In my junior year of high school, Xiao Wang and I were at the same table, and it can be said that our relationship is very good. We go to school and leave school together every day, eat and chat together between classes, and often help each other when studying, and are almost inseparable.
It's a pity that after the college entrance examination, we were admitted to different universities, and although we kept in touch often at the beginning, we gradually became less contacted. Four years of college time passed in a flash, and after graduation, we all came out to work, I went to the city, and Xiao Wang went to the city.
A few days ago, Xiao Wang suddenly contacted me on WeChat, saying that he is now doing sales in a foreign company, and often needs to visit customers, and wants to ask me if I can help bring some good tea, and he needs 10 catties. I was surprised and hesitated, we hadn't been in touch for several years, and I was caught off guard by the sudden request.
10 catties of tea is not a small amount, and it is also a lot of money for me. And we haven't been in touch for many years after graduation, and I'm not sure if he's the little Wang I remember. I hesitated for a moment, thought about our friendship, and decided to help this time first.
Xiao Wang quickly transferred the cost of tea to me, and left a message: "Brother, I'm really bothering you!."The customer has been urging it, so please leave it to you, the money has been transferred to you, remember to tell me when you receive it. ”
After buying the tea, I happily carried two big bags home and said to Xiao Wang: "The tea you let me buy is good, the quality is good, you can rest assured!".When will I send it over?”
I said, "Okay, then tell me when you come back." I'll take good care of the tea. ”
Xiao Wang and I were at the same table in high school, so it can be said that the relationship is very good.
I still remember when we first started to be table mates, we were both a little strange. But soon we got to know each other, going to and from school together, eating and chatting together between classes, and often helping each other with our studies.
Once I didn't do well in math in the monthly exam, Xiao Wang saw that I was depressed and offered to give me make-up lessons every day after school. After more than a month, my math scores improved rapidly. I am grateful for Xiao Wang's help.
Another time, Xiao Wang's family had an urgent matter and needed to go home, but that day we had an important English speech competition. I knew it was very important for Xiao Wang, and offered to help him go to the game instead. In the end, I helped him finish the speech, and it became a wonderful memory of our friendship.
Xiao Wang and I have been through a lot, and it can be said that we are very important confidants to each other. So many years later, I suddenly received a request for help from him, and I agreed without much hesitation.
In this way, I bought the tea and waited for Xiao Wang to come back and contact me about the delivery.
After a month, Xiao Wang did not contact me again. I thought it was strange and was going to take the initiative to ask him about sending the tea.
Just when I was about to contact Xiao Wang, he suddenly sent a message, saying that the customer was urging me to transfer money again to let me buy an extra 10 catties of tea.
I was a little surprised when I saw the news, and quickly asked him: "Is the 10 catties of tea you asked me to buy before not enough?".Need to buy another 10 pounds?”
Soon, Xiao Wang transferred me the cost of buying 10 catties of tea. I saw the prompt that the transfer was successful, and I had no choice but to go to the tea shop again to buy it.
Now I bought a whole 20 catties of tea leaves, all piled up at home. I wondered why Xiao Wang's company's business was suddenly so good and needed so much tea.
After a few days, there was still no news from Xiao Wang. I took the initiative to ask him, "The tea you asked me to buy is ready, when will it send me the address?"”
After another half a month, there was no news from Xiao Wang. I messaged him and asked about the shipping address.
After a few days, Xiao Wang replied to me: "Brother, I'm sorry, I've been too busy during this time, and I haven't sorted out the delivery address of that batch of tea." But our company has a new customer who needs tea, can you help me buy another 20 catties this time?”
When I saw the news, I finally couldn't help but say, "Xiao Wang, what kind of project are you doing, why do you always need tea?"I've bought 20 catties here, and you haven't given me the delivery address yet, and I don't know if the tea is really sold to customers. Are you sure you need me to buy another 20 pounds?”
I saw that his tone was very sincere, and I was embarrassed to refuse directly, so I could only say: "Okay, you can transfer the money to me again, and I will buy it." ”
This time, Xiao Wang transferred me another 20 catties of tea for the fee. Looking at the increase in the account, I couldn't help but feel a little worried.
But thinking of our friendship, I still went to buy 20 catties of various famous teas as promised. Now my house is full of 40 catties of tea that Xiao Wang asked me to buy.
I asked Xiao Wang to confirm: "I also bought the tea this time, when will you send me the address, so much tea is also a problem in my home." ”
Xiao Wang replied to me: "Good brother, the project at hand is really too busy, let's wait for the delivery." By the way, our company may have a tea tender next month, and I have to trouble you to quote a price at that time!”
After sending this message, Xiao Wang quickly called.
Hey, bro, what do you mean?I'm not too busy at work. Now you're not going to buy tea for me?Xiao Wang's tone sounded surprised.
I explained: "Xiao Wang, you have asked me to buy 40 catties of tea, but you have not told me about sending it to me, nor have you told me the purpose of the tea. It struck me as weird. You can't keep asking me to buy tea for you without saying a word about the tea. I also need an explanation. ”
Xiao Wang said excitedly: "What to explain or not, I'm not busy at hand!."Don't you believe me?Doesn't I need tea for my job?Can't you help me with this?”
I said, "Of course I believe you, but anyone in this situation can be confused. I think we need to talk about it, otherwise it will be difficult for me to continue to buy tea for you. ”
Xiao Wang asked me excitedly in **: "I still treat you as a brother, why did you suddenly turn your face and not recognize people?."Just because I'm busy with work and didn't send you the address in time, you won't help me?I thought our friendship for so many years was worth trusting me!”
I explained: "Xiao Wang, I didn't turn my face and deny people. It's just that the tea you asked me to buy has 40 catties, which takes up a lot of my funds, but you haven't explained the purpose of the tea and the time of delivery, which is normal and suspicious. Not to mention the matter of tea, we have hardly been in touch over the years, and it is inevitable that you will be surprised when you suddenly say that you need tea. ”
Xiao Wang said: "Could it be that I contacted you just for tea?"I'm counting on you, an old friend!Why do you care so much about tea?Isn't it for business needs?
was asked by Xiao Wang, and I also fell into deep thought.
After a while, I explained, "Xiao Wang, of course I'm not so concerned about the tea thing. It's just that in the process of this incident, I feel that there seems to be some misunderstanding and estrangement between us. Maybe we haven't been in touch with each other much over the years, and we don't know each other's work and life very well, which may have led to some unnecessary trouble. ”
Xiao Wang also calmed down in ** and said, "Well, what you said makes sense. Maybe I'm too busy with work during this time to explain to you, which leads to your doubts. In fact, our company does need to use tea for some business recently, and I am really busy, so I have not had time to check with you about the delivery. But I assure you that tea is definitely not for private use, but for official entertainment. ”
I said, "I understand what you say." Maybe because I haven't been in touch for a long time, I don't know enough about your work and life, and you are busy, which led to my misunderstanding. We all have a responsibility to communicate well and avoid this kind of trouble. Don't worry, I will continue to keep the tea for you, and you need to open your mouth at any time at work. ”
Xiao Wang said: "Well, my experience has also made me reflect on the fact that we really need to have more contact with each other. When I am busy with the project at hand, I will definitely find time to catch up with you and talk about work and life, so as not to have this kind of misunderstanding again. ”
After hanging up**, I reflected on the revelations of this experience.
Perhaps in this fast-paced society, our connection with old friends will indeed drift apart. But true friendship should not be indifferent, and it needs to be maintained by the joint efforts of both sides.
The most precious thing about friendship is mutual understanding, trust and support. Even if we haven't contacted for a long time, when an old friend asks, we should still help with trust and kindness. It's like I agreed to Xiao Wang without hesitation at first, because I believe in friendship for many years.
And when confusion arises, we also need to resolve it through understanding and communication. Years of friendship cannot be negated because of a momentary misunderstanding. Xiao Wang and I both have the responsibility to take the initiative to contact each other, understand each other's work and life, and avoid alienation.
I am grateful that our friendship can be uplifted and sublimated in the process. I will continue to cherish the connection with Xiao Wang and keep in mind the true meaning of friendship.
The revelation from this incident is that there may be some misunderstandings or estrangements between old friends who have not been in touch for a long time, and we need to consciously communicate and understand in order to resolve them.
I shouldn't just make a judgment based on my own guesses, but I should take the initiative to ask Xiao Wang and give him a chance to explain. If we communicate openly and honestly at the beginning, we may be able to avoid some of the confusion later on.
It also reminds me to keep in touch with my old friends and care about their lives, so that I can understand and support them when needed. Time and distance must not be allowed to dilute friendship.
Looking at the piles of tea leaves at home, I can't help but feel the impermanence of life.
Many years ago, Xiao Wang was my best buddy and study partner. I haven't been in touch for a long time, and all of a sudden I was asked to help buy tea, which was so unexpected.
But the core of friendship remains the same. After this misunderstanding, I value Xiao Wang, an old friend, more. No matter how life changes, the spark of friendship is always there.
I would like to thank Xiao Wang for rediscovering the meaning of friendship. No matter what happens in the future, I will cherish my friendship with him and remember that the most precious thing in life is affection.
He said: "Brother, I'm really sorry to let you buy so much tea but never give you the address and explanation, which caused you to have a misunderstanding." This experience taught me a life lesson, and I will pay attention to connecting with old friends. ”
I said, "Xiao Wang, in fact, I also have the responsibility to take the initiative to ask you, and I shouldn't guess by myself." This time, let's rediscover the meaning of friendship. You can rest assured that our friendship will always be there. ”
After another period of time, Xiao Wang offered to come to my city to see me. I am very happy.
On the day of the meeting, Xiao Wang came to me with a box of his company's products. I smiled and said, "It's tea, just give me the address and I'll send it." ”
Xiao Wang also smiled: "It's not tea, it's our newly developed health care products, I promise there will be no next time!."”
When we talk about the bits and pieces of our work life, it's like going back to high school. This is my most precious friendship, and it is only after the wind and rain that I can see the rainbow.