Life is inherently a process of experience, and gains and losses are nothing but in the midst of eternal changes. Just because you didn't get it yesterday doesn't mean you won't have it today;Even if you have it today, it doesn't mean you won't lose it tomorrow. Eternity, and only in the moment of possession. Cherish what we have now, that's the best way we need it. Some people say that what is "not obtained" and "lost" is the best, and perhaps we will express this sentiment at different times. Those unfulfilled wishes have great power, and such power is like a spell that hangs over our heads, making us obsessed with "flowers in the water, the moon in the mirror", and blinding us to the happiness and joy that are at our fingertips. If we can calm down and think, how much of what we have not gained and lost is actually just a desire for unfulfilled wishes?Even if we give up some of the things we have now, and recklessly try to get what we failed to get in the first place, and get back what we lost, who can guarantee that these things will be what we really need?
What you can't get is longing, and what you have lost is regrettable, but we all care. However, if we think about it carefully, you will find that we keep looking at everything that does not belong to us in the distance, but obscures the happiness that is closest to us. Some people say that if you want to live a measured life, it is yours after all, and if it is not yours, it will leave you, so why let yourself be so embarrassed?Instead of regretting what we lost, it is better to cherish everything in front of us, which is the true meaning of life.
1.Don't be serious about "not getting" and "lost".
If you can't get something, it means that it doesn't belong to you at all, so why force it?Even if you force it, you will find that you will not be as happy as you imagined;What has been lost, that is in the past, no matter how much you regret it, you can't get it back. Instead of being "ungained" and "lost", it is better to cherish what you have at the moment, which is a great happiness in life.
2.Cherish what you have in the moment.
People are often like this, they will not cherish what they get, once they lose it, they will know that it is precious, and how many people sigh: it is difficult to recover it, and it is beyond regret. Sometimes, it's not that there is too little happiness, but that we don't know how to grasp it, and it's not that the more we get, the happier we are, and happiness is to cherish what we have at the moment, so that we don't leave regrets for ourselves.