Qingzhi, who sold miserably and sucked the hard work of the whole family, is not only difficult to produce a noble son, but also difficult to produce a filial son
In order to realize his wish to marry the director's daughter, Wang Qingzhi once again expressed his plight to his family.
Although he is a graduate student of a ** institution, he chose to tell his family about his hardships, which made the whole family feel frustrated again, because he was the pride of the old Wang family.
Although Wang Qingzhi did not blame anyone and never expressed complaints, his parents, his brother and sister-in-law who had just found a job in the city, and even his sister who was far away in the countryside would reflect on themselves at the first time and make adjustments centered on him.
Seeing Wang Qingzhi, who forced his family to regress for the sake of selfish desires, reminded me of Zhou Bingyi in "The World". They are all noble sons from poor families, and they have all given up family affection, but Zhou Bingyi's era did not have the trouble of marriage room, and there was no contradiction of taking away family savings. However, for the sake of personal goals, they all let the whole family unconsciously give in, as if they only had room for themselves in their hearts.
I once agreed with the saying that "it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family", because the gap between the rich and the poor is not something that a nobleman can easily cross. However, now I have a deeper understanding that it is difficult for the children of the nobility to repay the poor family, because the reason why they become nobles is to leave the poor family. It took the whole family's hard work to cultivate a golden phoenix that can't fly back, is this something to be happy or sad?
The family's hard workThe old Wang family has three brothers and sisters, and whenever the second son Wang Qingzhi is mentioned, his parents are always full of relief. Because Qingzhi is the only graduate student in the entire Wanjiazhuang, he is the face of the old Wang family.
What made the old couple even happier was that Qingzhi and the director's daughter fell in love. Especially when Qingzhi told his parents that the director was equivalent to the level of "county magistrate", the old couple's joy was beyond words. The whole family jokingly called Qingzhi the son-in-law of the county magistrate, and he also liked this title very much.
The Wang family was originally a small surname of Wanjiazhuang, and several generations have experienced bullying. Now that there is Qingzhi, it is like getting a "Shang Fang Sword", although the deterrent effect is not very great, but it can always make people take a closer look. 
In order to achieve this unattainable goal, the old couple is anxious to celebrate and tie the knot with his girlfriend as soon as possible. However, Qingzhi put forward a condition: urban daughters do not need a bride price to get married, but they must have a wedding house. These remarks almost made the Wang family's mood like a roller coaster, sometimes with joy floating in the clouds, and sometimes falling to a low point.
In the eyes of rural people, the wedding bride price is 10,000 or 20,000, at most 50,000 or 60,000, but buying a house in the city is an astronomical amount.
Sure enough, when Qingzhi mentioned that a down payment of 350,000 yuan was needed to buy a house in the city, the whole family fell silent. Not long ago, the eldest son and his wife almost risked their lives in order to obtain 400,000 yuan in compensation from the land expropriation lawsuit, but this time Qingzhi took almost all of them.
But in the evening, the old couple secretly found their eldest son and proposed to use 350,000 of the 400,000 yuan to buy a house for Qingzhi. Although the eldest son was unwilling, he reluctantly agreed in order to improve the "status" of the family.
Before Qingzhi and his girlfriend left, his mother quietly handed him a passbook of 350,000 yuan, and although he only symbolically excused himself, he finally accepted the payment. Not long after returning to the city, the "huge sum" of 350,000 yuan became the down payment for his wedding house.
Qingzhi can really feel at ease when he does this?
Probably not. In addition to personal efforts, financial support is also indispensable for Qingzhi to successfully complete his graduate studies. The biggest funder is the eldest brother, who has finally contributed to Qingzhi, but this is not really a complete task. Because Qingzhi had just worked and had no savings, and at the same time, marrying the director's daughter brought new financial pressures. Even if we get through the current predicament, will we not encounter new problems?
The answer is no, if the whole family wants to support Qingzhi to the next level, they can't be a burden to him, but they need to give everything at any time, and money is just one of them. Qingzhi himself may take his family as the last hole card for granted, and he will fight for as much as he can get.
This seems to have formed a strange circle, why the poor family cultivated a noble son, but could not get the reward of the noble son, but needed to continue to fund without a bottom line, what a sad reality!
Selling pathos to win the sympathy of the eldest brother
Because of the conflict with the village party secretary, the eldest brother and his wife were forced to come to the city to join Qingzhi, but Qingzhi was not a reliable person, but became a big problem for the eldest brother.
The eldest brother has hit the wall many times to find a job, pinning his last hope on Qingzhi, forcing him to seek help from his future father-in-law. In the eyes of the eldest brother, the father-in-law is known for"County Magistrate"title, is an authority figure who can do anything.
Although Qingzhi agreed to his eldest brother's request on the surface, he did not try his best to help in private, and even politely refused when his father-in-law asked. In Qingzhi's view, this is a matter that makes him unable to raise his head in front of his girlfriend, and it is difficult to withstand scrutiny when he clings to a relationship and finds a job.
When Qingzhi's lies were exposed, he didn't cause too much guilt, but asked the eldest brother why he was looking for his father-in-law behind his back, but didn't communicate with him. Despite listening to the eldest brother's complaints, Qingzhi's expression was more sad than that of the hurt eldest brother.
To tell you the truth, I always had some inferiority complex when I was with Yani. Whether it is family or social status, it can't compare to her. I always felt like a dwarf in front of her family. Brother, you think about it for me, how can I ask them for help in our family's affairs?”
In fact, Qingzhi's words are quite ironic. A graduate student who works in an institution is miserable in front of his eldest brother and cannot find a manual job. What's even more ironic is that the eldest brother is looking for a job to survive, while Qingzhi is looking for his love. Who is more unfortunate in the face of survival and love?
Behold. These words worked wonders in front of the eldest brother. Obviously, the eldest brother had a straight face, but instead of asking about work, he turned to ask why he wanted to force himself to live a life that made people feel inferior.
I like Yani, she respects me, she cares for me, and I'd rather give up everything I have now just to be with her. ”
The eldest brother angrily asked if he wanted to give up the whole family, and Qingzhi stopped the topic and hurriedly explained that he had asked his classmates to help solve the work problem, so that the eldest brother did not have to worry too much.
However, the reality is that those classmates, like him, have just graduated and cannot provide substantial help, but expect the same Qingzhi as him to solve the problem, which is really too perfunctory.
Family affection cannot be ignored, but Qingzhi uses the beauty he pursues to offset his family's request for help, which is really a cold reality that a person's future is more important than blood in his eyes.
The Panyue family severed the kinship
In the midst of the turmoil, Qingzhi's girlfriend issued him a merciless red card warning.
With the good news of reconciliation, the old couple of the Wang family and the village party secretary hurried to the city on Qingzhi's birthday, hoping to promote double happiness to celebrate together. However, his girlfriend was also silently preparing for a surprise, but when they met, they were stunned by the mess in the marriage room in front of them. She immediately hit ** and proposed to break up.
Qingzhi looked flustered after receiving **, but when he returned home, he saw that his family was still busy and had no complaints. However, when the mother mentions the marriage at the dinner table, it reveals the news of the girlfriend's breakup.
These few short words instantly made the already reunited family atmosphere cold and lonely. Although the mother blamed his girlfriend for being unreasonable, because the marriage house was bought by the whole family, it is obvious that this is not the end, and Qingzhi will not be forced to give in and agree to break up with his girlfriend.
The current Qingzhi is the same as when he bought the house, throwing the problem to his family to solve. Although the family may complain, they will also compromise again until Keeji and his girlfriend are successfully married. And most likely, the family will not come to the city and stay in this new house.
I've been asking a question, when exactly did children start cutting ties with their parents?
When I saw Qingzhi, I finally understood. When a child steps into the door of marriage, it means that he is completely freed from the shackles of his original family, the connection with his parents gradually weakens, and the bond with his brothers and sisters is gradually broken.
In Qingzhi's newlywed home, he will soon forget the origin of this house, and he will forget how he entered the upper class society step by step. Even, he may forget the group of relatives who rely on him behind him. Because his eyes only contain the present and the future, it is difficult to accommodate the affection of his family, let alone maintain future contact with his family. The reason why the noble son can become a noble son is that he must get rid of the pain of the "cold family", otherwise how to integrate with the wealthy family?It's an iron rule, it's just too ironic!
It is difficult for farmers to cultivate talents, and it is even more difficult to cultivate filial sons.
No matter when and where, even if he often laughs at himself for his humble background, it is undeniable that he is indeed the noble son of that farmer.
Compared to his eldest brother, he does not need to be in the company of the soil every day, nor does he need to be involved in complex rural relationships;And you don't have to quarrel with people for a meager pay.
Compared with his younger sister, he enjoys the advantage of gender and can occupy the resources of the whole family;There is no need to be trapped in the countryside, and the future will not be bound by the expectations of parents;Not to mention constantly filling in the financial gap for the whole family.
I've always believed that there is no point in comparing myself to others, just as fate may change, but birth background is not. Even if you become an urban resident, it is still difficult to erase the imprint of rural growth, and it is not easy to get rid of the rural label on your body.
Zhou Guoping said: "Life can be divided into two categories, one type of people have a past, and the other type of people have no past. People with the past cherish life, cherish the passage of time, and have special emotions to hide everything they have experienced deep in their hearts. And there is no past person who is indifferent to the passage of time, and his numb attitude makes him treat everything like a passing cloud, drifting away with the wind, leaving no memory.
Why does Qingzhi show off his tragic experience again and again?In fact, he wanted to leave his past self behind. In order to buy a house like a city dweller, he did not hesitate to take all the family's savings;In order to win back his girlfriend's heart, he can even cut off the connection with his original family. He didn't care about losing the mark that had been engraved on his body, because he longed to get rid of the humble family and become a true nobleman.
But he was able to give up filial piety to his parents and care for his siblings, and what is even more infuriating is that he is extremely intelligent. He never dwells in emotions or complains, but subtly shifts the problem to his family and makes them automatically back down. He is both outwardly filial and enjoys all the benefits.
He never thinks about making his siblings feel aggrieved in order to help him;He also never considered the old age of his parents, and he had responsibilities on his shoulders;I never thought about whether I should give my brother and sister some compensation if I possessed resources. Is it because his parents expect too much from him that causes him to delusional, or is he too selfish in his heart and only cares about himself?
It is a pity that filial piety cannot be forced, and people's hearts will become indifferent with the passage of time. Just as lips become drier and drier with friction, social changes make people's hearts more and more indifferent. Life is like a book, the beginning and the end are equally important, no matter how wonderful the story is, you can't ignore the beginning and the dull part. Create wonderful in the ordinary, and maintain the awe of the ordinary in the wonderful, so that life is more meaningful and can live up to the good times.
May you become a noble son in the farm, and at the same time a filial son among the noble sons, able to shoulder the honor and not forget the preciousness of family affection.