When you reach middle age, you will encounter a moment when you will be sober, and you will suddenly figure out something.
For example, when you are young, you always want to have fun in time, and when you reach middle age, you will think about how to grow and plan.
When I was young, I thought about comparing myself with this, wanting to compare with that, envying this, longing for that, and when I reached middle age, I would calm down and think about what I could do
Middle age is a stage of consciousness and growth, and when people reach middle age, they must do the following:
01. Compare less
Someone once said: comparison, is the thief who steals happiness.
When you reach middle age, look at your relatives and friends, and you will find that, in fact, every family has its own difficulties, and "every family has a scripture that is difficult to read".
The Li family envies the Lin family for having sons and daughters, and the Lin family envy the Li family for having a car and a house.
The Liu family envies the Wang family's wealth, and the Wang family envies the Liu family's children and grandchildren.
Many people have a strange psychology and always feel that others have more than their own and live better than their own.
In fact, often your life is the life that others yearn for, but you don't know it.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, less comparison, comparison will steal your happiness and make you increase unnecessary worries and frustrations.
Only by focusing on the management of family happiness can you live a truly happy life.
02. Not paranoid
Psychologist Sarah Edelman once said: If you think life has to be a certain way, it will inevitably bring you trouble.
The way of life is colorful and ever-changing, and it can be presented in many forms, not necessarily the same.
If you are paranoid about how to live this life "must", "should", "must", and "must", this rigid and rigid creed will definitely cause you pain.
Children do not necessarily have to study at Tsinghua University and Peking University to be successful, young people do not have to start a family before starting a business, and the elderly do not have to help bring their grandchildren ......
Only by not being paranoid can you perfectly resolve many contradictions and pains in life in middle age, make yourself happy, and make your family happy.
When people reach middle age, they learn to accept the essence of life, the strengths and weaknesses of themselves and others, and some things that cannot be done.
Don't criticize, don't condemn, and don't be paranoid, so that you can live more and more relaxed after middle age.
03. No anxiety
Someone once said: Anxiety is like taking the bus with your luggage, you carry it on your shoulder, and the bus will not come sooner;You put it on the ground, and the car won't arrive a little later.
Everyone will be anxious at times, but the key is whether you know how to release stress and make yourself not anxious.
Try to find someone to talk to and talk to about your anxieties.
Or write down your anxiety points, fear questions, write them down and save them in a place, and then see if the things you are anxious about and fear have happened.
It's a way to release anxiety and fear, and once you face it, it's like a paper tiger, and it's not lethal.
Learn to release anxiety in order to make yourself go faster, further, and have more courage and strength to face all difficulties.
So, unpack your bags and wait for the bus to arrive and you'll be on the way you want to go.