For marriage, there are always people who feel that it is too difficult to be alone, so they are bent on finding someone to take care of themselves and be responsible for themselves.
I think it's good to get married.
There are also people who are confused when they are alone, have no goals, feel that everything is meaningless, and then they are full of thoughts and want to get married quickly.
Considering marriage as a kind of salvation, I feel that everything will inevitably be different after marriage.
I have to say that when it comes to marriage, many people's thoughts are really not pure, and they always have too many expectations, imagining marriage as very beautiful and sacred.
Then he was lonely and brave, and with a full of longing, he hurriedly married a person. And when a person steps into marriage so casually, he will also find that marriage is not what he imagined, there is not so much romance and beauty, but it is really difficult.
When marrying someone, you really can't just be casual and have too high expectations, you should still live yourself first and be prepared.
Accept that you are no longer comfortable and willing to sacrifice.
From time to time, I will hear some voices saying that after getting married, I hope that I can still live as I want, just like before marriage, don't be bound, don't always be delayed, and on this basis, it is best to get some benefits from the other party.
Thinking that's what marriage should look like, otherwise it's pointless.
To be honest, if you have such an idea, if you want to get married, you still have the same thing as when you were not married, but you only get something unilaterally, and it is best not to enter into marriage. Walking into a marriage and starting a family, it is definitely impossible to remain so free.
Your time still belongs to you, but it also begins to belong to each other, no matter what you go, of course, you need the other party to know, two people will have a lot of housework, and you must not want each other to be responsible for everything.
After having a child, you must not always want to escape this responsibility, just let the other party take care of the child alone.
In a family, there will really be a lot of things, and everything needs to be taken care of together.
That requires both to be mentally prepared, not just to enjoy, but to be willing to build this harbor together.
Everyone who intends to enter into marriage must have such an awareness, be willing to sacrifice some of their time and space, be willing to help each other deal with some things, and be willing to give up some of their own interests.
If you have a skill, you can at least support yourself.
If you can't solve your own food and clothing, then it will be difficult to achieve happiness through marriage.
If you marry someone in this situation, if both of you have very limited conditions and survive as Ente, it is really difficult to have any warmth at all, and you will only be constantly arguing in the future, revealing sadness everywhere.
If the other party's conditions are a little better and you need to be attached to the other party, it will probably be difficult to be respected in this relationship, and you will not have any right to speak, and the whole person, the whole life, will begin to become very passive, and there will be a lot of grievances.
Even if it is a husband and wife, in most cases, it is impossible for one person to spoil another person unconditionally, and how one person treats another person often depends on each other's various circumstances, family background, economic strength, and emotional value.
Therefore, the more you can't be responsible for your own life, it's best not to enter into marriage easily.
The first thing to do is to learn Xi a skill and find a job so that you can have a certain income.
When you can afford to raise yourself, you will have more choices for marriage, and then you will become more rational in choosing a mate, and you will know how to choose one that is really more suitable, rather than grabbing one at random and then letting it go.
Life is never easy, you must first know how to control your own destiny, then it is possible to control a good marriage.
Independent personality with the ability to leave at any time.
Too many marriages are not as happy as imagined.
Once you get married, if you can make do with it, the other party is not so exaggerated, just keep going, it doesn't matter.
However, there are also some marriages, the other party will be violent to each other, obviously personal safety is a problem, the other party is really bad, people are very broken, the other party is always messing around outside, there is no room for maneuver, too many situations, it is not worth continuing at all.
Indeed, if you choose to marry someone, of course, you must try to avoid meeting such a person and putting yourself in such a situation, but there are always times when you can't avoid it, and you can't avoid it at all.
That is to say, when you get married, you must have the determination to go on with a person, but you must also maintain an independence so that you have the ability to choose to leave, so that you will not sink in an unhappy relationship and never recover.
If you can't do it, it's best to improve yourself first, make yourself more tenacious, and when you can really do it, then go into marriage and live well with each other, but it can end at any time.
With such ability, you will inevitably not suffer too much in marriage, and the other party will not dare to despise it.
And no matter how the marriage goes, it will not be ruined in life, you can always start over and let yourself be well.
Before you get married, be sure to prepare
Prepare your mentality, be ready to take on the responsibilities on your shoulders, keep up with your abilities, you don't have to be too attached to each other, so that you can be two people or one person.
In such a state, you will be more responsible for your marriage and yourself.
Either it is a very good marriage, and it will be more comfortable in marriage.
Either you can return to yourself, or you can continue your future more safely.
In life, we must have the ability to live with one person.
More importantly, it is always necessary to maintain the strength of a person's life.
Text: Tan Meng.
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