Putting Pain into the Concept of Happiness丨A book I m reading

Mondo Culture Updated on 2024-01-31

"Reading is an important way for human beings to acquire knowledge, enlighten their wisdom, and cultivate morality. "Previously, Minhang Rong ** Center to"A book I'm reading".As the theme, an essay contest will be carried out for the whole district. Since August, "Minhang Today" WeChat *** has published essay works.

Read "An Invitation to the Psychology of Existentialism".Understand that happiness is a positive stateIn Hu Xiaolin's book "The Invitation of Existential Psychology", I was most impressed by the chapter "Happiness and Pain". The first time I heard the phrase "incorporating pain into the concept of happiness", I was puzzled, how could two completely opposite definitions be unified

Later, in a book club discussion with my friends, it dawned on me that these were not two black and white concepts, but a fusion of each other. Just like the Chinese Taiji diagram, there is white in black and black in white, and there is no clear boundary, nor can it exist independently. The two can be converted into each other in different scenarios, and neither pure happiness nor pure pain exists. Knowing this, I became less repulsive to pain. Pain is a part of life that must be experienced, and only by accumulating energy in pain can we welcome the next happiness. "What determines a person's satisfaction is how he interprets life. "Happiness is a positive state, the person who has it is not smooth sailing, he will also have distress and chaos, but he will not complain, but actively reflect, learn, adjust, and let chaos and disorder slowly become orderly. A happy person must be a positive doer, who is trying to explore "who I am", to reconcile himself with the world, to find a balance between the true and the non-true, and to let himself live a relaxed and hard-working life. Follow your heart, find yourself, live authentically, enjoy and endure the "sunny days and rainy seasons" of life, and you will have happiness.

*: Minhang today.

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