in uslifeDivorce has become commonplace. However, sometimes some divorce decisions are incomprehensible to us, especially when a father gives upCustodyTime. In this article, I will describe a true story of a father who made a difficult choice for the sake of his daughter's happiness. In the process, we can't help but reflect on what divorce means for our children, and how we should balance their emotions and how to balance themlife
Xiao Zhu andLiang YanAfter getting married, the two have been living separately. Liang YanWorking in the field, busy earning money to support his family. However, the birth of a daughter deepened the conflict between them. Xiao Zhu asked many timesLiang YanGo home to work, thoughLiang YanBut they always insisted on staying in the field, claiming that the wages there were higher. Friends find this incomprehensible, especially whenLiang YanThe wages are not high, and it is easier to get a high income in a factory on your doorstep. Liang YanShe only goes home to see her daughter three or twice a year, and the rest of the time she is not around.
Year after year, this situation has become the norm. Friends began to hint at the idea of divorce, but he firmly believedLiang Yanwould come back to see their daughter, so they kept putting it off. When my daughter was 13 years oldLiang YanReturned, pregnant with another child. She hadn't been home for a long time, and this child wasn't Xiao Zhu's. She filed for divorce and asked Xiao Zhu to sign and agree to have her labor induced. The child is more than eight months old and cannot be aborted at will, and the consent of the husband is required. After more than ten years of persistence, Xiao Zhu finally signed the divorce and helpedLiang YanLabor induction was carried out.
Friends originally thought that divorce was a good decision for both of them, but when Xiao Zhu mentioned that he gave his daughter overLiang YanAfter that, everyone was very surprised. After all, the daughter has grown to 13 years oldLiang YanBut he barely accompanied her. People can't help but worry about how the daughter who has been taken care of by Xiao Zhu for 13 years can be safely handed over to an almost strange mother?The decision was puzzling and seemed to ignore her daughter's feelings and needs. As time goes on, everyone gradually understands, perhapsLiang YanFor the daughter, it is just an external concept, a "home away from home", and she pursues a material abundance, not a complete family.
Two months later, Xiao Zhu was going to remarry. He borrowed money from his friends and explained that he had given up on his daughter'sCustody, so give itLiang YanThe money was also given to her. The friends were surprised, and they wondered why Xiao Zhu had given up on her daughterCustody。Xiao Zhu calmly replied that it was indeed inconvenient to remarry with children. This answer made all friends with children fall silent, because they knew that since Xiao Zhu still wanted to remarry, it meant that he gave up his daughter, what is all this persistence and dedication for?They were originally happy for Xiao Zhu and willing to help him, but when he gave up his biological child, their feelings became complicated. Xiao Zhu didn't do anything wrong, but the decision is still incomprehensible.
Divorce is a complex and painful process for children, especially for those parents who give upCustodyFor children, the impact cannot be ignored. Regardless of whether the parents choose to divorce or continuelifeTogether, they should think more about their children, because children are chosen by their parents and need to be loved and loved. For those parents who are going through a divorce, they should think hard about the impact of their decisions on their children and strive to find a balanced way to take care of their children's emotions and relationshipslifeDemand. At the same time, as friends and loved ones, we need to give them understanding and support to help them and their children face this difficult situation. In the process of divorce, the happiness and emotional stability of the children are the most important things.