"Please give me a little bit" The elementary school teacher married a jobless homeless man for money, and knelt down to beg for a share of the money when he divorced
In Jane Eyre, there is a point of view: "Love is like a clever game, and it must be kept in constant balance, ensuring that both parties are equal in power and status, so that they can achieve long-term dependence." Because an opponent who is too strong can easily make people feel tired, and an opponent who is too weak is easy to get bored. ”
In the ideal marriage, both parties should be evenly matched with each other. There is a good saying that things gather by like, and people are divided by groups. If two people are not the same kind of people, it is difficult to truly experience happiness even if they are barely together.
Yang Feiliang's family situation has always been relatively difficult, while Wang Ying is a divorced second-married woman with a daughter. The two married and had a son, and their lives gradually became more prosperous over time. However, the contradictions that crept in spread between them.
The roots of the story can be traced back to the real estate problems in Yang Feiliang's home. Soon after the marriage, the Yang family's house was expropriated, bringing millions of yuan in expropriation money and three new houses of 80 square meters. However, what is unbelievable is that Yang Feiliang did not inform his wife of the good news in time, but sent her straight back to her parents' home.
This decision sparked Wang Ying's dissatisfaction and questioning of the marriage. The levy should have been good news for the two, but Yang Feiliang's unilateral decision made his wife feel taken advantage of. The wealth that could have been used as a marriage boost has evolved into a marriage weight in the wrestling of money.
According to Yang Feiliang, he did not exclude his wife from the beginning. After getting the levy, he gave Wang Ying 200,000 yuan, but due to the disagreement between the two parties over money, the conflict eventually intensified.
This family story reveals the game in love, and the delicate relationship between different interests in marriage. As stated in "Jane Eyre", "love is a game", and the balance between husband and wife may be the key to staying together for a long time. Things gather by like, people by groups, people of different backgrounds are together, how to maintain an equal relationship has become a difficult problem in this marriage.
Yang Feiliang claimed that he gave his wife 200,000 yuan, but Wang Ying insisted that he only received 160,000 yuan. Faced with such a statement, Yang Feiliang's emotions quickly became excited, and he asked Wang Ying: "Didn't I give you a ** weapon?."Didn't pay in cash?”
As the money problem is difficult to solve, Wang Ying chooses to remain silent and turns her focus to Yang Feiliang's interference with herself and her children. She pointed out that since the conflict between the two, Yang Feiliang not only blacklisted her **, but also made an appointment in advance to see her son.
Facing his angry wife, Yang Feiliang looked helpless, and said with a wry smile that she was now completely "covering up people's eyes", obviously his wife was unjust, but she put all the responsibility on him.
The reason why Yang Feiliang said this was because of the sudden huge amount of demolition money. In his opinion, husband and wife should work together to live a good future life, but the wife has shown a willingness to separate the family. When the demolition money arrived, his wife quickly filed for divorce, and in order to save the relationship, he took the initiative to take out 200,000 yuan, hoping to save his wife's heart. However, the wife was not satisfied and even felt that the money was too little, and eventually left the house.
In this dispute, money is the cause of the conflict, and it is also related to the daughter in front of Wang Ying. Since Wang Ying is the second marriage and Yang Feiliang is the first marriage, the wife believes that she has been treated unfairly in the distribution of the demolition money, so she has been arguing with her husband.
Wang Ying believes that her daughter is 5 and a half years old and is a member of the family and should participate in the distribution of the demolition money. But Yang Feiliang kept this part of the money for himself.
Yang Feiliang said that according to the village's policy, stepsons and stepdaughters cannot participate in the demolition, but the wife has been arguing about the unfair treatment of her daughter. What made him even more unbearable was that his wife used her biological son as a bargaining chip for the sake of her stepdaughter's share, threatening him to ignore his son if he didn't give money, which completely violated his mother's responsibility.
In addition, Yang Feiliang also revealed an amazing secret: at the beginning of marriage, he clearly told Wang Ying that his family conditions were very poor and he was not worthy of being with her. However, Wang Ying still insisted on marrying him, and at that time she already knew that his house was about to be demolished. Therefore, Yang Feiliang believes that Wang Ying's purpose with him at the beginning was not simple, but he deliberately chose him for the demolition money.
Yang Feiliang grew up in a family of two brothers, his father was a farmer for many years, and his younger brother was responsible for taking care of his mentally abnormal mother. Considering that his younger brother had not yet formed a family, Yang Feiliang took the initiative to give him the levy of 500,000 yuan free of charge. However, this generous decision was firmly opposed by his wife, Wang Ying.
Faced with her husband's question, Wang Ying angrily retorted that she had a bachelor's degree and was a primary school teacher. Compared with her husband's junior high school education and unemployment, her own conditions are better, and there is no need to care about his money. At the beginning, she chose to marry Yang Feiliang because she hoped to find someone whose conditions were not as good as hers, and I believed that the other party would cherish her more and treat her daughter better. However, what she didn't expect was that after Yang Feiliang got the levy, he completely changed as a person. Before marriage, he promised to let Wang Ying dominate the housework, but after getting the money, he had a defensive attitude towards her everywhere.
Looking back on her experience, Wang Ying felt worthless. She was furious when she saw her husband pointing fingers at her, and rushed straight up to scuffle with him.
It is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs, and the couple has their own opinions. When a primary school teacher marries an unemployed low-income household, is it for money or love?Is there a real affection between them in four years of marriage?
When looking back on this embarrassing marriage, Yang Feiliang said that he had made it clear that his conditions were limited, but Wang Ying still insisted on getting a marriage certificate. However, since she got married, Wang Ying has always lived in her parents' house on the grounds that she has a daughter, and every time she is asked to go home, she always finds various reasons to delay, and even does not want to spend the New Year with him. The two have actually spent less than a year together, and the long separation and constant bickering have left them with little affection to speak of. In Yang Feiliang's view, the reason why his wife has delayed filing for divorce until now is nothing more than waiting for the opportunity to issue the levy.
Wang Ying emphasized that the reason why she chose to marry Yang Feiliang in the first place was because she was moved by his sincerity. When they first met, Yang Feiliang told her that her family's house was about to be expropriated, and said that all the levies would be handed over to his wife for safekeeping in the future. Faced with Yang Feiliang's honesty and the dilemma of his failed marriage and raising his daughter alone, Wang Ying was immediately attracted by his sincerity. Although the married life was financially constrained, Wang Ying believed that as long as the two worked together, they could tide over the difficulties.
However, the most surprising thing for her was that when the levy arrived, her husband was wary of her, making her feel completely disappointed.
When the two sides were arguing, Wang Ying took out a document, revealing that the original levy was actually only 670,000, and she only got 1 million after various efforts. Among them, 250,000 should belong to her daughter, she only asked to take this part of the money, and decided to break off with Yang Feiliang.
In the face of broken feelings and money disputes, Wang Ying's decision is extremely firm. However, Yang Feiliang resolutely stated that he would never divorce, because he firmly believed that Wang Ying would not have children. This further complicates the situation.
Why did Wang Ying insist on divorce?She said that it was mainly because Yang Feiliang's laziness made her disheartened. He didn't have a job before marriage, and she chose not to care about issues such as bride price and three golds. After marriage, she was pregnant with a daughter, but she died soon after. And Yang Feiliang has always been indifferent to this, after the birth of his son, he still did not look for a job, and his concern for her was quite limited, which gradually estranged the relationship between the two.
Husbands and wives disagree with each other, and money disputes intensify. In order to solve this problem, the reporter approached the local village committee. The village committee made it clear that the original support policy was for the entire Yang family and not for individual members, and that stepchildren and stepdaughters were not included.
Knowing this explanation, Wang Ying, who had insisted on 250,000 before, completely collapsed. She wept bitterly, knelt in front of Yang Feiliang, and begged for tolerance: "For so many years, if I marry you, you can let me go!."”
After four years of marriage, but three years of separation, the relationship between husband and wife has long been exhausted. Faced with a million-dollar levy, the wife is torn between money and conjugal affection. However, her husband Yang Feiliang was resolute in his wife's plea, saying that he would give her another 60,000 yuan at most, provided that she took care of her son.
After learning her husband's answer, his wife Wang Ying completely collapsed, and she expressed her uncontrollable emotions that she would rather give up money entanglements and just want to divorce Yang Feiliang. When it comes to raising her son, Wang Ying once again refused mercilessly, because she still has a daughter to raise and can't take care of her son.
When the two sides reached an impasse, Yang Feiliang's grandmother came forward to mediate and persuade her grandson to give Wang Ying more money. Although Wang Ying once said that she didn't want a penny and just wanted a divorce, when Yang Feiliang promised to give an extra 30,000, she knelt down again and finally agreed to take care of her son temporarily.
Marriage is not child's play, and four years of separation have long since wiped out the relationship. Faced with money issues, disputes between husband and wife intensified. This marriage became a tragedy, and Wang Ying tried to make up for it through four years of dedication, but in the end she lost her happiness. She may have regretted her decision.
The husband and wife calculate the money, showing that they both feel wronged. However, the two-year-old son, who is swayed by a money dispute between husband and wife, has he considered the responsibilities of parenthood?Adults may be able to start over, but for children, there is only one life. Parents who cannot give love are not worthy of being parents.
Although Wang Ying's real motive for getting married cannot be inferred, her dissatisfaction with Yang Feiliang is obvious. The best state of marriage is equality, and only marriages where the two are evenly matched can move forward together. Wang Ying and Yang Feiliang seem to be people of two worlds, and money makes the marriage unbalanced, and in the end she lifts a stone and shoots herself in the foot.