Foreword: After marriage, the husband was influenced by his mother-in-law and asked for a husband and wifeAA systemoflife。Although I repeatedly promised that I would not take up too much of my husband's finances, my mother-in-law was always worried that my family would rely on them for financial support. In order to resolve this dispute, I put forward three conditions for my husband to consider. However, the husband finally joked that he would not insistAA system, confusing me.
When it comes to children, I make the first request, I want children to have only one and that both boys and girls follow my surname. I think that as a mother, I put in all the hard work of conceiving and raising my child, so I should have the right to my child's surname. In addition, I also proposed three possible ways of raising the mother-in-law, including having the mother-in-law and parents take turns to take care of them, hiring a nanny, and sharing responsibilities to take care of them. If there is no one to take care of your child when they enter primary school, we will take turns taking care of all the child's affairs. Of course, if the husband can accept Dink (childless family), then none of the above problems will exist.
The second requirement I make to my husband is to be fair and just in the division of household chores. I proposed that each person take turns for three and a half days of household chores, including cooking, washing dishes, mopping the floor, and doing laundry. If one party is unable to complete the project due to time constraints and needs the help of the other party, then the corresponding payment must be madeLabor costs。In addition, if a relative visits or stays overnight, each person is responsible for entertaining his or her own relatives, and if you need the help of the other person, you will also need to pay for itLabor costs
My third request is about holiday arrangements. I hope that I will not be forced to go to my husband's house for the New Year, and I want to maintain the right to choose freely on this issue. Now that we've implemented itAA system, I don't spend my husband's money, and he doesn't have to expect me to go to his house. As for taking care of my mother-in-law when she was seriously ill, I told my husband to followLabor costsI can settle my salary and nursing fee at one time. I think it's fair to do it, after all, the brothers are all settlers, not to mention that this is to take care of her parents. If my husband feels that I cannot meet his requirements, he can choose another caregiver on his own.
Conclusion: By making these three requests, I tried to make my husband realizeMarriageIt should be a relationship of mutual respect and understanding. However, the husband ended up joking that he wouldn't insistAA systemDegree. Still, the experience made me realizeMarriageSincere communication and mutual understanding between the two sides are required. For the financial problems between husband and wife, we should find a suitable and fair solution, instead of blindly clinging to itAA system。Only on the basis of mutual trust and support oursMarriagein order to be more stable and satisfied.