We have all heard of wine and dinner, and now there is a new kind of game - "Kayan game".
"Kayan Bureau", as the name suggests, is a game that can only be participated in by the standard of appearance.
It means that in this kind of bureau, only people who are good-looking and meet a certain standard of appearance can participate, and those who do not meet the standard will be sent away with 200 yuan.
And usually, this standard of appearance is aimed at women.
At first, "Kayan" usually appeared in bars, and the approximate gameplay was:
The drinks that night were all paid for by men, and women were free, but there was a relatively high standard of appearance for women participating in the game.
Some women who have been stuck will post beautiful photos of themselves for netizens to comment.
Later, I don't know how it became popular, and the "Kayan Bureau" also spread from the bar to other activities.
Climbing mountains is also stuck, playing cat and mouse in the park is also stuck, and even studying together is also stuck, the reason is: good-looking can make people improve their learning efficiency.
It's incredible, first of all, serious people don't need to form a group to study, and secondly, the group is also a group of classmates and friends to study together and discuss problems together, rather than paying attention to who is good or not.
For these card faces, there are girls who are stuck feeling inferior and anxious.
There are also those who use the rules in vain to try to get rich.
Whether it's a joke or a joke, or really taking this kind of card as a criterion for evaluating one's appearance, it's a very ridiculous behavior.
We are all independent personalities and self-conscious people, why should we put ourselves in a position to be examined and evaluated?
Some people will say that it is just a game for young people to play together, and there is no need to be so sensitive.
Really?Let's take a look at the specifics of these bureaus.
Scratch your fingers", "Tear tissues", "Pass ice cubes", "Princess hug", "Kiss".
It is said that the atmosphere is good and high-quality socialization is actually a way for drunken gold fans, strange men and women to play ambiguously and find excitement.
It seems that you and I are willing, but in fact, alcohol is on the head, and if you do something irreparable, you only regret it.
What's more, there has never been a free banquet in the world, and what seems to be free has to pay another price behind it.
"Kayan Bureau" is free for high-value girls, in fact, the price they pay is themselves, they think they are a pastime, in fact, they have become one of the pastimes in the bureau.
reminds me of the "Frisbee Bureau" that was popular for a while before, and the conditions for participants in this game are actually like this:
Regardless of whether you play frisbee or not, you will be silent after watching ......
It's obviously a healthy and sunny exercise, but it seems to be played by these people as some kind of unseemly deal.
In fact, the same is true of "Kayan Bureau", some girls regard entering Kayan Bureau as an affirmation of their appearance, a kind of glory, but in fact, they put themselves in a lower position.
Your beauty does not need to be measured in this way, it is not glory, but a condescending debasement, an objectified gaze.
In the TV series "Apocalypse", Mr. Ma talked to the heroine about a girl at the wine table, and the conversation was full of contempt and sarcasm:
The men who pay for the "Kayan Bureau", why don't they think like this?
But it's just spending money to buy pastimes, girls pay for beauty, men pay money.
As far as the "card face game" and "frisbee game" are concerned, why is the female card just the appearance?The male card is their own wealth
Because they feel that the economy determines the status of men, and the appearance determines the three, six, nine, etc., and the standard of women's appearance is actually to serve men.
Women are always induced to trade beauty for everything, to conquer men with charm to achieve success, and men are always encouraged to use strength to achieve themselves.
The so-called "women conquer the world by conquering men" seems to be women conquering men, but in fact women are induced to submit to men and please men to achieve self-worth.
Many girls think that they can easily cross the class by relying on their natural beauty.
Sometimes, marriage can indeed improve women's social status, but this path depends on more than just beauty.
Appearance is only the lower limit of a woman, and only outstanding thoughts and connotations can determine the upper limit of a woman.
Beauvoir once said in "The Second Sex".
The misfortune of women lies in being surrounded by irresistible **, they are not asked to work hard, they are only encouraged to slide down to bliss.
By the time she realizes that she has been fooled by the mirage, it is already too late, and her strength has been exhausted in the failed adventure.
This statement still holds a warning to women today.
Seducing women to spend all their energy on the extinct appearance that will eventually disappear is not to care for women, but to weaken women.
Women can love beauty, but they must not regard beauty as their own upward **, or even the only **.
Women can love beauty, but this beauty is not defined by men or other women, but is what they really like without being guided, a kind of beauty that is healthy and pleasing to themselves.
Some people may say, as for such a fuss?You're a pastoral feminist, aren't you?
This has nothing to do with male rights and women's rights, but in the face of some hidden malice, both men and women should be sensitive, especially women.
"Isn't it just kidding?"
"Isn't it just a joke?"
On the road of protecting our own rights and interests, we must be keenly aware of those subtle, unconscious, and subconscious malice towards ourselves.
For these "rules" that have been like this since ancient times, it seems to be intimate "comfort", so why not be sensitive to us.
Studies have proven that both animals and humans are highly sensitive to the dangers of their surroundings, so that they can prevent them in advance and protect themselves in time.
And for those who are keenly aware of malice and timely **, it is not that they are too sensitive, but that we are too slow.
Finally, I hope that every girl can love and cherish herself to the best she can, and don't see herself as a Barbie doll that can be scored at will.
The beauty of roses is never a mistake, and the thorns of roses are the edge that cannot be lost.