"Look at your boyfriend, look at you!Best friend Xiaoli couldn't help but complain while flipping through her phone. I glanced at her phone screen, which showed a handsome boy peeling shrimp for his girlfriend. And my boyfriend, who was playing a game in the living room at the moment, yelled at me, "Can you please stop bothering me?".”
This kind of scene has been staged countless times in my relationship with Xiao Yang. Whenever a friend shows affection in front of me, I will think of Xiao Yang's "hard" attitude. He always seemed to be unable to be gentle and considerate to me, and he was "hard" at the touch of it.
We met in college, and he was a high-spirited basketball player who was an idol for many girls. I was no exception, and I was deeply attracted to him. However, after being together, I gradually discovered his "hard" qualities.
In our first year together, we went to a restaurant to celebrate. Just as I was expecting him to serve me food, he ate on his own. I was a little disappointed, but comforted myself that maybe he was just not Xi being intimate in public.
However, as time went on, I discovered more and more that he was "hard" in every aspect of his life. He was always self-centered and never cared about my feelings. I tried to communicate with him in the hope that he would be gentle with me, but he thought I was being vexatious.
I was confused, and I began to wonder if the relationship was still worth holding onto. So, I decided to turn to an emotion expert in the hope of finding a solution to the problem.
In the process, I realized that there may be many girls like me, who are facing the problem of their boyfriends being "hard" at the touch of each other. So, I decided to share my experience in the hope of helping more people.
Next, I will tell the story of me and Xiao Yang, and how I coped with his "hard" attitude with the help of emotional experts. I hope my experience can give you inspiration and courage, so that we can work together to create a better emotional life.
Case 1: The boyfriend is embarrassed by talking loudly to himself in a public place.
I remember one time, I went shopping with Xiao Yang. Just as I was excitedly trying on a new pair of shoes, he suddenly yelled at me, "Can you hurry up?".I'm tired of waiting!"The scene was awkward for a while, and I had to buy shoes in a hurry to keep up with him. There are many similar situations, whenever a friend is present, he always shows dissatisfaction with me and makes me unable to get off the stage.
Case 2: The boyfriend is critical of himself in front of his friends and can't get off the stage.
Once, we went to a party. During this time, I talked enthusiastically with my friends. However, Xiao Yang was critical in my ear: "Can you stop talking?".You're too loud to make people think you're noisy. I was stunned and felt very aggrieved. That night, I left the party early and was alone at home in silent tears.
Case 3: The boyfriend is too tough in an intimate moment and makes himself feel uncomfortable.
In intimate relationships, Xiao Yang also always behaves too toughly. He never cared about my feelings, only his own needs. It was painful for me and I started to be afraid of being close to him.
Analyzing the reasons behind these behaviors, I found that Xiao Yang's "hard" attitude may stem from his self-esteem and desire to control. He always wanted me to do what he wanted, and once I showed independent thinking, he would be tough.
This "hard" attitude has a big impact on our love life. I felt depressed and began to wonder if I was really a good fit for the relationship. In this case, I decided to seek help from an emotional specialist.
Emotional experts advise me to first stand firm and be brave enough to express my feelings. Secondly, I must learn to communicate effectively with Xiao Yang so that he understands the harm of his actions to me. Finally, it is necessary to guide Xiao Yang to learn to respect and tolerate, and work together to create a healthy emotional life.
With the advice of experts, I started trying to change. Whenever Xiao Yang showed me a "hard" attitude, I would firmly tell him how I felt. Gradually, he began to realize his problems and tried to change them.
Nowadays, our love life has improved a lot. Xiao Yang no longer speaks loudly to me in public places, and he no longer picks on me in front of his friends. In intimate moments, he also cares about my feelings, and our relationship becomes more harmonious.
Through my experience, I would like to tell those girls who are also facing the "hard" problem of their boyfriends at the first touch: you are not alone, face the problem bravely, ask for help, and your love life will definitely get better.
Let's work together to create a better love life!
Looking back on my experience, I deeply feel that the problem of my boyfriend being "hard" at the touch of a boyfriend really needs our attention and solution. In the process, I learned to stand firm, express my feelings bravely, and communicate effectively with Xiao Yang. And Xiao Yang is also trying to change, learning to respect and tolerate me.
I believe that as long as we work together, our love life will definitely get better and better. At the same time, I hope that my experience will give you inspiration and courage, so that you will no longer feel helpless and confused when faced with similar problems.
The "hardness" of a boyfriend at the touch may only be a superficial phenomenon, and there may be a deeper reason behind it. We need to understand each other with our hearts, and give love and support. At the same time, you should also learn to love yourself and not ignore your own feelings because of the "hard" attitude of the other person.
Finally, I want to say to all the girls who are troubled in their relationship: you are worthy of love, don't give up because of a temporary predicament. Believe in yourself, believe in love, and be brave to pursue your own happiness.
Let's work together to create a better love life!In this process, I will always accompany you to grow and progress together. May we all find the person who is willing to spend the rest of our lives hand in hand with us, through the storms and joys together.
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