The story takes place in a small community in Shanghai. The heroine Xiaoyu and her boyfriend Xiao Ming have been living together for 4 years, and they thought that their relationship had reached the level of marriage. However, a chance monitoring of the **of** made Xiaoyu surprised and shocked.
In the monitoring**, Xiaoyu's future mother-in-law, the middle-aged woman, has an extremely bad attitude towards her. The mother-in-law said: "Marrying a wife is also sleeping together, and not marrying is also sleeping together, which do you say is more cost-effective?."Anyway, they slept together, so why should they marry. It's not that she has a big belly, I want to hold my grandson, and I'll give her money. This remark made Xiaoyu feel angry and humiliated, and she quickly made a decision to propose to break up with Xiao Ming.
For Xiaoyu, there is a reason for this breakup. Her reluctance to marry into a family did not respect and cherish her attitude. In pursuit of her happiness and dignity, she would rather be alone than pin her future on a family that disrespects her. The experience of living together for 4 years is not only a waste of time, but also teaches her a precious truth: cohabitation before marriage is not recognized by society and in-laws, and girls should keep their eyes open, find someone who truly loves them and is willing to take responsibility for themselves, and marry herself off according to the normal process of marriage.
Cohabitation before marriage, whether or notModern societyOr in ancient times, not beenConventional wisdomrecognized. For in-laws, girls who live together before marriage are often seen as representatives of restlessness, non-observance, and no tutoring. The in-laws generally believe that if a girl can live with her boyfriend, it means that she has no higher pursuits, rightMarriageand the importance of the family is also not enough. As a result, in-laws tend to be prejudiced against girls who live together before marriage.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often the sameFamily valuesconflict. SubjectConventional wisdomSome in-laws pay more attention to their son's concepts, values and sense of responsibility in raising children. For them,Unmarried cohabitationIt's just that the woman doesn't want to marry into the family and doesn't want to take on the responsibilities of being a daughter-in-law, so she will be prejudiced against such a woman. The woman, on the other hand, pursues freedom, equality and independence, believing that living together before marriage can better understand each other and reduce conflicts and conflicts after marriage. This kindFamily valuesThe difference has led to a conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
Living together before marriage can help two people better understand each other's life Xi, strengths, and weaknesses. Through cohabitation, you can more truly feel the other party's behavior, sense of responsibility and attitude towards life, so as to avoid discomfort and conflict after marriage. During the period of cohabitation, you can gradually understand each other's family background, education style, life Xi habits, etc., and lay a solid foundation for married life.
However, there are also some problems with premarital cohabitation that are difficult to accept. First of all, cohabitation before marriage can lead to a waste of time. If two people have lived together for many years, they end up not comingMarriageIt's easy for this relationship to become a void. Second, there may be moral harmony in premarital cohabitationLawson the hidden dangers. In someConventional wisdomIn more conservative societies, premarital cohabitation is considered immoral or even illegal. Most importantly, premarital cohabitation may not be recognized and supported by society and family, and give one's social image andMarriageThe outlook brings uncertainty.
For girls, premarital cohabitation should not be decided lightly. First of all, it is necessary to examine and think about yourself to determine whether the relationship with the other person has developed to the point of marriage. Secondly, it is necessary to consider the concept and attitude of the family to see if cohabitation before marriage will have a negative impact on the relationship between the families and the life after marriage. Finally, learn to respect the other person's wishes and choices. If the other party is unwilling to live together or the family is not supportive, respect the other person's decision and do not force it.
If you decide to live together before marriage, you must have a certain plan and bottom line. First, be clear about the goals and expectations of both parties. Is it to get to know each other better, to reduce conflicts and contradictions after marriage, or just to satisfy your own desires and needs. Second, it is necessary to clarify the time and conditions of cohabitation. Rules and principles for living together can be formulated, the responsibilities and obligations of both parties can be clarified, and unnecessary disputes and conflicts caused by cohabitation can be avoided. Finally, there must be a bottom line and a way out. If you find something that is very different from your own values and lifestyle during your cohabitation, you should have the courage to let go and avoid betting your future happiness and life on someone who may not be able to guarantee your happiness and dignity.
MarriageIt is the union of two families, and the attitude and social image of cohabitation before marriage have an important impact on the relationship between the two families. Therefore, we should respect the concept of family and society, follow traditional morals and moralsLawsSpecification. It is also necessary to follow the progress of the times and respect the freedom and pursuit of the individual. It is only in this respect and balance that harmony can be establishedMarriagerelationships to achieve their own happiness.
Premarital cohabitation is a complex topic that involves not only personal values and pursuits, but also family and social perceptions. For girls, premarital cohabitation requires careful consideration and planning to avoid wasting time and affection on unworthy people. For families and societies, there is also a need to be more open and inclusive, respecting individual choices and freedoms. Harmony can only be established on the basis of mutual respect and understandingMarriagerelationship, the pursuit of a happy life together.