get married. However, as the times change, so do the perceptions. Now, there is a new type of oneAA systemMarriageThe way appeared, that is, both sides inMarriageMedium holdEconomyIndependent, non-interference in each other's personal livesMarriageThe relationship is more like a "partner" than a strict oneHusband and wife relationship
At the beginning of the article, we meet a 56-year-old mother-in-law whose son and Xiaozhi have come together through a successful blind date. However, this pair of newcomersMarriageNot in the traditional sense".The door is right", but a completely new oneAA systemMarriage。The mother-in-law saved a lot of money, but she didn't feel good about it.
My mother-in-law told us that her family conditions had always been very modest, that her husband was a worker in a winery, and that she did not have a stable job. In order to help her son find a suitable partner, she asked people everywhere to introduce partners, but becauseEconomyDue to the constraints of conditions, the son was not able to get together with his girlfriend at the time in the end. This made the mother-in-law both helpless and guilty.
Under the introduction of a neighbor, the mother-in-law's son met one onceMarriageThe girl who went through it was named Xiaozhi. The son expressed special approval of Xiaozhi and proposed it to herAA systemMarriageThe form also expressed its approval. The mother-in-law reluctantly accepted this for the sake of her son's happinessMarriageway, because she saw the joy of her son.
AA systemMarriageThe form mentions five main points. First of all, both sides are inMarriageMedium holdEconomyIndependent, not dependent on each other's financial support, as long as there is housing. Secondly, the two remained independentEconomyrelationship, and do not interfere with each other's financial decisions. Third, their own parents take care of themselves and do not rely on each other's family relationships. Fourth, if you live your own holidays, do not force reunions. Fifth, co-parenting, but the first child should be named after the woman's surname.
This kindMarriageThe good thing about the way is that both sides are inEconomyand will not be conflicted because of financial dependence. In addition, living their own lives also gives both parties more freedom and space. Especially for Xiao Zhi onceMarriageThe experience of the girl is that she is more independent forMarriagealso has its own clear ideas and bottom line.
However, the mother-in-law was not satisfied with thisMarriageform, she felt like thisMarriageMore like a "partner" than a real oneHusband and wife relationship。The mother-in-law said that although she saved a lot of money, she always felt that something was missing in her heartMarriageIt should be based on feelings, not just material exchanges.
Marriageis a complex relationship that involves:Economy, affection and family. Focusing only on material things and ignoring feelingsMarriageIt is not going to be happy, only emphasizing feelings and no material securityMarriageIt won't be warm and sweet. MarriageYesEconomyAnd the double guarantee of affection, both parties should be inEconomyOn an equal footing, mutual understanding and consideration in feelings.
TraditionalThe door is rightIdeas in modern timesSocialThere has been a change in the fact that there is a greater focus on whether the personal qualities and values of both parties are compatible. Not everyone can find a match".The door is right"Asking for a partner, so some extra "weights" will be used to balance the feelings and psychology. This is also the reason why the cost of marriage increases.
withSocialdevelopment and a change of attitude, a more egalitarianMarriageThe way also appeared. In this kindMarriage, both sides remainEconomyIndependent, non-interdependent, focusing on personal freedom and space. This kindMarriageThe way may cause some discomfort for parents, but it also gives the new person more choice and autonomy.
In short,MarriageIt's not a simple transaction, it needs to be both sides thereEconomyand emotionally equal. Equality between husband and wife includes material equality, as well as emotional and spiritual equality. in two familiesMarriageThe two sides should empathize, understand and understand each other, and not only consider issues from their own standpoint. MarriageIt should be based on true love and common struggle in order to achieve lasting happiness and joy.