My name is Li Xiaoming, I am 25 years old, and I work as a programmer in a foreign company.
When I first joined the company, I added my cousin Li Xiaofang's WeChat. My cousin is 3 years older than me and is the eldest daughter in the family. We have had a good relationship since we were children, and we often talk and laugh.
Yesterday at noon, I was working overtime in the company to catch up with the project, and a WeChat message suddenly popped up on my mobile phone, which was sent by my cousin: "Xiao Ming, your mother said that she was going to come to your city on a business trip in the past two days, and she must have wanted to come to you." Don't tell her where you live now, don't talk about your workplace, just say that you traveled abroad, and if you go, you will cut off contact!I know the relationship between you and your aunt, and you two don't have good fruit to eat when they meet. ”
I sat at my desk and watched my cousin's news, and my mind was in a mess. What should I do if my mom does come to the company or home to look for me?Should I just refuse to see her?
After thinking about it, I decided to ask my cousin first to see what else she knew.
In all these years, I haven't been back to see my mother once. Occasionally, when I was a **, she would only preach and let me go home to work. I know she must miss me in her heart, but the gap between us is too great.
Looking at my cousin's message, I struggled with what to do. At this time, the mobile phone rang suddenly, and it turned out to be my mother calling*** I hesitated for a moment, but still picked it up.
Hey, Mom. "I try to make the tone sound as normal as possible.
Xiao Ming, where are you?Mom asked straight to the point.
I was out of town on a business trip and I was back in a few days. "I lied.
Come on, your cousin told me that you work in the city and live nearby!Mom's tone immediately became stern, "You listen to me, I have already bought a ticket, and I will come to your city for a meeting the day after tomorrow." After the meeting, I'll go to your company and wait for you to get off work, ** be honest with me!”
Mom, calm down. I advised, "I'm very busy right now, traveling on business, and I have a lot of company projects." I don't have time to accompany you when you come. Let's do it another day. ”
It's impossible to change the day!I've bought all the money, I have to come to see you!My mother said excitedly, "I tell you, if you dare not wait for me in the company, I will go to the house you rented to block you!."I asked your colleagues and they all told me that you rent in the community. If you dare to avoid me again, I will go to your company to make trouble!”
Hanging up **, I sighed heavily. It seems that my mother is determined to come to me, and I can't hide from it this time. In desperation, I had to ask my cousin again what to do.
Xiaofang, my mother has already booked a ticket, and she has to come to the company to wait for me to get off work. She also said that she was going to my rental room to block me, what should I do now?"I asked my cousin for help.
I thought about my cousin's suggestion, indeed, instead of letting my mother come to my company**, it is better to meet each other, but I can't be easily moved home by her.
In the past two days, I have been working in fear, for fear that my mother will suddenly appear in the company. Finally, the appointed day arrived. I saw a familiar figure standing at the door of the company, it was my mother.
I took a deep breath and walked over slowly. "Mom, you're here. ”
It's coming, it's coming, what does it have to do with you?Mom gave me a blank look, "Let's go, accompany me to dinner!."”
When I arrived at the hotel, my mother came up and said, "Xiao Ming, go home with your mother, work hard outside, and come back to your mother to support you." ”
Mom, I already have a job myself, and I'm doing well, so I don't need you to support me. I tried to be as gentle as I could.
Have a job yourself?A little programmer wants to set up his own portal?Mom raised her voice, "I'm telling you, if you hadn't run away suddenly, your dad would have helped you arrange a position in the company a long time ago!."It's not too late to come back, hurry up and go back with me!”
Mom, I'm not going back, I already have my own life. I said firmly.
My mother was silent, I thought she agreed, but she suddenly cried: "My son is like this, you don't want to think about how sad your mother and I are!".Your dad died early, how can I survive as an old man!”
I was surprised and a little overwhelmed. The mother continued to cry: "Your eldest sister is seriously ill and is now dying, and the doctor said that she can't be saved. Our whole family is heartbroken, only you, the son, ignore it!Are you so ruthless?”
As soon as I heard the news of my eldest sister's illness, I immediately blamed myself and felt guilty. How can I be so selfish, thinking only about my little family, but not caring about my family's situation at all!
Mom, I'm sorry, I didn't know about my eldest sister's illness. I'm going to go back to see her now, I'm sorry!"I said busily.
Okay, you know it's wrong. Hurry up and pack your things and buy a ticket to go home!Mom said immediately.
I'll book my tickets right now. Mom, I'll come back often to see you and my eldest sister in the future. I promised.
I accompanied my mother back to her hotel here, and I began to pack my bags and get ready to go home. My cousin sent me a message asking about the situation, and I briefly explained it to her.
I said, "I know, I'm going to find a balance." I'll go back and see my eldest sister this time, but I'll still live on my own. ”
I blamed myself so much that I felt too selfish. My mother has worked hard to raise me all these years, and now when I encounter such a big event, I am not by her side, which is too unfilial.
So, I decided to stay at home for a month, help my mother take care of my eldest sister, and spend time with my mother. My mom was also relieved to see my decision.
Just the day before I was about to go back, my cousin called ** and said to me: "Xiao Ming, you have fulfilled your responsibilities as a son, but you also have to have your own life." Come back to visit your mom often in the future, but don't let her control everything about you. ”
I know my cousin is right. I said to my mother, "Mom, I will come back often this time to see you and my eldest sister." But I'm still young, and I want my own career, you have to understand me. ”
My mother didn't force me to stay this time, but only told me to go home often. I was relieved to get on the return flight. This time I went home, I grew a lot, and I got closer to my family. I will cherish the time I spend with them and I will try to pursue my dreams.
When I got back to work, I worked hard and hoped to be promoted to project manager sooner. At the same time, I also go home regularly to visit my mother and eldest sister.
One day after work, my mother suddenly called over, and her expression looked excited.
Xiao Ming, after you came back, your eldest sister's condition improved!Doctors today said she was out of life-threatening condition. Mom said happily.
I was also pleasantly surprised: "Really?".That's great!I'll go back to see her whenever I have time. ”
Good son, it's really a blessing for my sister to come back this time!Mom said happily, "You can quit your job quickly, go home and take care of your sister, and you can join Dad's company." ”
My heart sank again: "Mom, I still want to continue my work. But I'll be back to see you often. ”
Okay, okay, whatever you say, it's what you say. Mom said dissatisfiedly, "If you don't listen to me anyway, I won't talk about it." ”
Mom, don't do that. I persuaded, "Shouldn't I go back to see you too?"I just want to continue my career. ”
You know yourself!Mom said angrily, "Since your father died, I can only hope for you. Now that your eldest sister is sick, you don't change your mind, my heart is broken!”
I was helpless, and it took me a long time to persuade my mother before she stopped. This happens a lot, and I'm struggling with it. My cousin is right, I have to take care of my own life, but I can't ignore my family.
Gradually, my mom became less opposed to my work, but she still wanted me to come home. I knew it was going to take a process and I could only keep trying to communicate with her.
Time passed quickly, I was named project manager, and my work became busier. My mother and eldest sister's health is gradually improving, and I am much more relieved.
Life is a long road, and I know I still have a long way to go.