Author |One wood.
In the circle of friends, I saw a friend who said: I only take children to pull nails.
It turned out that his 7-year-old youngest son had recently become obsessed with gnawing his nails.
Nibbling while watching TV, gnawing while doing homework, and even gnawing while walking, all ten fingers were gnawed bald.
When I first found out, my friend just taught my son that it was unhygienic.
The child promised not to gnaw again, but he didn't pay attention and gnawed with relish.
The friend was helpless, so he smeared bitter gourd juice and wind oil essence on his son's fingers.
As a result, the child did not adapt, but gnawed harder, and finally got paronychia and suppurated, and the whole hand became inflamed and swollen.
The couple hurriedly took the child to the hospital, and the doctor said that he needed to pull out his nails**.
Looking at the child's little hand with the nails removed, the child's parents burst into tears of distress.
In fact, many children will have the Xi of gnawing on things.
In addition to gnawing nails and fingers, some children also bite their lips and the skin on their mouths.
Some don't bite themselves, but they bite the horns, bite the pencil, and bite everything that is convenient.
Children before the age of 3 love to bite, and they are perceiving and understanding the world through their mouths, which belongs to the normal oral desire period of exploration.
However, after the age of 3, if this happens, it is possible that the appetite period is stagnant.
To put it simply, it is the child who has not successfully passed this period of psychological development, or who has passed, but because of external pressure or stimuli, the child's psychological regression has returned to this period.
Therefore, the matter of gnawing on things is not big or small, and it is not small to say that it is small.
It may just be a bad Xi habit formed by improper upbringing.
But it can also be a behavioral disorder caused by psychological causes.
Love to bite and bite children
Something on my mind
Before going to elementary school, Tong Tong had been living with his grandparents, and was only picked up by his parents last year.
After coming back, Tong Tong's mother found that the child had a problem, and he liked to bite when he was fine.
When sleeping at home, I like to bite the corners;When I went to school and didn't get horned, I liked to bite my clothes.
Although he is caught and criticized once, the child just doesn't have a long memory.
In the last month alone, she has found several times that the child's clothes have been bitten and the zipper has been bitten, even if her father has beaten her several times, it will not work.
I took it for examination, and the calcium, iron and zinc were normal, and the doctor recommended that I transfer to a psychological clinic.
Finally, through the detection of psychological scales and interviews with psychologists, it was found that the child was not only anxious and depressed, but also had low self-esteem.
Because of the lack of parental companionship since childhood, children do not have a sense of security and avoid interpersonal relationships;
After returning to my parents, the discomfort of the new environment and the pressure from my parents were too great;
Coupled with different degrees of criticism and negation, in the end, negative reinforcement is formed, leading to a vicious circle.
Strong tension and depression make the child's inner emotions unable to be relieved, nor can he be emotionally soothed, and he unconsciously uses bites to relieve himself and divert attention.
Just like in the show "Parenting War", the little girl Maomao likes to bite her fingers while doing her homework.
According to the analysis of the children's doctor who was present, this was due to the mother's constant accusations during counseling, which caused the child to be anxious and insecure, and the child needed to bite his fingers to comfort himself.
This series of gnawing behavior disorders is generally most common in childhood.
The reason for this is mostly caused by emotional tension and depression
For example, husband and wife often quarrel in front of their children;It will make children gnaw on things due to anxiety and nervousness.Lack of parental companionship and attention;
Affected by other events, such as pre-test anxiety, being intimidated, etc.
Psychological studies have shown thatThese gnawing actions can give children a kind of psychological comfortIt is a kind of behavioral deterioration, which can allow children to suppress anxiety and temporarily feel at ease.
In this case, as parents, we must first figure out the cause, and then prescribe the right medicine.
It's okay to like nibble
It's the signals from the body
But then again, not all gnawing behaviors are psychological problems.
I've seen a limerick poem written by a netizen:
There is a child who loves to eat his hands;Many times, children like to bite and bite when they are fineIn addition to the problem of its own Xi, it may also be that the child's body is sending a distress signal. In fact, children still like to gnaw their hands and bite quilts after the age of 3, which may be due to zinc deficiency and iron deficiency in the body. At the same time, it will also be accompanied by symptoms of poor concentration, picky eating, and not liking to eat.He didn't cut his nails, put them in his mouth and bite them;
The days are long, the face is yellow, and the body is thin;
When I went to the hospital for an examination, the problem was all in my love of eating hands!
Or pica caused by roundworm infection, for example, a penchant for biting everywhere, including eating hair, nails, wall ash, confetti, etc.
In 2007, Turkish experts conducted an experiment in which 59 subjects were selected to test each person's saliva for bacteria that cause diarrhea or vomiting.
The results showed that 76% of people who would bite their nails tested positive, compared to only 26% of those who did not5% tested positive.
It can be seen that nail biting can affect the physical health of children, who are worse in health and more likely to get sick than children of the same age.
At the same time, during the tooth replacement period, the most likely to appear crossbite phenomenon, if long-term biting, it is easy to form a ground cover, including loose teeth, uneven growth, etc., which will have a great impact on the child's image.
When such small problems are found, parents should see if there is a problem with the child's body, and it is best to go to the hospital for a check-up.
How many parents
Deceived by disgust**
Many people say that if a child has quirks such as gnawing his hands and biting pencils, he can apply coptis water, chili pepper water or wind oil essence to the place where he bites, and they will naturally not do it if they feel pain.
In fact, this disgust** is undesirable.
If it is applied directly to the child's skin, then it is likely to cause harm to the child, and this simple and rough behavior is a kind of sexual reassignment punishment for the child, the effect is limited and easy to repeat, and it may also make the child gnaw harder.
A colleague once wrapped his son's fingers with gauze, and also wiped Coptis water on his hands while he was sleeping, but it had no effect, and even due to forcible interference, the child ate his hands more and more frequently.
In addition, if the means are too strong and the child breaks the bad Xi, it may transfer or deform the problem. As we often say, press the gourd up and scoop up, although the child does not bite his fingers anymore, he may start to bite something else.
A child's growth is never a war, we must understand the child's needs and accept his flaws.
If there is a lack of trace elements in the body, you can supplement it with medication according to the doctor's instructions, or you can supplement it through food supplements (such as calcium-containing kelp, shrimp skin;Iron-containing soy products, animal liver;Foods such as pork and milk containing zinc) can be recovered slowly.
If it is a psychological reason, then we must give the child a sense of security and respect on weekdays.
For example, hug them often. Including playing toys and games together, seeing what the child usually likes to do the most, then when the child Xi habitual gnawing, you can use this to quickly divert his attention.
You can also guide children through cartoons and picture books, so that they can see for themselves the consequences of other children eating their hands. is like "The Little Goat Who Loves to Gnaw His Nails", which tells the story of a little goat that gnaws his nails and causes severe stomach pain.
Dr. Hailan mentioned in the book "Imperfect, Beautiful".What determines a child's health and happiness is whether he feels love when he grows up and whether he learns to loveThe best education for a parent is to help him find a solution when he makes a mistake, not to blame and criticize.
Xi is not formed in a day, and the path to correction also requires a natural transition. Remember, things must be reversed, and no child is better in rough coercion.
Correct minor problems
Try the science tricks
It is said that if you want to hurry, you can't reach it, and in the face of children's small problemsWe can correct this step by step with limitations.
For example, for biting fingers and gnawing nails.
In the beginning, it is possible to restrict the child from gnawing at home.
In crowded situations, everyone will naturally be nervous, and children will subconsciously bite their fingers. When he can do it at home, he can do it from the inside out.
Including the duration limit is also, from long to short;The range is reduced from biting two hands to biting one hand, and from biting all fingers to 3, 2, 1.
Also, we can give some massages to the kids.
Every morning and evening, use our thumbs to massage up and down around the child's lips for about two minutes at a time.
Including when brushing teeth, the Xi use of a small toothbrush to clean the mouth can also make up for the oral tactile sensation and relieve the child's urge to bite.
Nibbling is a particularly natural action for children. Although we are very troubled, if we want to quit completely, we still have to use scientific methods and start from the details.
If the mother's womb is the child's first palace, then a good family environment is the child's second palace.
If we want children to have good Xi and a healthy personality, then we must create a relaxed and harmonious family atmosphere.
Any rush or slow lag will affect and harm the normal psychological development of children.
I hope that parents can be warm and patient to help their children get rid of these small problems, so that they can be more cheerful and confident.
After all,ParentsTake your time so that the child can walkYesFast.
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