When I was young, many children had a dream - to grow up to be superhuman.
With the ability of Ultraman or Spider-Man, to change the world, rob the rich and help the poor, suppress the strong and help the weak.
As the years go by and they get older, they come to realize that they don't have the ability to change the world for the time being.
So, I thought, since I can't change the world, let's start small!
Began to change the people around him.
Change your parents so that they change their lifestyle, focus on nutrition, and don't be too frugal.
Pay attention to your brothers and sisters, let them open up more financial channels, open up sources and reduce expenditure.
Tell your children to study hard, play less with their mobile phones, and read more.
The other party to the marriage pays attention to the body, earns more money and spends less.
So, try your best, insinuating, using both soft and hard, fighting wits and courage.
It took a lot of time and energy, which not only hurt the body, but also hurt the heart.
The liver qi was stagnant all day long, full of complaints, and in the end, he successfully turned himself into a resentful husband and wife.
Even if the small probability is temporarily changed, it turns out that looking back, that person is still "in the dim light." ”
They are still "easy to change, but their nature is difficult to change." ”
So, complaining, sorrow, irritability, anxiety ......All kinds of bad emotions have become commonplace in the world.
After a lot of hardships and all kinds of hardships in life.
One day, I suddenly had an epiphany that there was nothing I could do to change the world, and it was like walking on thin ice to change others.
Why don't I change myself?Maybe it will be "another village".
Embark on a journey to change yourself.
Read all kinds of chicken soup to comfort your soul;Find inspirational stories and try to get inspired;Read a variety of books to find directions and ways to change;Through reflection, find out your own problems ......
As a result, I was surprised to find that it would be me who was in the place.
Because there is a problem with my own thinking framework, I don't like everything around me, there is a problem, and the problem lies with myself.
In the end, I believe that it is better to change oneself than to change others.
Therefore, we can say that the sign of a person's maturity is to make himself understand that he cannot change anyone.
Unless they genuinely want to change from the bottom of their hearts, everything is in vain.
Even if they have a strong desire to change, your role is very limited.
It is merely a suggestion or perspective, carefully supplemented or enlightened.
The protagonist of change is always the person who wants to change, not you and me in the supporting role.
If a person is unaware of their own problems, or does not want to change at all.
Don't take the initiative and be enthusiastic about helping them change.
Because: good intentions may not be rewarded;It is also because "everyone has his own ambitions." ”
All you can do is make them think you're kind, kind, and welcoming.
At the same time, let yourself remember that you are always the only one who can change yourself.
You can't change someone else's path;Your own way, your own good.